I dont smoke or drink

[dizzy bone]

I drink once in a blue moon, but I have seriously low tolerance so I know my limit. In high school I used to hang out with friends that wanted to drink CONSTANTLY like all the time. I lived in a country where the drinking culture is based around a hierarchy system... so the older guys in the group would always get the younger ones to drink... even if they knew you couldn't. Safe to say I got ****ed up almost every night. I realised I only drank because I wanted to fit into that culture and I also realised my friends were *******s for making me endure that. You gotta know when to cut them out. From your post it sounds like you're uncomfortable around your current friends... you have no reason to stay in a toxic relationship like that.

I'm 24 and I also don't smoke or drink (or go to bars etc.). I actually don't find it difficult to find like-minded people. Can I ask if you're currently working or in school? Because I found that as I got further in school more of the party animals were weeded out and a lot more of the people around me had similar values.

Yep I agree with this. As I got older I found people who went through the same **** as me and were just looking to chill and geek out on other interests. They weed out eventually.

 

[ams]

i actually know exactly how you feel. i'm only 19 but i've never smoked weed or went to any parties. i feel weird about it, especially how my boyfriend did all that stuff and had one night stands.. i don't want to ruin my body but part of me feels like a loser compared to him and i get jealous(?) i actually don't know what it is. anger? :x hearing about what he's done, NOT THAT I WANT TO BE that girl to him, i just don't like feeling like a loser. i know your feelings.

I think I found it the most difficult when I was your age. Like I said I'm in my mid twenties right now and I'm actually really proud that I've never done drugs or gotten drunk and hooked up with strangers. I felt the same way you're describing when I was around 18-20 though. It's confusing when everyone in your age group considers having war stories about drinking/partying to be pretty much the coolest, most valuable thing they can think of. Once you're into full adult life all of a sudden stability, a good career and lasting relationships are the things that everyone finds enviable. It's funny how the things that make someone seem like a loser completely reverse in a few short years.