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ThePayne22
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Any other demisexuals or others within the "Grey-A" range?
I just recently found out about demisexuality (always thought I was just weird; didn't know there was a term, lol) and was wondering how others deal when friends talk about physical attraction to others. I've kinda gotten used to it and can play along pretty well, but it can get pretty lonely not being able to talk about this kind of stuff with others, especially since a very small minority of people in LGBTQA groups are asexual. Feels like the A is really just tacked on as a formality.
Then again, that's mostly part of how this works out. My sexuality barely ever comes up in conversation, and when it does, I normally just claim to be bisexual (which is technically true), cause it's hard to explain demisexuality to people y'know?
Regardless, what do you all think about demisexuality?
Looking for some real conversation, but if you just wanna trash talk ironically/unironically, that's fine too. I've got tough skin, lol.
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I just recently found out about demisexuality (always thought I was just weird; didn't know there was a term, lol) and was wondering how others deal when friends talk about physical attraction to others. I've kinda gotten used to it and can play along pretty well, but it can get pretty lonely not being able to talk about this kind of stuff with others, especially since a very small minority of people in LGBTQA groups are asexual. Feels like the A is really just tacked on as a formality.
Then again, that's mostly part of how this works out. My sexuality barely ever comes up in conversation, and when it does, I normally just claim to be bisexual (which is technically true), cause it's hard to explain demisexuality to people y'know?
Regardless, what do you all think about demisexuality?
Looking for some real conversation, but if you just wanna trash talk ironically/unironically, that's fine too. I've got tough skin, lol.
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Just saw that there was a conversation about 10 pages ago. xD
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AndroGhostX
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I didn't add before but I'm attracted to males and I can't help that unfortunately :c I would love to be asexual yet I can't change what I am already.
oath2order
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Why do you want to be asexual
AndroGhostX
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Eh reasons that I don't want to speak of xD
ThePayne22
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Well you can be hetero/homosexual (don't know if you're a guy or girl, lol.) without being interested in having a relationship.
AndroGhostX
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Gregriii - Exactly xD
ThePayne - I don't associate myself as having a gender but I do hate my physical body and what gender I am physically. Possibly but then again I'm sure almost every human feels some sort of attraction toward someone. Those feelings are inevitable...
ThePayne - I don't associate myself as having a gender but I do hate my physical body and what gender I am physically. Possibly but then again I'm sure almost every human feels some sort of attraction toward someone. Those feelings are inevitable...
Second this so much. Being ace is so nice.
Being aro, however, is more confusing.
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It kind of sounds like you're talking about romantic attraction there, and aromanticism is a thing (and separate from asexuality). Like I mean I feel aesthetic attraction towards people of all sorts (like wow they're attractive) but I never have romantic feelings. I've been in a few romantic relationships and they've been weird and felt wrong to me.
AndroGhostX
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I wasn't talking about romantic attraction.
Ghost Soda
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i would hate being asexual, though.
How do you guys feel about the distinction between bisexuality, pansexuality, and polysexuality?
I really consider polysexuality to be a broader term that encompasses bi/pansexuality, but some people insist it's a completely different thing altogether...
Currently, I identify as bisexual (though technically I am a pansexual, I just don't feel the need to call myself by it and I also dislike having to explain it to everyone I meet) and I know that the reason pansexuality exists is because pan people reject the idea of binary genders (which I do as well, which is why I'm technically pan) but I was just wondering if anyone could explain why we need BOTH the terms polysexuality and pansexuality. And why some people get really offended if you call them pan when they're poly, vice versa, when they're, like... the same thing?
I really consider polysexuality to be a broader term that encompasses bi/pansexuality, but some people insist it's a completely different thing altogether...
Currently, I identify as bisexual (though technically I am a pansexual, I just don't feel the need to call myself by it and I also dislike having to explain it to everyone I meet) and I know that the reason pansexuality exists is because pan people reject the idea of binary genders (which I do as well, which is why I'm technically pan) but I was just wondering if anyone could explain why we need BOTH the terms polysexuality and pansexuality. And why some people get really offended if you call them pan when they're poly, vice versa, when they're, like... the same thing?
Bulbadragon
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They aren't exactly the same thing. From my understanding, polysexuality is when you're attracted to multiple genders, but not all. Pansexuality is when you're attracted to all genders. Bisexuality is when you're attracted to two or more genders. I personally think poly and bi are closer than poly and pan, since they can both be more than one but not all. But hey, I think people should be able to label themselves as what they feel comfortable calling themselves. If they say they're poly or pan or bi or whatever, just respect it. Even if you don't understand why that term is necessary.
AndroGhostX
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GhostSoda - Why is that?
Aliscka - There are so many sexualities these days. It seems almost unnecessary in a way by making sexuality more complicated than it should be. There may be a slight difference between poly and pan but they mean the same thing so I don't think we should be very technical about it. I don't think we need both terms in regards to that if we need two terms to broaden a sexuality defining an attraction to all genders but only an attraction to a certain aspect (age vs physical attraction) then shouldn't we need another sexuality to define being straight with those same aspects? The term bisexual irritates because it's more defined and exact relating to the attraction to both sexes while poly and pan are just the general term of being attracted to both sexes.
Aliscka - There are so many sexualities these days. It seems almost unnecessary in a way by making sexuality more complicated than it should be. There may be a slight difference between poly and pan but they mean the same thing so I don't think we should be very technical about it. I don't think we need both terms in regards to that if we need two terms to broaden a sexuality defining an attraction to all genders but only an attraction to a certain aspect (age vs physical attraction) then shouldn't we need another sexuality to define being straight with those same aspects? The term bisexual irritates because it's more defined and exact relating to the attraction to both sexes while poly and pan are just the general term of being attracted to both sexes.
yeah what bulbadragon said! for example, i'm homosexual and polyromantic. i'm attracted romantically to guys and non binary folk, but this could be bisexual as well!
but if you're comfortable with a label, use it <3
Ghost Soda
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from what i understand, being asexual is just being not interested in sex with others or something. that's just not for me is all.
some people describe bisexually by one gender + your gender. Pan is all gender i think though, idk.
raeofsunshine
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i identified as bisexual for the longest time (idk where i am now i've just drifted into queer territory i guess) but the definition of bisexuality that i found most helpful/easiest/fit the best was attracted to those of the same gender and those of other genders.
Which could be pansexuality at a technical level, but it also might not mean ALL genders, which pan does. there's also a heavy emphasis on putting the person/personality before the gender identity of a person. polysexuality functions more like bisexual in that definition as well. the thing that bothered/s me the most is/was people insisting i identify as pan and not bi because bi means TWO, and yeah, same and different that's two. i'm not attracted to everyone/putting personality before gender.
at the end of the day the difference is whatever the person identifying as that sexuality wants to make it. if it encompasses how they feel and what they feel comfortable with, more power to them.
Which could be pansexuality at a technical level, but it also might not mean ALL genders, which pan does. there's also a heavy emphasis on putting the person/personality before the gender identity of a person. polysexuality functions more like bisexual in that definition as well. the thing that bothered/s me the most is/was people insisting i identify as pan and not bi because bi means TWO, and yeah, same and different that's two. i'm not attracted to everyone/putting personality before gender.
at the end of the day the difference is whatever the person identifying as that sexuality wants to make it. if it encompasses how they feel and what they feel comfortable with, more power to them.
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