LGBTQA - Discussion and support.

[Fhyn_K]

No offense to you Bowie but that advise is absolutely terrible.

As for you Finnian, you are here and you are alive. That is the testament of your own strength and the strong bong with you and your fianc?. I cannot break down the situation that goes on with your family but at a certain point you have to make the best decisions for your own sanity. Being happy and doing what you have to to maintain it is not selfishness on your part. "Family" is not blood-ties and sharing a name but personal bonds with people you trust your life with. So when those people that bring you down under the guise of "love" and "support", they are not your family so cut them off. You owe nothing to them. If, for whatever reason, you cannot or don't want to then I wish you strength and solidarity. Let no one ruin or criticize your relationship with god.

You're in my thoughts dear much love to you!

 

[Moddie]

I really hate it when my extended family posts anti-gay bullcrap on facebook just to spite me.
Then turn around with crap like this:
"We understand your point of view, but for me and my brother / family, we don't support gay marriage. Yes we love you and we love people as they are, but we also believe that even if the world's standards change, God's standards won't. We choose to have faith that God knows what he's doing and if he says gay marriage does not follow his plan, then we choose to follow it. Sorry if that offends you."
Then proceed to quote scripture.
I really, really cannot stand the LDS church. Utah is probably the worst place for me to live.

That's the most un-Mormon thing your family could do to be honest. Mormonism is all about loving everyone even when you don't 'agree with their life choices' not that being gay is a life choice but that seems to be how the church sees it at times. Your family posting anti-gay stuff is just cruel and shows their ignorance. Sadly the church's view on gay marriage is clear and really dumb to be honest. It's okay to be gay but you must marry someone of the opposite sex? That's the stupidest thing I've ever heard. Also God's standards have changed. Like you said in another post the church now excepts black people, something it wouldn't do in the past.

Anyway, I'm sorry your family is so blinded by their religion. Have you considered leaving the church? I know that'd be difficult where you are. Anyway, I wish you and your partner all the happiness this world can bring. Don't let your family get to you. You don't owe them anything. By the sounds of it they're not even worth your time. If I were you, I'd cut my ties with them. I hope your closer family is more supportive.

 

[00ToxicLove00]

I'm glad to see this up! It's amazing to have support.

 

[radical6]

rest in peace blake brockington

 

[Jake]

No offense to you Bowie but that advise is absolutely terrible.

What are you talking about, bowies advice was almost as good as anything that comes outta my mouth

 

[Finnian]

Thank all you guys for your support.
;v;
I'm kinda done with those cousins anyway. They've always been holier than thou and thought they were better than everyone, so.
I'm done.

 

[Bowie]

I want to marry, live in New York or on an Icelandic mountain with great Internet connection, have a garden, my own vegetable patch, flowers everywhere, possibly solar panels so the money isn't too tight, at least one sheep to keep as a pet and travel to new and exciting places and have lots and lots of fun memories. I want to spend my time writing music, going to my neighbours and handing out fruit baskets and living like that with everyone I love forever.

That is my dream. It's very gay.

 

[oswaldies]

I want to marry, live in New York or on an Icelandic mountain with great Internet connection, have a garden, my own vegetable patch, flowers everywhere, possibly solar panels so the money isn't too tight, at least one sheep to keep as a pet and travel to new and exciting places and have lots and lots of fun memories. I want to spend my time writing music, going to my neighbours and handing out fruit baskets and living like that with everyone I love forever.

That is my dream. It's very gay.

You just stole my dream ;w;

 

[oath2order]

Icelandic mountain with great Internet connection

Normally I'd be like "yeah but it's a mountain good luck with that."

But Iceland seems to be a very forward-thinking company so this might be acheiveable.

 

[Bowie]

Normally I'd be like "yeah but it's a mountain good luck with that."

But Iceland seems to be a very forward-thinking company so this might be acheiveable.

They have Bj?rk. Trust me, it's achievable.

 

[Fhyn_K]

Light hearted topic.

So my roommate and I are laying down in bed together, then out of nowhere he brings up how come he and I never had been intimate. We don't want a relationship and it never crossed our minds to sleep with each other. So now we're cooking dinner and there's this charged sexual tension that I'm thoroughly enjoying.

 

[Beardo]

I just want to be able to wear an LGBTQA+ shirt anywhere, including school, without any judgement or comments. Ugh

 

[Ghost Soda]

I just want to be able to wear an LGBTQA+ shirt anywhere, including school, without any judgement or comments. Ugh

But what if it's a good comment, like "you're rockin that pride tee, girlfriend"?

 

[Heartcore]

Light hearted topic.

So my roommate and I are laying down in bed together, then out of nowhere he brings up how come he and I never had been intimate. We don't want a relationship and it never crossed our minds to sleep with each other. So now we're cooking dinner and there's this charged sexual tension that I'm thoroughly enjoying.

"That you're thoroughly enjoying" Lmao.

That's always the weird thing about any type of intimate relationship-it's never weird until it crosses one person's mind and they say it aloud.

I say dont do it, the tension will only be worse once you go through with it--or if the relations are bad, it could be even worse lol

 

[Beardo]

But what if it's a good comment, like "you're rockin that pride tee, girlfriend"?

I'd love that!

 

[Fhyn_K]

"That you're thoroughly enjoying" Lmao.

That's always the weird thing about any type of intimate relationship-it's never weird until it crosses one person's mind and they say it aloud.

I say dont do it, the tension will only be worse once you go through with it--or if the relations are bad, it could be even worse lol

Haha I know my brain is telling me the same thing but ugh you're right! I'll let this feeling sizzle until the dryness of the desert comes back into my life.

 

[radical6]

how r..heteromantic asexual/heterosexual aromantic ppl calling themselves queer
??????

 

[oath2order]

how r..heteromantic asexual/heterosexual aromantic ppl calling themselves queer
??????

I thought queer was a catch-all phrase?

 

[Fhyn_K]

I've had one too many cocktails and I don't want to make a thread so myeh.

There are times that I miss having a family. I've parted ways with my blood relatives many years ago because of differences in lifestyles and to clarify I don't miss them, I miss the concept of having people there when you need them. At times when I'm feeling extra emotional, I would walk around family-centric areas and watch the parents with their kids. Seeing them happy makes me happy and admittedly a little lonely. I've no idea if that has warped my personality, it probably has, but it makes certain achievements feel unimportant. I'm putting myself through college, I've been handling bills and rent, I've steered clear from drugs, I value no sex until there is commitment and history, etc. I'm proud of myself but next day it's just business as usual. I know this sounds sad but I'm really not lol. It's just what it is haha.

To add, I do have one person and that is my roomie, he is my person, my other half, all the great things in the world. We've recently dealt with the possibility of a relationship but I don't want my person to be my boyfriend or husband, though that is another topic for another day lol.

Word vomit.

 

[Moddie]

how r..heteromantic asexual/heterosexual aromantic ppl calling themselves queer
??????

This is the dumbest thing I've read in a while. Are you the sorta person who also thinks that bisexuals/pansexuals who are in opposite sex relationships shouldn't be allowed in queer spaces? Just like any other sexuality the gender of the person asexuals fall in love with doesn't change their sexuality. Heteromantic asexuals are just as important as other asexuals and still experience many things that they need support with. Asexuals even those who are heteromantic experience discrimination and most of them will have felt broken at some point in their life. There is no sexuality that is more queer than any other. To be queer simply means you are not both cisgender and hetrosexual. Heteromantic ≠ hetrosexual.

No matter how you look at it asexuals are queer, and the queer community should be welcoming to all queers. Asexuals often don't know where to turn and very rarely do they have local spaces dedicated to them. To refuse to acknowledge them as queer is to refuse them help and support. I am not a heteromantic asexual so I don't feel very comfortable talking for them, so here is a good article written by one: link.

Personally, I didn't know romantic attraction came under the queer umbrella. I've met plenty of aromantic people and none of them have ever considered themselves queer. And I've not heard of anyone who is openly aromantic within any queer spaces that wasn't also something else that could be called queer. I'm going to have to look further into it as I am not aromantic but if they want to call themselves queer they're not hurting anyone by doing so, so I don't see the problem.