You don't look appealing but I don't complain.
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You don't look appealing but I don't complain.
How would you like someone to react to your news of being
homosexual, genderfluid, transgender, transsexual, etc?
Would you prefer someone to be happy and congratulate you on coming out?
Or would you prefer a more neutral response?
I'm straight and live with an older sister whose pansexual and somewhat genderfluid, some
days she'll feel more like a man, other days more like a woman (excuse my feminine pronouns!).
When she came out, I kind of shrugged and said okay, it didn't bother me and it's not as if it
made any difference. Which she ended up thanking me for being neutral. xD
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visibleghost
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I'm trans and idk when I come out to my sister I'd like her to react like "okay then I know" and for her to start using the correct pronouns and name. If she has any questions she could ask them. My sister knows a lot about trans stuff though, so I'm not worried about her reacting in a bad way.
It would be a lot different if I had come out to my parents and they reacted like that though... but friends and siblings etc shouldn't really make that such a big deal about it imo ;; that would just be super awkward ;;
I made a thread about this not long ago.
Neutral response please, I'm more terrified of congratulations and cheering than being hated on.
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i would want them to just accept it, no unnecessary questions.
i mean my gender dysphoria is there..and i will explain it, but i wont answer anymore questions about what im gonna do abt it.
i dont really want a party either
of course i understand how coming out can be emotional bc some ppl face more homophobia/transmisogyny/transphobia etc than others.
KantoKraze
yes homo
slowly beginning to accept the fact that I won't be able to fully come out of the closet until i graduate; i definitely wouldn't want to put myself in any more danger in this household. It makes me a little sad though, my current girlfriend is very kind and understanding, but i don't want her to feel like she is hidden away from everyone in my life. she says it's not a big deal, but i want her to know that i do care about her and that she's one of the most important people in my life. sometimes i wish that i could be as confident about my sexuality irl as i am online. if only, if only.
I have a few girls from school pull me to the side or openly say they like me and would like to go out
And at first I'm like, I want to be in a relationship but then after thinking I'm like nah. I feel as though if we date I'm just going to be bored or maybe cause I'm too stress out to be in one like what can you do for me that I already can't do for myself? Maybe comfort. That seems nice. Basically anything that doesn't really involve sexual contact is nice
But then I feel like the girls who like me just like me cause I'm pretty then when we date I'm this btch and the cycle repeats
And at first I'm like, I want to be in a relationship but then after thinking I'm like nah. I feel as though if we date I'm just going to be bored or maybe cause I'm too stress out to be in one like what can you do for me that I already can't do for myself? Maybe comfort. That seems nice. Basically anything that doesn't really involve sexual contact is nice
But then I feel like the girls who like me just like me cause I'm pretty then when we date I'm this btch and the cycle repeats
I'm pansexual as well, and I'd like the response to just be neutral. I don't go around advertising it as I feel that would be weird. It'd be the equivalent of someone going around telling everyone close to them that they're straight. I know some people might say "but straight is the norm and we gay ppl are the minority". I don't see myself as any different. My sexual preference is my business, and should have no weight on how people treat me. So when I tell someone that I'm pansexual, I usually tell them as if it's no big deal, and the response is usually in the same tone, like it doesn't matter. I much prefer that than having someone be rly excited or judgmental about it. It concerns me when they are excited about it. If they're gay themselves, then I can somewhat understand where their excitement is coming from. However, if they're not gay, then their excitement creeps me out a bit.
my first time posting in this thread, hello! 
i'm 18, asexual and tbh it makes me cringe when people ask me about having a boyfriend (i feel slightly silly for it >.< ) and she/her pronouns.
also I might not post here much bc i'm on/off hiatus (depending on my college workload lol)
i'm 18, asexual and tbh it makes me cringe when people ask me about having a boyfriend (i feel slightly silly for it >.< ) and she/her pronouns.also I might not post here much bc i'm on/off hiatus (depending on my college workload lol)
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my first time posting in this thread, hello!
also I might not post here much bc i'm on/off hiatus (depending on my college workload lol)
i'm asexual (n aromantic) as well and i totally feel u, it's like... welll........... uh... n o.
and then some people talk like romantic love is the only thing that makes someone human or whatever and that makes me feel like "-___- "
visibleghost
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@lencurryboy hello!!
yeah i agree on both things!!
it'd be a lot nicer if people and the media were nicer and more open to people not being super masculine or feminine or not falling in love )x
definetly. I also think the media (and schools) should inform ppl about sexualities and gender identities, as the place I learnt about asexuality was tumblr (i just hope no one critisizes me for this but i'm sure no one on here would, someone did once and even called me na?ve for believing tumblr, when in my opinion without tumblr I wouldn't have learnt what these things were)
visibleghost
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yeah i think that too
when when spoke about hbtq for the first time in class they said "hbt means homosexual, bisexual and transsexual ok that's it" and then let homophobes talk about how they would beat their friend up if he said he was gay................
we've learnt about it like once after that and then it was better, but still super brief. I think I haven't even heard the word asexual or aromantic being used in my school by teachers......... which is like...... well........ really ugh....
eurgh, homophobes >.< they really irritate me, if it's not your life dont judge others for theirs :I and yeah, I think that before ppl teach others about sexualities and gender identities they should at least do the research and teach about all of them, not just a few bc the people that are usually taught these things are young kids and they should know these things rather than leaving them confused.
just updated my earlier post, forgot to mention a few things like my age lol oops & i hope nothing i'm posting here is problematic >.<
just updated my earlier post, forgot to mention a few things like my age lol oops & i hope nothing i'm posting here is problematic >.<
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