but did they call you a girl
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but did they call you a girl
im honestly really sick of my friends asking me if there are any boys i like in school and people making jokes about me liking boys that are a lot older and stuff.. it makes me really uncomfortable and i sort of want to tell my friends that i'm not attracted to boys but i'm worried that they might not want to be my friend anymore, even though i know a lot of kids who are openly gay in my grade. does anyone have any tips?
like no offence but get over it..
someone asked you why you were wearing female glasses, they could have assumed you were trans or gender-fluid or something
like why are you even bringing it up here...??
i would not say someone is born abusive
more likely mentally ill
but growing up in an abusive household and never learning how to cope leads to that, yes
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Get better friends. If they stop being friends with you for being gay, then news flash: they probably don't deserve to be friends with you anyway.
His/Her friends don't know that he/she's gay, if you read the comment properly.
It's easy to say stuff like "Stop being friends with X because of what he/she does/said." and honestly it's not helpful at all. In highschool/college or whatever this kid's in, it's not easy to make friends. Friends at those phases of life are luxuries that not everybody gets to have, so you should cherish whatever relationships you have with people and only work on strengthening them, not dismissing people because of what they don't know.
Keep them as friends. If you're truly close to them and feel comfortable telling them that you're gay then do it! I wish my friend came out to me earlier than she did because I know for certain we would be so much closer had she done so (and vice versa, I'm sure). If they accept you for who you are then that's good! If they don't, then explain to them why it's bad to judge people based on their sexualities, and even then if they're still uncooperative then the best case scenario would be to just un-friend them if there's nothing else you can do to help aid their ignorance.
Good luck!
thanks so much!
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honestly I feel sooooo silly for writing about this on an animal crossing forum (lmao idk why it just feels silly don't be offended pls) but I think..... that uh...... I might come out??? pretty soon??? probably won't right now because I need to think about it a lot (and then I might be too scared to do it but ye), but honestly I think it's the way to go right now? because now I have a reason to... I didn't think I could start transition (like even go to a psychiatrist about it) before I was 18, but apparently I could?
i'll have to tell my parents about being trans in order to do it... and I think I can do it... I just don't want everyone IRL to know right now. yea!!!! S OUHHHHHHHHH
does anyone have any good ideas about when or how to do it? I think I wanna tell my mom only first and then she can tell my dad... and yeah.... idk.... but is it like a super bad idea to be like "ayo mom can we talk for a sec" n then just be like "eeee i'm a boy" ;;;;
or llike just take a walk with my mom and say it then?? or like... aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa i'm gonna go scream for a min this is hard stuff
i'll have to tell my parents about being trans in order to do it... and I think I can do it... I just don't want everyone IRL to know right now. yea!!!! S OUHHHHHHHHH
does anyone have any good ideas about when or how to do it? I think I wanna tell my mom only first and then she can tell my dad... and yeah.... idk.... but is it like a super bad idea to be like "ayo mom can we talk for a sec" n then just be like "eeee i'm a boy" ;;;;
or llike just take a walk with my mom and say it then?? or like... aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa i'm gonna go scream for a min this is hard stuff
Just sit your mom down, tell her you wanna talk to her about something, and then tell her you're trans c: Make sure it's at a time when everyone is calm, just to be safe. Probably not very helpful lmao, but that's what I did when I told my best friend I'm bi. Once I got the courage to say it, I just did it and got it over with.
Also probably not very helpful but I will be cheering for you lol you will hear me all the way from america
Yeah I p much suck at actually helping lmao
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Yes, this too. Was gonna mention it but forgot whoopS
i'd honestly say see how your family reacts to the idea of trans people first.
i was going to come out to my family, i don't even live with them anymore but i was going to finally finally tell them im trans. until the caitlin jenner thing happened and i realixed my parents are judgmental pricks and do not support trans people what so ever.
I like a girl who is lesbian and I'm a boy XD Why sexuality why
and btw I am the only one that hates the term "coming out"?
I consider myself asexual (even though people consider me gay LOL) and I didn't know I had came out when I said it to my parents .-.
and btw I am the only one that hates the term "coming out"?
I consider myself asexual (even though people consider me gay LOL) and I didn't know I had came out when I said it to my parents .-.
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tysm everyone!! I'm sure my mom will be fine with it because she has like actually asked me if i would rather be a boy and said that she would support me if that was the case and stuff... uh... yeah. my dad is kind of eeeehh but I think he wants me to be happy so he'll probably be fine with it too.
nooo, you're not~
i mean, i'm not fond of the idea of it. i mean straight and cis kids don't have to come out to their parents about being straight and cis.. so i mean- it's pretty dumb that non-binary and gay kids feel the need to.
I'm very sorry for all the dumb questions I'm about to ask: I think I'm genderfluid, so I think a binder would help on "boy" days. Is there a way to make one? I own a lot of loose boy clothes but I can see it being an issue in the future. Does it fade and come back? Is this just a phase?
visibleghost
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not sure what you mean by fade and come back, if you mean your gender feelings they might be stronger at certain times in your life and not really that strong at other times. It might be a phase, but honestly even if it would be, if you feel genderfluid right now you are genderfluid, right? Like, it doesn't change your current identity.
I know a lot of trans people who first thought they were something but then later changed their identity to fit them better or becasue their feelings of gender had changed. They all still identify as trans though, just in a different way.
About binding, yeah you could make one yourself. But you always have to consider your safety. Binding can be dangerous, you could hurt your ribs soooooo badly and it could mess up a ton of stuff.
That's why it's a lot better to get a "real" (profesionally made) binder, because they are safer.
that being said, buying a binder isn't an option for a lot of people, myself included. Most days I deal with it and wear loose clothing, but I actually do have a homemade binder I made out of an old and way too tight swimsuit.
I think Alex Bertie explains how he did his in this video, not sure if it's easy to follow though.
I'm not sure how safe it is, but I have worn mine for way longer than I should have and have only gotten a bit sore.
But basically, if you're going to start binding you will want to know a few things
1. You should always be able to breathe properly.
2. Don't exercise, sleep, sing or play a instrument that you need a lot of air to play (like the trumpet or something) in your binder
3. always take it off if it hurts
4. if it hurts a lot, see a doctor
5. if it hurts, don't wear the binder until it stops hurting
6. don't wear it for too long. I've heard that 6-8 hours is fine. (I have bound for longer than that but I don't think it's good for you)
7. don't ever ever ever use ace bandages or any kind of wrap, you will probably get seriously hurt.
8. if someone tells you about some way of binding online don't immediately trust them. A lot of people bind unsafely without knowing it. (so maybe the swimsuit diy thing isn't a great idea. It works for me but I don't wear it every day.)
Also an alterantive to a binder is wearing two sport bras on top of each other. I think one backwards and one the right way or something makes it flatter??
idk i've probably forgotten stuff but.... ye. good luck ;;
visibleghost
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that sounds like a great idea! You could always just take one of the bras off before PE if you want, but yeah :>
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