LGBTQA - Discussion and support.

[visibleghost]

Yep it's very annoying, not for the fact of being "forced" to "come out" but because they have the strict stereotype of girls are for boys and boys are for girls y'know and that bothers me, either way I still had to answer but he rephrased the question like this " Then what do you first see in a PERSON" I mean, couldn't he just say girls? women? ladies? xD

yeah.
some people are just SO AWKWARd when the realise that not everyone is cishet and when you call them out they just go "OH UM WELL UH-"
like they don't need to be super educated and perfect, but honestly it's just embarrassing when they do that...

 

[boujee]

i got confessed today

 

[gem83]

Oh no what did I start ._. I'm so sorry omg I didnt mean to do this D:

 

[The Sundae]

Sorry, what's gnc? Can't say I've heard that before.

GNC = Gender non-conforming.

Oh no what did I start ._. I'm so sorry omg I didnt mean to do this D:

Do what? I checked the last couple of pages and I did not see your sins what you did to cause anything.

EDIT: I looked back a few pages further, and I think I see what you mean. You didn't cause anything Gem. This thread just took a turn down "I hate people who do biphobic things" road because we were talking about bisexuality - people are mostly just venting a little bit, but no one's actually mad and choking someone. It's not your fault, but sorry if you feel that way.

 

[oath2order]

GNC = Gender non-conforming.



Do what? I checked the last couple of pages and I did not see your sins what you did to cause anything.

I feel like that should have been obvious to me. Woops!

 

[The Sundae]

I feel like that should have been obvious to me. Woops!

Nah, it actually took me a few moments to get it too. Mostly because I don't see the phrase abbreviated that often either.

 

[radical6]

Sorry, what's gnc? Can't say I've heard that before.

I wish they'd do what they did with Her on the gay male apps tho

do women really pretend to go on grindr thats so weird
well i guess ive seen women catfish and pretend theyre hotter than they actually are, never seen one lie about their gender tho

i heard grindr has a lot of spambots though, so if they were to set up a verification system it would require a lot of cleaning. Her was exclusive since the start. (theres still men who complain about not being let in im like bro its for lesbians/wlw)

also, forgot to mention, i currently have 2 male friends who have a crush on me, and i honestly have no idea what to say to them. one of them probably wants to save me from my "sin" bc hes a hardcore mormon and u know gays = sin. the others too old for my tastes

they always ask if im a lesbian lmao

i go back and forth between saying im bi or a lesbian, but even my gender is complicated (i have gender dysphoria but i dont really mind being called a woman anymore) so honestly? i just can't care at this point.

dating is so tiring. i don't have the time or energy for it. i'm constantly busy after school and **** bc im in a lot of clubs as well so idk what to tell them. i mean im flattered, but i also prefer girls a lot more over men. i mean maybe id give a guy a chance, but ive only dated girls, and i cant find men attractive. (only guys ive found hot is the actor for Minho in the maze runner.. hes hot as hell tbh)

rip me

 

[oath2order]

do women really pretend to go on grindr thats so weird
well i guess ive seen women catfish and pretend theyre hotter than they actually are, never seen one lie about their gender tho

i heard grindr has a lot of spambots though, so if they were to set up a verification system it would require a lot of cleaning. Her was exclusive since the start. (theres still men who complain about not being let in im like bro its for lesbians/wlw)

also, forgot to mention, i currently have 2 male friends who have a crush on me, and i honestly have no idea what to say to them. one of them probably wants to save me from my "sin" bc hes a hardcore mormon and u know gays = sin. the others too old for my tastes

they always ask if im a lesbian lmao

i go back and forth between saying im bi or a lesbian, but even my gender is complicated (i have gender dysphoria but i dont really mind being called a woman anymore) so honestly? i just can't care at this point.

dating is so tiring. i don't have the time or energy for it. i'm constantly busy after school and **** bc im in a lot of clubs as well so idk what to tell them. i mean im flattered, but i also prefer girls a lot more over men. i mean maybe id give a guy a chance, but ive only dated girls, and i cant find men attractive. (only guys ive found hot is the actor for Minho in the maze runner.. hes hot as hell tbh)

rip me

Nah, it's not women on Grindr, it's more of spambots. They'd have to start over from scratch.

 

[Noroxus]

Well I am gay and I live in a small town and go to a small school (17 atm). And its pretty impossible to come out here because it is such a strict society ruleset here apparently. I don't know any other gay man at my school because of that. Some of my close friends know and I think some of my classmates suspect it aswell, because I never talk about woman or anything related to them. However I am not one the fem. gays and I act like a normal straight guy.
Honestly it can be so tiring to be gay here. No LGBT club or anything of that sort... NOTHING. I wouldn't mind coming out at all, but doing it would probably only cause me problems, so I dont think that I am going to do that :x

But whatever when I finish school I am getting the heck outta this place to meet new people lol.

 

[Shawna]

I am pansexual and proud.
I have never been in a relationship, but I do know what kind of person I want in a relationship. I just want someone that will accept, appreciate, and love me for who I am. I also took a quiz a while back to find out if I was pansexual and I passed.
No one should feel bad about their own romantic orientation. You are who you are! <3

 

[Bowie]

I have a question. Now, keep in mind that I'm gay myself and I don't believe being gay is a choice.

Does the relationship you have with your father have any impact on your sexuality? I've always thought mine was all right, but I heard about it quite a while ago and it's been stuck in my head ever since. The theory is that if you have a bad relationship with your father, you will seek that kinda relationship with another man. Obviously you're not looking for another father, but that's supposedly the psychology behind it. Again, I don't believe being gay is a choice. I'm just curious. Does any gay man here have a good relationship with their father?

 

[tumut]

I have a question. Now, keep in mind that I'm gay myself and I don't believe being gay is a choice.

Does the relationship you have with your father have any impact on your sexuality? I've always thought mine was all right, but I heard about it quite a while ago and it's been stuck in my head ever since. The theory is that if you have a bad relationship with your father, you will seek that kinda relationship with another man. Obviously you're not looking for another father, but that's supposedly the psychology behind it. Again, I don't believe being gay is a choice. I'm just curious. Does any gay man here have a good relationship with their father?

I never met my dad and I'm gay, not sure about that theory, but at least that's better than the theory about the siblings. And yeah sexuality isn't a choice.

 

[radical6]

I have a question. Now, keep in mind that I'm gay myself and I don't believe being gay is a choice.

Does the relationship you have with your father have any impact on your sexuality? I've always thought mine was all right, but I heard about it quite a while ago and it's been stuck in my head ever since. The theory is that if you have a bad relationship with your father, you will seek that kinda relationship with another man. Obviously you're not looking for another father, but that's supposedly the psychology behind it. Again, I don't believe being gay is a choice. I'm just curious. Does any gay man here have a good relationship with their father?

my birth dad was abusive and hit me
my stepdad sexually abused me

im not sexually attracted to men. I find sex with men repulsive and I usually start crying even thinking about it. Dating men romantically is very hard for me as well, so I usually prefer dating women because I feel safer.

maybe? idk.

I wouldn't say having "daddy issues" makes you gay. If anything, it's very common for abuse victims to seek out partners that remind them of their abusers.

 

[milkday]

um. i feel sorta like a boy sometimes (like halloween, when i purposely tried to hide my chest more) but then i feel like a girl sometimes and then i feel like none sometimes. is this normal? i'm so confused ;~;

 

[Dinosaurz]

um. i feel sorta like a boy sometimes (like halloween, when i purposely tried to hide my chest more) but then i feel like a girl sometimes and then i feel like none sometimes. is this normal? i'm so confused ;~;

Probably hormones.

 

[visibleghost]

um. i feel sorta like a boy sometimes (like halloween, when i purposely tried to hide my chest more) but then i feel like a girl sometimes and then i feel like none sometimes. is this normal? i'm so confused ;~;

i think you should think about it more and read about transgender stuff online. It might just be normal teenage insicurity and stuff, but I think it's worth looking into.

 

[oath2order]

I have a question. Now, keep in mind that I'm gay myself and I don't believe being gay is a choice.

Does the relationship you have with your father have any impact on your sexuality? I've always thought mine was all right, but I heard about it quite a while ago and it's been stuck in my head ever since. The theory is that if you have a bad relationship with your father, you will seek that kinda relationship with another man. Obviously you're not looking for another father, but that's supposedly the psychology behind it. Again, I don't believe being gay is a choice. I'm just curious. Does any gay man here have a good relationship with their father?

Just want to add on to this, does any lesbian here have a good relationship with their mother?

 

[Esphas]

um. i feel sorta like a boy sometimes (like halloween, when i purposely tried to hide my chest more) but then i feel like a girl sometimes and then i feel like none sometimes. is this normal? i'm so confused ;~;

http://gender.wikia.com/wiki/Gender_Fluid
http://gender.wikia.com/wiki/Gender_flux

read up on this, it may help. and yeah its perfectly normal

 

[milkday]

I guess I feel genderfluid... I have been feeling like that more and more, only I had a "this could never happen to me" mentality

 

[Esphas]

I guess I feel genderfluid... I have been feeling like that more and more, only I had a "this could never happen to me" mentality

gender can be pretty volatile, so feeling like it couldnt happen to you is natural. its nothing to be disheartened about though, and its nothing to be ashamed of or anything. if you start getting gender dysphoria or it starts to trouble you a little bit, id consider wearing gender neutral/unisex clothing. hopefully this way you wont feel too uncomfortable if a sudden change of gender occurs. also this way people wont ask questions if youre not comfortable about people knowing