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visibleghost
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sure, that would probably work out. are you allowed to wear hats in your school? otherwise I think a ponytail or something works, it doesn't hide it per se, but it makes the hair get out of your face and isn't super feminine. I always had my hair in a (really ugly but ye....) ponytail before I cut my hair. ^^
I have a question to all genderqueer people: Have you always sort of known that are genderqueer or did the topic arise over time?
I mean, for example, in the past before I started questioning my sexuality, I would have never thought I could be anything but straight. The questioning just started some day out of the nowhere so to speak.
I was wondering how this is for trans and genderqueer people in general, have you always felt like that or did you suddenly feel like this one day without having expected it?
I mean, for example, in the past before I started questioning my sexuality, I would have never thought I could be anything but straight. The questioning just started some day out of the nowhere so to speak.
I was wondering how this is for trans and genderqueer people in general, have you always felt like that or did you suddenly feel like this one day without having expected it?
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visibleghost
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I'm trans and I think I always knew something was off? And I remember thinking for a long time about just gender stuff and that if I would have been allowed to choose my gender I would have been a boy and stuff like that, but honestly I actually realised it just boom all at once after watching a short film.
Now when I'm looking back at what I thought and did before I knew I was trans I can definitely see "signs" or whatever, and I had always kind of felt the way I feel about gender... I just hadn't known what it meant, if that makes sense?
When I was little I remember always being more of a "tomboy" and I never thought it was more than that. Only in the past year or so did I realize that maybe I'm not cis. I still don't even know what to call myself, I just know it's definitely not cis. The closest description is just non-binary. Sometimes I'll switch pronouns, sometimes not.
Can't say the same for my sexuality lmao I've always known I'm bi af I don't think I ever called myself straight
am i the only one who thinks everything AVEN stands for is bull****
sorry like im asexual too but the **** they pull is astounding to me. monosexual privilege. allosexual privilege. amazing
monosexual is just as disgusting as the term bihet, yet why do people use that term? its so stupid. literally.
AVEN has literally made lgbt tumblr a mess for me.
I have seen so many posts by AVEN type of people making fun of the goddamn AIDS crisis. I'm upset how much AVEN has ruined the ace community for me. I am sex repulsed, but I literally can't stand AVEN.
Look, I get asexuals/aromantics get ****, but AVEN is not the resource I want ace people to have. All AVEN is doing is causing a divide in the community by pushing this idea that it's the ****ed Up Monogays from Hell's fault that ace people don't have as much recognition.
Visbility /=/ privilege
Having a lack of sexual or romantic attraction doesn't mean you're oppressed? I agree there is a stigma, but I'm getting way too tired of AVEN pushing this agenda that gay men and lesbian women are to blame for the lack of ace awareness. They are borderline homophobic. They make fun of the AIDS crisis. They think all gay men and lesbians do is have angry sex with each other like animals.
I'm tired of this sneaky homophobia by AVEN. They're just as annoying as FKH8.
They seem to think that the opposite of asexuality is hypersexuality. Which is incredibily damaging.
I've seen them call hypersexual people sluts or animals. Hypersexuality forms as a reaction from sexual abuse usually... and it disgusts me how much these people mock them. Or they think that, like every non asexual person acts like this?
I'm just tired of AVEN and this whole bull****. No one in the LGBT community wants asexuals to die. But when you start saying lesbians and gay men are somehow the reason asexuals dont have visibility or you start blaming people for their sexual attraction then stuff goes downhill with me.
It's just so incredibily tiring to see posts on my dash from ace positivty blogs condemming lesbians and gay men. I don't even know how we went full circle. But we did, and now we have this weird justified attempt at homophobia and lesbophobia. Amazing.
tldr: i hate AVEN and it made me rant because AVEN is literally the reason why the lgbt community on tumblr is falling apart
sorry like im asexual too but the **** they pull is astounding to me. monosexual privilege. allosexual privilege. amazing
monosexual is just as disgusting as the term bihet, yet why do people use that term? its so stupid. literally.
AVEN has literally made lgbt tumblr a mess for me.
I have seen so many posts by AVEN type of people making fun of the goddamn AIDS crisis. I'm upset how much AVEN has ruined the ace community for me. I am sex repulsed, but I literally can't stand AVEN.
Look, I get asexuals/aromantics get ****, but AVEN is not the resource I want ace people to have. All AVEN is doing is causing a divide in the community by pushing this idea that it's the ****ed Up Monogays from Hell's fault that ace people don't have as much recognition.
Visbility /=/ privilege
Having a lack of sexual or romantic attraction doesn't mean you're oppressed? I agree there is a stigma, but I'm getting way too tired of AVEN pushing this agenda that gay men and lesbian women are to blame for the lack of ace awareness. They are borderline homophobic. They make fun of the AIDS crisis. They think all gay men and lesbians do is have angry sex with each other like animals.
I'm tired of this sneaky homophobia by AVEN. They're just as annoying as FKH8.
They seem to think that the opposite of asexuality is hypersexuality. Which is incredibily damaging.
I've seen them call hypersexual people sluts or animals. Hypersexuality forms as a reaction from sexual abuse usually... and it disgusts me how much these people mock them. Or they think that, like every non asexual person acts like this?
I'm just tired of AVEN and this whole bull****. No one in the LGBT community wants asexuals to die. But when you start saying lesbians and gay men are somehow the reason asexuals dont have visibility or you start blaming people for their sexual attraction then stuff goes downhill with me.
It's just so incredibily tiring to see posts on my dash from ace positivty blogs condemming lesbians and gay men. I don't even know how we went full circle. But we did, and now we have this weird justified attempt at homophobia and lesbophobia. Amazing.
tldr: i hate AVEN and it made me rant because AVEN is literally the reason why the lgbt community on tumblr is falling apart
what is AVEN
oath2order
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bihet? Like, bisexual+heterosexual?
okay that just ain't right.
Asexual Visibility and Education Network
bihet is what lesbians and gay men sometimes call bi people for whatever reason
aven is such a mess just look at their wiki. they have a ****ing sexuality for WANTING TO RAISE CHILDREN. i dont understand why or how. its just a mess
their members are straight and cis and say really homophobic **** under the disguise of ace activism and its awful. just look at the allosexual and monosexual privilege tags on tumblr jfc
im having some issues with figuring out what to label myself as. ive been labeling myself as asexual for around four years now and my friend of the opposite sex is just making me confused tbh. we've known each other for two years now and hes one of the closest guy friends ive had to actually show he cares and everything. we're actually not as close as we used to be anymore and like--idk how to explain it ._. i cant imagine seeing myself in a relationship with him and i dont have any sexual fantasies about him either, yet i still get those typical feelings you get when you have a crush. we stopped talking for like a month now bc im just trying to shut him out of my life bc hes been causing a lot of stress for me fr various reasons but i still cant get him off my mind at all
another thing..ah, so based off of experiences with having this happen with dirty fckboys, i noticed that i dont get those crush symptoms unless they act like theyre trying to create a bond with me or make an effort to talk to me every day. i know well that all theyre trying to do is get some netflix and chill action and i have no desire to go out with them at all, yet as i already mentioned, i still get those feelings and my apologies if that doesnt make sense
another thing..ah, so based off of experiences with having this happen with dirty fckboys, i noticed that i dont get those crush symptoms unless they act like theyre trying to create a bond with me or make an effort to talk to me every day. i know well that all theyre trying to do is get some netflix and chill action and i have no desire to go out with them at all, yet as i already mentioned, i still get those feelings and my apologies if that doesnt make sense
oath2order
#Porygon2024
So what you're saying is you feel like you're in a romantic relationship with him because you get those feelings, but you don't actually want a romantic relationship?
I mean, from the sounds of it, you're somewhere on demiromantic or something along those lines.
no i dont feel like im in a romantic relationship with him, you got the last part right though
crystalchild
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pretty sure "bihet" is supposed to mean "bisexual in a heterosexual relationship."
which is just another biphobic concept, as though being in a hetero relationship somehow makes you "less bi."
oath2order
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But you said you get the feelings like a crush. Kinda same thing
Celestefey
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Hm, so I was wondering if someone could help me out here with this? I've been kind of struggling with a little gender issue for a little while now, and it's just come out from no where. I've never really struggled with knowing my gender until now, I used to be very firmly sure I was female, but... Now, I've got this weird feeling inside of me.
It's weird, and I'm unsure of how to explain it. I suppose maybe I'm having... An identity issue? Like, I'm suddenly seeing myself in a new way, and it's different to how I felt I was before. Before, I was quite feminine, I knew I was female, I was happy being known as a female and being referred to with she/her pronouns. But something's changed. I'm not suddenly feeling like I am a boy, but... Rather, something in between. I know that I'm not a boy, but... I'm not a female, either. I want to say I'm gender neutral, but even then, I'm not sure whether it's that either, I always visualised gender neutrality as being like in between male and female, but maybe I was just ignorant and only thought that because I didn't KNOW what it was or what it was like. It's really weird. I'm happy with being referred to with female pronouns, but... Am I female? I feel like, I am my own gender. If there were a Lucy gender, then that would be me. If I could make my own gender... That would be easier. Because, I still feel slightly feminine, and I do like stereotypically feminine things, but at the same time, I feel like I am gender neutral? Like... I'm not completely female. I suppose to put it simply: I feel like my gender is not really defining who I am anymore, and I'm instead my own person, and I don't want my gender to dictate who I am. I feel like I am gender neutral, maybe, possibly. I'm still happy with she/her pronouns, but they/them also sounds... Right, for me too?
I don't know, I could be talking out of my ass for all I know. xD Maybe I am just female and I'm just having a weird identity crisis. But I don't know, I thought maybe I could reach out to other people on here who may also have felt the same way as me? Or at least, get a bit of clarification on what I'm feeling...
It's weird, and I'm unsure of how to explain it. I suppose maybe I'm having... An identity issue? Like, I'm suddenly seeing myself in a new way, and it's different to how I felt I was before. Before, I was quite feminine, I knew I was female, I was happy being known as a female and being referred to with she/her pronouns. But something's changed. I'm not suddenly feeling like I am a boy, but... Rather, something in between. I know that I'm not a boy, but... I'm not a female, either. I want to say I'm gender neutral, but even then, I'm not sure whether it's that either, I always visualised gender neutrality as being like in between male and female, but maybe I was just ignorant and only thought that because I didn't KNOW what it was or what it was like. It's really weird. I'm happy with being referred to with female pronouns, but... Am I female? I feel like, I am my own gender. If there were a Lucy gender, then that would be me. If I could make my own gender... That would be easier. Because, I still feel slightly feminine, and I do like stereotypically feminine things, but at the same time, I feel like I am gender neutral? Like... I'm not completely female. I suppose to put it simply: I feel like my gender is not really defining who I am anymore, and I'm instead my own person, and I don't want my gender to dictate who I am. I feel like I am gender neutral, maybe, possibly. I'm still happy with she/her pronouns, but they/them also sounds... Right, for me too?
I don't know, I could be talking out of my ass for all I know. xD Maybe I am just female and I'm just having a weird identity crisis. But I don't know, I thought maybe I could reach out to other people on here who may also have felt the same way as me? Or at least, get a bit of clarification on what I'm feeling...
I've recently accepted that I'm somewhere among the bisexual-pansexual spectrum but the more I self reflect the more confused I feel. I've tried thinking of my life as a "blank canvas" as if there were no familial/cultural expectations what kind of person do I see myself with? Some days I feel I see myself with someone who is more feminine, some days more masculine...but recently I feel like the only thing I'm attracted to besides my partner (who is a male) are members of the same sex. I don't know if I even want to label myself, but I do know it took a lot to accept that an attraction for the same sex exists for me in the first place.
you could identify as agender (someone who doesn't have a gender identity, or someone who is genderless) or graygender (someone who is ambivalent about their gender identity but partially identifies with a nonbinary gender), but you don't have to identify with anything if you don't want to c:
hope this has helped!
(sorry if it's not really all that clear to understand >.< )
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