PastelPrincess
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they sent me to america to "study" but i suppose you can say i was kicked out
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im sorry to hear that, but at least you're away from their bs now. are you doing fine financially? if they just kicked you out like that with no support overseas.. that is a **** move.
PastelPrincess
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im doing ok, i could be better but this is as good as it gets when you're riddled with student loans. if it weren't for my minority and music scholarships i would probably not even be making it work somehow
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that is so ****ed up
are u doing alright
Oh man, I'm so sorry to hear that :/ Hope you're OK. Are you still in touch with your parents, I mean, do you talk to them on the phone sometimes or is there no contact at all?
PastelPrincess
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no we don't talk anymore, they used to contact me asking if i wasn't gay anymore though that stopped about a year ago
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i'm getting by somehow. i saw this thread and thought it might be nice to spill this to some people who arent trying to get into my pants or saying i just havent met the right guy
im so sorry this is happening. i honestly dont know how hard this must have been on you. if you need anyone to talk to then dont hesitate to send a pm, i have high hopes of your situation getting better
i'm really sorry, that's so awful to hear. it's upsetting how many parents are still close-minded and unaccepting
Oh yeah, and this is kinda me stating the obvious. But I'm no longer homophobic and am currently accepting my true sexuality. I am what I would believe is identified as androsexual (people who like masculinity) because I like guys and tomboys. However, I have very little interest in being in relationships with girls in general and aren't attracted to them really romantically or sexually, so I just identify myself as homosexual.
I've came out to a couple of my freinds. However, I still have yet to come out to my parents because I feel they will ask invasive questions (e.g.and constantly bug me about it. They already don't like the fact that I'm agnostic. I know they'll accept me no matter what, but still.
I've came out to a couple of my freinds. However, I still have yet to come out to my parents because I feel they will ask invasive questions (e.g.and constantly bug me about it. They already don't like the fact that I'm agnostic. I know they'll accept me no matter what, but still.
So, something pretty traumatic happened to me yesterday evening... I've mentionned here before that I'm not very comfortable with my sexuality, and thus don't mention it to people unless I feel really close to someone.
Well, recently I came out to someone in my kickboxing class who I believed to be a friend. Oh I was so wrong. She told everyone, and it turns out my female kickboxing classmates are a bunch of *****es. They complained to management and I now do not have the right to use the changing room or showers there. Yeah. They told me in a very matter of fact way "you know, it makes other girls uncomfortable. It's normal. It's nothing against you, try to understand." I said "sure, ok" and left, I was pretty shocked and didn't know what else to say. I got home and bawled for hours. I have never dealt with discrimination before.
I have a kickboxing evaluation next monday, and I don't know if I can bring myself to go. Hell, I don't know if I can ever go back.
Well, recently I came out to someone in my kickboxing class who I believed to be a friend. Oh I was so wrong. She told everyone, and it turns out my female kickboxing classmates are a bunch of *****es. They complained to management and I now do not have the right to use the changing room or showers there. Yeah. They told me in a very matter of fact way "you know, it makes other girls uncomfortable. It's normal. It's nothing against you, try to understand." I said "sure, ok" and left, I was pretty shocked and didn't know what else to say. I got home and bawled for hours. I have never dealt with discrimination before.
I have a kickboxing evaluation next monday, and I don't know if I can bring myself to go. Hell, I don't know if I can ever go back.
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this. or when they are obviously narrow-minded and/or naive asf and act thereafter. I mean it wouldn't hurt to get some facts and stop making rude comments. :/
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Oh my god, I could bare reading this without becoming enraged. If that was me, somebody, if anybody was not going to come home unscathed. That was like, the definition of homophobia.
@titi, sorry that happened to you. its so frustrating, irritating and scary, when the people in power, that you would normally complain to are homophobic & ignorant too and don't get it that you are the victim in this situation. makes you feel so powerless. you're right to be shocked by this, its not acceptable.
just know that you don't have to endure it, you don't have to win them over or change their minds. it's not a safe environment. there are other spots, where you can practice your sport and hobbies in peace.
if they say any more to you or if you decide to quit, make it clear that they are being homophobic and ignorant and that their behaviour is unacceptable. (maybe you can even ask for money back, if the club costs money idk, if you quit pre- evaluation, due to harassment idk) don't eat everything up. do you have friends irl, you can talk to about this? when you're not out or comfortable with yourself, dealing with such things can be difficult.
also make sure to block this person on social media, if you added her anywhere and delete her number.
just know that you don't have to endure it, you don't have to win them over or change their minds. it's not a safe environment. there are other spots, where you can practice your sport and hobbies in peace.
if they say any more to you or if you decide to quit, make it clear that they are being homophobic and ignorant and that their behaviour is unacceptable. (maybe you can even ask for money back, if the club costs money idk, if you quit pre- evaluation, due to harassment idk) don't eat everything up. do you have friends irl, you can talk to about this? when you're not out or comfortable with yourself, dealing with such things can be difficult.
also make sure to block this person on social media, if you added her anywhere and delete her number.
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It's a weird one, but in the UK you can't ask things like that at an interview, but almost all jobs will ask you things like that on the job application, so they can monitor 'equality and diversity' in their workplace. When you submit an application, the personal information is sent to one part of the company, and isn't seen by the people who are hiring you, to make sure prejudices are kept to a minimum.
There's a lot of protection in place for LGBT people in the UK, and even if people do have private prejudices, it's extremely socially unacceptable to voice them, and doing so in a workplace can get you fired. I'm working in a place that's rural and pretty small-town minded, but nobody's batted an eyelid when I've mentioned my ex girlfriend in conversation.
Which makes it even more awful to read about awful stuff like Titi and PastelPrincess' situations
It's terrible that people can be so horrible and face no consequences.screw them! thats so awful and difficult :/. don't waste more time and energy being upset about them, you can make your own family & friends that love you! <3
hope your sister is ok too. do you still have contact online?
anyway, it's not good to deal with these things all alone long-term, so thanks for sharing and glad you got it out. ^^
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Oh my, I'm so sorry :c That must have been really hard for you. Are you at least happy to be in America now or would you rather go back to Korea?
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@ titi
I'm sorry that happened to you. I understand that this was traumatic for you too. My advice for you is not to stay there any longer because seriously, I don't think they'll change their minds anytime soon and they will probably continue to act weird/homophobic towards you. There is certainly another place to do kickboxing somewhere near you where it's safer.
This. Don't dare give them anymore of your money. They're douchebags. That's insane that a professional place would act like that.
Wow, just holy shizz. I hope you're doing alright
Also I wouldn't say it's normal to be that phobic.. :/And yeah, I'm very careful to who I spill stuff too since I have really large trust issues(not only these things but in general) because a lot of people are like this and they have no idea what it is (in cases they are just as naive and doesn't want to know).
I don't know how your situation is in general if you could talk to someone else(or anyone responsible for your class). Also obviously it's something against you for them whether they're not educated on it or they don't want to grasp different subjects. I hope you can make it some way, don't let them win over you.
Also if it's that bad you could leave the club, if they are gonna continue that act they are not worth it either.
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PastelPrincess
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I would love to go back but I would never fully be able to "go back" if you get what I mean.
Yeah, sadly a lot of people are uneducated on these topics so they don't really know how to react to it and just go along with those people not into it that are complaining. One could wish that stuff would be a must to know if you want to be a leader/coach nowdays.
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