Long distance love challenge

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You have my support, if you need someone to talk about just count with me. I've had a long distant relationship for a year and we are now living together for almost 4. I know how painful it can be and how worth it.

Good luck to both of you

I'm glad everything has gone well for you! Thanks so much for your support :3 Good luck to you too!

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Wait, you are 14 and already talking about getting married? wat

Yup

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Day 19 did either of you ever think you would be in an LDR (before you met)? I never thought I’d have a partner! I always used to dream about being with someone but I never thought it would happen to me! I still can’t believe how lucky I am now! I always used to think all my future would hold was a life on a house-boat with a dog, writing poems about life lol. I always knew LDR’s existed but I never thought about being in one myself, but now it’s my entire life! -Beth

No, I didn’t even know I’d have a relationship anytime soon, because I was so shy! And I never thought it would be an LDR! However, I believe LDR’s have their advantages, and I wouldn’t change it for anything, because I’m in true love with my darling Beth, no matter how far away we are! -Andy

Day 20 is long distance worth it? YES!!!!!!!! When you’re in true deep love like ours, NO amount of distance could EVER come between us. True love ALWAYS wins against distance. No doubt about it.

 

[KiloPatches]

Hold on one sec.... Beth. You're 14. Andy is 20. You've been together 8 months. You do realize there are laws against this is both the US and UK, right? Honestly.... I can't be the only one that doesn't feel right about this..... My boyfriend and i are born a year apart and have been together 6 years. We started off dating normally, then he had to move cities for a year (so there was some long distance involved) and then we moved in together. There is nothing wrong with long distance relationships, but this? This just screams all sorts of wrong.

 

[Piemanthe3rd]

So you're 14 and he is 20? Do your parents know you have been "seeing" someone on the internet who is significantly older than you/are they alright with you meeting him? Someone with whom a physical relationship would be illegal in both of your countries? I only ask as age gaps can be a tremendous issue, especially for Andy who has a high chance of being perceived as, shall we say, inappropriate.

The best advice (and you don't have to take my advice being that I'm just some random) that I can give, coming from someone who was in a long distance internet relationship in the past with a girl who was younger than me is: be careful. Take that to mean what you will but honestly this whole thread is brimming with a high level of immaturity coupled with early relationship infatuation that can lead to a lot of pain for both of you if you continue to jump head first into this courtship.

 

[Bowie]

All right, well, I'm not gonna try and stop either of you, but, I do advise you two not to get too excited, and, to be careful. I mean, you're both still young, and, you can't guarantee anything. The future is uncertain, and, you've gotta be careful what you're doing. Life is what you make it, as they say. When you make your life, try not to make it into something you'll come to regret.

 

[Caius]

Hi, I was the mod asked to close this. I have a couple of closing comments before I do.

There is nothing judgmental in this thread, Brightblueberry. I can't speak for tumblr, but everything I'm reading in this thread is damn good advice. You're 14. He's 20. While no, that isn't a huge age gap, you're severely underage and meeting someone you've never had any physical interaction with.

Let me tell you a story.

I met my fiance when I was 14, on the internet. I met him 2 years later, in real life. He flew from Texas to Florida to meet me. We were not alone, and I had to meet his parents and him mine before we could get anywhere. It's not a game. You do not joke around with stuff like this, and you don't make choices based on "TRUE LOVE <33" at that point. I made a lot of bad decisions at that time, and I'm lucky I didn't end up in an icebox somewhere missing a kidney.

I'm not saying there's no chance it will work. Quite the opposite in fact. I'm just saying you need to realize that you have to be extremely careful. You could make a choice that you'll never recover from. No, you don't know what true love is at 14. I thought I did at 16, and I learned that sometimes you get lucky and things fall into place. I'm going to be brutally honest here. You don't know what you want. You don't have that kind of experience yet. You'll look back and say "maybe this was a mistake" and by that time you'll be in too deep and have to settle for something you may not actually want yet.

While you might say I'm judging you, I'm really not. I'm trying to help you. If that guy really, really cared about you, you'd realize that he'd be the one telling you this instead of me. So, I'm going to go ahead and say that he's not the brightest light on the tree if he can't do you that small favor. You should not be thinking about marriage at this point. Who's going to pay for it? Who's going to be supporting the family? Who's going to have a guaranteed long-term job? Who's going to run the household?

Have you ever run a home? Have you ever held a long-term CAREER, not a JOB? Do you expect him to take care of you? That never works. You don't have the life skills or work experience to be certain that you'll make it. You're jumping in head first and you're going to get caught and dangled by the ankles because that's how life works. Sit back and re-evaluate your choices, but in the mean-time, do not assume the worst in the people trying to look out for your best interests, because these are the people trying to make sure you don't do something ridiculous before it actually hurts you.