Sexual Orientation & Gender Identity Support Thread
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coffeeplant
✩ brewster's apprentice ✩
Happy pride month from a nonbinary bisexual chaotic bean. This is a reminder that it's okay to be figuring yourself out no matter how old you are or how often it happens. My thoughts also go to anyone who can't come out safely. You are one of us too. Stay safe! ♡♡
Darkesque_
gotta be delusional to be in the biz
Happy pride month from a flaming homosexual! I hope everyone who is out stays safe from all the hate and suppression in today's society, and to those who aren't out yet, you are very valid too! Also, if you know someone isn't out yet, it is SO NOT COOL to out that person because it could be potentially life-threatening (coming from someone who was forced to come out because of someone in my school). I love each and every one of you, and stay safe out there!
Happy pride month everyone! This is always an exciting time.
After thinking about it extensively, I think the best label to describe my sexuality is pansexual heteroromantic. I've never had romantic feelings for a man, but I've been physically attracted to people of every gender.
Gender identity wise I've always been on the feminine side, but I think nonbinary fits me best. My gender identity was fluid for a long time, but now it's pretty set in stone.
After thinking about it extensively, I think the best label to describe my sexuality is pansexual heteroromantic. I've never had romantic feelings for a man, but I've been physically attracted to people of every gender.
Gender identity wise I've always been on the feminine side, but I think nonbinary fits me best. My gender identity was fluid for a long time, but now it's pretty set in stone.
This is my first pride month as a trans individual. I was showing clear signs my entire life and just hadn’t come to terms with it.
Even at the age of five, five mind you, wearing bathing suits made me highly uncomfortable. I refused to go to my swimming lessons because I didn’t want to wear a bikini. I used to always say it accentuated my body. I didn’t even have a body at that time, but I knew it was coming. I refused to swim all throughout high school and almost failed gym class due to my refusal to change or swim.
At nine, I was more drawn to the male Mii characters on the Nintendo Wii. My mom hit me with a “you can pick one of the girls.” I wanted to choose one of the three default males and not a female. I remember her clearly telling me “you don’t know what you want, you’re nine.” That made me very nervous to be myself and it even made me ignore some of the obvious signs.
On a more positive note, my mom is allowing me to wear swim trunks on our trip to Disney World and seems to be more accepting of my identity now that I am an adult. It’s just funny how the signs were always there and this isn’t just out of nowhere. I even pretended to be a male on the other Animal Crossing forum (ACC) since I first joined and stopped after feeling like I was lying to people. It felt so nice having people refer to me as male and experimenting with the internet because nobody knew. Nobody knew I was born a female, and it was simple to just tell people I’m a boy.
My mom even bought me an eyebrow pen to make my eyebrows more masculine. I think she’s finally starting to come to terms that it wasn’t a phase. It’s amazing how far I’ve come over the past decade and a half that I’ve been on the internet.
Happy pride month, everyone!
Even at the age of five, five mind you, wearing bathing suits made me highly uncomfortable. I refused to go to my swimming lessons because I didn’t want to wear a bikini. I used to always say it accentuated my body. I didn’t even have a body at that time, but I knew it was coming. I refused to swim all throughout high school and almost failed gym class due to my refusal to change or swim.
At nine, I was more drawn to the male Mii characters on the Nintendo Wii. My mom hit me with a “you can pick one of the girls.” I wanted to choose one of the three default males and not a female. I remember her clearly telling me “you don’t know what you want, you’re nine.” That made me very nervous to be myself and it even made me ignore some of the obvious signs.
On a more positive note, my mom is allowing me to wear swim trunks on our trip to Disney World and seems to be more accepting of my identity now that I am an adult. It’s just funny how the signs were always there and this isn’t just out of nowhere. I even pretended to be a male on the other Animal Crossing forum (ACC) since I first joined and stopped after feeling like I was lying to people. It felt so nice having people refer to me as male and experimenting with the internet because nobody knew. Nobody knew I was born a female, and it was simple to just tell people I’m a boy.
My mom even bought me an eyebrow pen to make my eyebrows more masculine. I think she’s finally starting to come to terms that it wasn’t a phase. It’s amazing how far I’ve come over the past decade and a half that I’ve been on the internet.
Happy pride month, everyone!
HAPPY PRIDE MONTH, EVERYONE!!! 
I have briefly posted on here about my sexual identity before, but since that time of year is here again, I wanted to give a more in-depth explanation.
For real life people, I am AroAce. I’m just not sexually or romantically attracted to real people in that regard. However, this does NOT mean that I am incapable of love in other ways. I have friends who I love very deeply, just not sexually or romantically. I feel like we are often stereotyped to be in capable of love, but that’s not true. We are still capable of friendly, platonic, and familial, etc. love. we just don’t FALL in love or experience sexual or romantic attraction.
For fictional characters, I would call myself Graysexual Biromantic. My sexual attraction towards characters is really weak compared to my romantic attraction to them, and don’t even experience it along with my romantic attraction a lot of the times. I much prefer the romantic aspects of self-shipping. I experience attraction to male and female characters, granted with a preference for males. And yep, I am a self-shipper!
As for gender identity, I am just a cis-female, but I am supportive of people who are under the trans umbrella (MTF, FTM, enby, agender, demigender, etc.) - I have friends who fall under the trans umbrella after all. <3333
Yes, I AM still capable of love in other ways.
Yes, I AM a self-shipper.
No, I am NOT broken.
I have briefly posted on here about my sexual identity before, but since that time of year is here again, I wanted to give a more in-depth explanation.
For real life people, I am AroAce. I’m just not sexually or romantically attracted to real people in that regard. However, this does NOT mean that I am incapable of love in other ways. I have friends who I love very deeply, just not sexually or romantically. I feel like we are often stereotyped to be in capable of love, but that’s not true. We are still capable of friendly, platonic, and familial, etc. love. we just don’t FALL in love or experience sexual or romantic attraction.
For fictional characters, I would call myself Graysexual Biromantic. My sexual attraction towards characters is really weak compared to my romantic attraction to them, and don’t even experience it along with my romantic attraction a lot of the times. I much prefer the romantic aspects of self-shipping. I experience attraction to male and female characters, granted with a preference for males. And yep, I am a self-shipper!
As for gender identity, I am just a cis-female, but I am supportive of people who are under the trans umbrella (MTF, FTM, enby, agender, demigender, etc.) - I have friends who fall under the trans umbrella after all. <3333
Yes, I AM still capable of love in other ways.
Yes, I AM a self-shipper.
No, I am NOT broken.
xSuperMario64x
call me Bug 🇨🇦💜🐛
I have a question. I know at least one other person on this forum who is demisexual like myself, but I suppose this question could apply to anyone who isn't strictly ace.
does anyone else feel that kind of attraction but have zero desire to act on it? like in my case, I identified as apothisexual for a very long time, and while I no longer fully resonate with that label, I am still functionally apothisexual. I'm perfectly content maintaining platonic and romantic relationships and never going beyond that.
it's honestly a little strange to have that feeling and be repulsed at the idea of acting on it haha
can anyone else relate? or am I just weird lmaoo
does anyone else feel that kind of attraction but have zero desire to act on it? like in my case, I identified as apothisexual for a very long time, and while I no longer fully resonate with that label, I am still functionally apothisexual. I'm perfectly content maintaining platonic and romantic relationships and never going beyond that.
it's honestly a little strange to have that feeling and be repulsed at the idea of acting on it haha
can anyone else relate? or am I just weird lmaooActually, yeah. I’m a virgin and no signs of that changing anytime soon. I could still be repulsed even though I think I may be demisexual. I can’t fully conclude that however since I’m a virgin and don’t know how I feel about it. I’m fully content maintaining a relationship and never having sex, but unfortunately that seems impossible. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t expect myself to cave sooner or later. I don’t want to be peer pressured into having sex. I don’t see it happening right now at least, but down the line? Maybe. I don’t understand the obsession with sex. It’s not that important.
sooo i chose a new name for myself and i've been using it, and.... i think i actually really, REALLY LOVE IT. this is the first time i've tried a new name and actually LIKED IT A LOT?! like oh my GOD im freaking out. actually. it makes me so happy and it feels so CORRECT.
i got a new name tag for my Lolita/EGL meet-ups IRL, since we normally wear name tags to events anyways, but it also was the perfect excuse to kind of... have it written on something. and. HUFF. I LOVE IT.
long live Francine/Fran/Franny, she's gone and in the past. i'm feeling so much more confident about myself now as Val/Valentin. i've never felt like this before.
i got a new name tag for my Lolita/EGL meet-ups IRL, since we normally wear name tags to events anyways, but it also was the perfect excuse to kind of... have it written on something. and. HUFF. I LOVE IT.
long live Francine/Fran/Franny, she's gone and in the past. i'm feeling so much more confident about myself now as Val/Valentin. i've never felt like this before.
I posted about this in the “what are you happy about” thread earlier but I officially have a pronoun pin! The blue is a little darker than I’d imagined but I don’t mind! It’s more subtle and the people who care will definitely see it. I don’t have any experience wearing it in public yet but I attach it to my backpack strap. I don’t like having pins attached to my shirts at all.
This is the first pronoun pin I’ve found that actually matches my aesthetic and I’m here for it. My favorite person also uses my chosen name in private. When we are in a group setting, she avoids using my deadname at all and feminine pronouns as much as she can since I’m obviously not out at work yet. The only people who know are her and two other people who I told since it was quite obvious to them. They have an MTF friend so I had a feeling those two knew.
My favorite person’s roommates know me as a guy so that means she’s doing these things behind my back, which I absolutely love. Doing it in front of me is one thing but when I’m not around? That’s perfect, she’s perfect.
This is the first pronoun pin I’ve found that actually matches my aesthetic and I’m here for it. My favorite person also uses my chosen name in private. When we are in a group setting, she avoids using my deadname at all and feminine pronouns as much as she can since I’m obviously not out at work yet. The only people who know are her and two other people who I told since it was quite obvious to them. They have an MTF friend so I had a feeling those two knew.
My favorite person’s roommates know me as a guy so that means she’s doing these things behind my back, which I absolutely love. Doing it in front of me is one thing but when I’m not around? That’s perfect, she’s perfect.
xSuperMario64x
call me Bug 🇨🇦💜🐛
THAT'S AMAZING I'M SO HAPPY FOR YOU
I've been feeling a lot of euphoria with my identities lately
if I may ramble for a bit, I'd like to elaborate. I'm trans-masc, I feel more closely connected to masculinity but I present myself in a pretty androgynous way. I'm demisexual, and in that regard I'm exclusively attracted to men, but I don't have any intention of acting on that.
but best of all, after debating my romantic orientation for what feels like forever, I can happily say that I'm demiromantic! to be more specific, I'm omniromantic since I would be willing to be with someone regardless of gender, but I do have a pretty strong preference for men so I'm also achillean! (I prefer that over the more specific mlm because it's a much more broad spectrum)
I know I've talked about this here before, but it honestly makes me feel so happy and liberated to make these discoveries! for once they really feel right to me, like I'm actually being true to myself now. I love myself for who I am and I'm not ashamed of who I am! happy pride month everyone!
so anyways, yeah. tl;dr I'm gay lmaooo
SinnerTheCat
she's just watering her animal crossing garden
Happy pride month everyone!!!!!!!!
So, when it comes to my personal experience with sexual identity, I like to think that I've come pretty far in that territory throughout my life. It has always been quite a struggle for me to put a finger on what exactly I was feeling and how to put it all in a single label, especially since I live in a country where any lgbt+ people are called an abomination or propaganda of some sorts, so it always felt kind of wrong to even research that kind of stuff as a kid/teen. But when I did look through the lgbt tag on tumblr at that time it just felt right, it felt like I've found people who have similar experiences, who are accepting, who just want to love and support each other. It was truly magical for the little teenage me haha, even though I couldn't really come out and still kind of can't to majority of my friends.
I went as bisexual for the longest time, it felt the closest to what I was experiencing - I fall in love very easily, gender presentation doesn't really matter, but I can distinguish that I do feel kind of different towards more masculine and more feminine people, it's not all the same and depends on variety of stuff that I could go on and on about. But as I became older, I slowly felt like bisexual just wasn't cutting it for me. I wasn't content with it, like I was somehow forcing it on myself and the more I thought about it, the more stressed I was getting, because I couldn't find any label that would fit just right.
And so, I stopped caring so much - I'm just gay/queer and I couldn't be happier honestly!! I do still sometimes use bi as an umbrella term to explain in one word what I feel, but it makes me feel at ease to just be free and exist as a part of the lgbt+ community <3
We all shine so brightly with each other, I hope everyone enjoys this year's pride to the fullest!!
So, when it comes to my personal experience with sexual identity, I like to think that I've come pretty far in that territory throughout my life. It has always been quite a struggle for me to put a finger on what exactly I was feeling and how to put it all in a single label, especially since I live in a country where any lgbt+ people are called an abomination or propaganda of some sorts, so it always felt kind of wrong to even research that kind of stuff as a kid/teen. But when I did look through the lgbt tag on tumblr at that time it just felt right, it felt like I've found people who have similar experiences, who are accepting, who just want to love and support each other. It was truly magical for the little teenage me haha, even though I couldn't really come out and still kind of can't to majority of my friends.
I went as bisexual for the longest time, it felt the closest to what I was experiencing - I fall in love very easily, gender presentation doesn't really matter, but I can distinguish that I do feel kind of different towards more masculine and more feminine people, it's not all the same and depends on variety of stuff that I could go on and on about. But as I became older, I slowly felt like bisexual just wasn't cutting it for me. I wasn't content with it, like I was somehow forcing it on myself and the more I thought about it, the more stressed I was getting, because I couldn't find any label that would fit just right.
And so, I stopped caring so much - I'm just gay/queer and I couldn't be happier honestly!! I do still sometimes use bi as an umbrella term to explain in one word what I feel, but it makes me feel at ease to just be free and exist as a part of the lgbt+ community <3
We all shine so brightly with each other, I hope everyone enjoys this year's pride to the fullest!!
I've finally figured out that I'm demisexual. Ever since being a teen, I never understood everyone's obsession with sex. Sex in a relationship wasn't top priority to me and I never understood hookups or friends with benefits. I can't do that with someone who I do not have feelings for/or who I just met. People could just hookup with strangers, do the deed and leave. It's still wild to me. For years I thought I was broken or something was wrong with me for not looking at someone and immediately thinking of sex. Turns out, there's nothing wrong with me. I wish I knew this sooner but better late than never.
Can I post this in here, lol? Could you see yourself being friends with someone who you know respects you but seems to post a few things that are anti-LGBT (not like words but memes and stuff)? I feel like I’m in the wrong for being offended when I feel like things are going okay in real life. I know memes are nothing and they’re supposed to be funny but it feels like I’m targeted. I feel like I can overlook it but I’m not sure if I should.
.: Meri :.
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If they were someone I knew was at least well-meaning, then I'd think it would probably be worth having a conversation with them about—they might not realize that the joke is insensitive, or especially with memes, there might be a hidden layer of meaning that they're just not aware of. There's a lot of little things like that that aren't always immediately apparent to people, especially if they're not actively involved in the LGBTQ+ community in some way. But if the memes were just overtly hateful/nasty, or if they were dismissive on the subject (like, tending to respond to criticism with "it's just a joke" or similar), then I'd probably go ahead and distance myself from them, honestly.
The thing about jokes is that they're usually based on the truth, or at least what the person telling the joke believes to be true, or some actual feeling that they hold. (Of course, some jokes are just silly "the chicken crossed the road to get to the other side" nonsense, but those aren't the issue.) Humor isn't a free pass to treat others poorly, so you're not in the wrong to feel hurt by offensive memes. If they're your friend, they should care if they're doing something that's hurting you, whether they meant it that way or not. I'd say to just let them know that it's bothering you if you feel safe doing so, and decide where to go from there depending on how they take it.
Thanks for replying. I don’t think they meant any harm by it and they aren’t hateful by any means in real life, at least from what I’ve personally seen. They post lots of different memes, most of which aren’t actually anti-LGBT, and it’s just part of their personality I guess. I understand, though. I’ll think on that.
But I do like your pride aesthetic. I remember it from last year at one point. The colors are nice.
xSuperMario64x
call me Bug 🇨🇦💜🐛
I've been thinking abt this for a bit so I just wanted to get it out there. because sometimes I even need to remind myself, honestly.
trans men who are gay are valid. they are not straight and they sure as hell aren't women. they are men (or nb/transmasc, like myself) who like other men!
I understand there may be a bit of a grey area or confusion with that, especially regarding sexual orientation, but I really don't feel like spending time trying to justify my own existence right now.
I just wanted to say that in case anyone else is facing internalized cissexism like I do a lot. also would like to note that the same logic applies to trans women and nb/transfem people who like other women. we are all valid
trans men who are gay are valid. they are not straight and they sure as hell aren't women. they are men (or nb/transmasc, like myself) who like other men!
I understand there may be a bit of a grey area or confusion with that, especially regarding sexual orientation, but I really don't feel like spending time trying to justify my own existence right now.
I just wanted to say that in case anyone else is facing internalized cissexism like I do a lot. also would like to note that the same logic applies to trans women and nb/transfem people who like other women. we are all valid
pottercrossing
☀🏹🎶Apollo🎶🏹☀
So I've been going by Remus, using he/him pronouns, and generally socializing myself as a male at school (which is confusing a lot of my classmates, since I came out later in the year, after everyone had long since gotten used to addressing me by my deadname and as a girl), for about 1-2 months now. Unfortunately, my teachers can't call me by my chosen name because the school board requires all staff to address students by the name that they are registered as in Powerschool. Luckily, this rule doesn't apply to student teachers and substitute teachers, but if I wanted my regular teachers to call me by my chosen name, my mom would have to change it, or talk to admin and get it changed, I'm not sure how it works, but either way, it would involve coming out, which I'm not ready for.
Also, I've recently realized that when I still identified as female, or still leaned to the feminine side in terms of gender, I was mainly attracted to women, but since I realized I was trans-masc, I've only been attracted to men, and I am now so very confused.
TL;DR: I have been a confused, dysphoric mess these past couple months
Also, I've recently realized that when I still identified as female, or still leaned to the feminine side in terms of gender, I was mainly attracted to women, but since I realized I was trans-masc, I've only been attracted to men, and I am now so very confused.
TL;DR: I have been a confused, dysphoric mess these past couple months
