The Mental Health Clinic

[GreenOctagons]

I feel like mental health especially nowadays isn’t taken seriously enough and people get left in the cold with no one to speak too. I’ve been there myself.

I myself suffer with severe anxiety and have been on pills for god knows how long to control it. I’m creating this thread for people to simply comment and speak up about how they feel so they can have people to talk to and to hopefully improve their mood

You can even DM me personally if you want a 1 on 1 chat. I’ll get back to you as soon as possible.

 

[Kitsuragi]

anyone else have problems making friends? not even that like i forget to reply or forget they exist, i'm always on top of replying, but i just don't like hanging out with people i don't have a LOT in common with even if we like "some" things. like i find it hard to hang out with other gamers if we dont like a LOT of the same games. i also may be way too judgy cause sometimes people with certain hobbies and likes are an instant turn off nope never gonna be friends kinda thing.

anyone else like this? i want more friends but im so freaking picky and my therapist says i'm insanely bad at socializing and need to get better but dont know howwwww. is this a me thing? am i the drama? do i have a problem i should look more into? its def not social anxiety because i'm very comfortable in social situations, i just much prefer to listen than talk. i also have no problems being around big crowds. FYI i have ADHD and GAD. i take no meds.

 

[GreenOctagons]

anyone else have problems making friends? not even that like i forget to reply or forget they exist, i'm always on top of replying, but i just don't like hanging out with people i don't have a LOT in common with even if we like "some" things. like i find it hard to hang out with other gamers if we dont like a LOT of the same games. i also may be way too judgy cause sometimes people with certain hobbies and likes are an instant turn off nope never gonna be friends kinda thing.

anyone else like this? i want more friends but im so freaking picky and my therapist says i'm insanely bad at socializing and need to get better but dont know howwwww. is this a me thing? am i the drama? do i have a problem i should look more into? its def not social anxiety because i'm very comfortable in social situations, i just much prefer to listen than talk. i also have no problems being around big crowds. FYI i have ADHD and GAD. i take no meds.

I think it’s normal and also smart to be picky when choosing your friends. I’d much rather have a small group of people you can trust than a large group with people you can’t.

Also, I think having things in common with another person is necessity to become friends with someone in the first place so again you shouldn’t worry.

When it comes to talking to people, I just be myself and don’t worry what others think. Much rather that than play a fake persona.

 

[Midoriya]

Yeah, like GreenOctagons mentioned, it's normal to be choosy about who you become close with. I think most people are like this, including myself. I have a TON of online and in real life acquaintances, but only a select few would I consider "close friends" of mine. And more often than not they're people that I get along with well and we share most interests.

It's kind of like a spectrum, you know, with strangers being on the very outside circle. Then you have authority figures like professors and other people like that on the inner circle from that. Then acquaintances on the inner circle from that. Then friends on the inner circle from that. And finally your closest or best friends on the innermost circle. At least, that's the way it is for me.

And I'd also rather not become close friends with someone super quickly just because of being taken advantage of in the past and people backstabbing me. I'm still really friendly to everyone and positive, but I'm nowhere near as naive nor gullible as I used to be.

As for my mental health, I will leave this here for what was said about me, and not just by one person. It's very true:

Spoiler

tbh. I think you recognize the value in what people say and you keep an open mind. That's an admirable quality. every time you take in what people are saying you gain a different perspective. That's something I like about you. You just need to gain some self confidence. Any idiot who doesn't even get what they're fully talking about can when an argument. That doesn't mean they're intelligent just means that they believe fully what they're saying and that gives them an air of I know what I'm talking about if that makes sense at all. Either way try not to be so hard on yourself. The world needs more people like you

 

[Croconaw]

Is it a bit weird or unusual that I haven’t ever l been to a party or really hung out in a large group? I’m 24 years old and it makes me feel like a bit of an outcast when I hear about 16 year olds talk about parties they’ve been to or group events they did. I don’t think parties are really my thing, but I guess I’ll never know.

 

[GreenOctagons]

Is it a bit weird or unusual that I haven’t ever l been to a party or really hung out in a large group? I’m 24 years old and it makes me feel like a bit of an outcast when I hear about 16 year olds talk about parties they’ve been to or group events they did. I don’t think parties are really my thing, but I guess I’ll never know.

I’m 23 and I’ve probably been to 1 house party when I was 18. If it ain’t your thing, it just ain’t your thing. Nothing to be ashamed of. When everyone was going clubbing my age, I didn’t care because I knew I didn’t like it.

I enjoy small gatherings like BBQs, much Mike chill and relaxing.

 

[Croconaw]

@GreenOctagons - I really don’t think large parties are my thing. I know that when I was 16, things were a lot different than they are today. I can definitely say the people are different, as well.

It just feels a bit weird. Someone l consider myself acquainted to looked over my shoulder and saw that I don’t really talk to that many people on Snapchat — which I really only have to stay in contact with about two people, lol. I’m not going to add a bunch of random people just to fill my map. That map is creepy anyway, but that’s a whole other thing I won’t even get into. There’s a reason I don’t have my location on.

Plus, I’m sure of the hundreds of people that person has added, he doesn’t talk to 80 of them. Also, I don’t think he meant any harm by his comment. It was just an observation he made, and he’s 16.

 

[GreenOctagons]

@GreenOctagons - I really don’t think large parties are my thing. I know that when I was 16, things were a lot different than they are today. I can definitely say the people are different, as well.

It just feels a bit weird. Someone l consider myself acquainted to looked over my shoulder and saw that I don’t really talk to that many people on Snapchat — which I really only have to stay in contact with about two people, lol. I’m not going to add a bunch of random people just to fill my map. That map is creepy anyway, but that’s a whole other thing I won’t even get into. There’s a reason I don’t have my location on.

Plus, I’m sure of the hundreds of people that person has added, he doesn’t talk to 80 of them. Also, I don’t think he meant any harm by his comment. It was just an observation he made, and he’s 16.

People just add strangers to make themselves look popular, in reality they probably talk to about 5 max. I have about 5-6 people I talk to on Snapchat, I have others added that I know from school, university etc but never talk to them.

I don’t think he meant no harm mate, was probably just being observant.

 

[Corrie]

@GreenOctagons - I really don’t think large parties are my thing. I know that when I was 16, things were a lot different than they are today. I can definitely say the people are different, as well.

It just feels a bit weird. Someone l consider myself acquainted to looked over my shoulder and saw that I don’t really talk to that many people on Snapchat — which I really only have to stay in contact with about two people, lol. I’m not going to add a bunch of random people just to fill my map. That map is creepy anyway, but that’s a whole other thing I won’t even get into. There’s a reason I don’t have my location on.

Plus, I’m sure of the hundreds of people that person has added, he doesn’t talk to 80 of them. Also, I don’t think he meant any harm by his comment. It was just an observation he made, and he’s 16.

I don't get why people keep people on social media that they don't talk to or care to see what they're up to. To me it's just clutter.

Edit: I actually enjoy cleaning out my contacts on every digital platform. It feels good lol.

 

[Croconaw]

@GreenOctagons - Definitely not. I didn’t even take offense to it since it wasn’t said in a demeaning way. He’s still young, too, so I try to give the benefit of the doubt. Thanks for the reply, and I’m glad it’s not too weird. I used to think I was the only person my age who had never been to a party. There has to be someone else, though. My dad wasn’t even strict at all, and still isn’t. He gave me freewill growing up, so that wasn’t the issue. I just chose not to pursue large group gatherings.

 

[Kitsuragi]

Is it a bit weird or unusual that I haven’t ever l been to a party or really hung out in a large group? I’m 24 years old and it makes me feel like a bit of an outcast when I hear about 16 year olds talk about parties they’ve been to or group events they did. I don’t think parties are really my thing, but I guess I’ll never know.

honestly i never ever go to parties, nor do i do anything like clubbing or what-not. i feel like less and less people are doing stuff like that or growing out of it quickly. only one of my friends used to party and drink a lot but she stopped within like a year and wont do it again. i feel you!

 

[GreenOctagons]

@GreenOctagons - Definitely not. I didn’t even take offense to it since it wasn’t said in a demeaning way. He’s still young, too, so I try to give the benefit of the doubt. Thanks for the reply, and I’m glad it’s not too weird. I used to think I was the only person my age who had never been to a party. There has to be someone else, though. My dad wasn’t even strict at all, and still isn’t. He gave me freewill growing up, so that wasn’t the issue. I just chose not to pursue large group gatherings.

It’s not weird at all, I know loads of people that barely go to parties

 

[Drawdler]

I haven’t been to parties and I’m in my 20’s. I also have no friends from school though.

I guess I may as well spill the beans and admit I dropped out during year 7 on this thread, idrc if people judge me. What my parents put me through during my life has been no joke and the arguing and swearing and insulting from them never really ends. I tried getting back to school for years but “why don’t we try homeschooling”. No. God no. And I got held back and stunted because my parents were like I was too feeble or not able to handle school. They made it impossible for me to get back, and now everyone in my family blames me for not trying and makes negative assumptions. Nobody in my life realises the effort I put in and I have nobody I was growing up with through this. I actually felt like I was learning nothing in year 7 but I was aware enough to know I shouldn’t skip it and here I am like a decade later where I missed the latter half of school entirely. Down here we have no middle school, it goes from primary to high school so that sucked.

Now I wish I could explain what CPTSD is like but I’ll say the stuff about nightmares and having flashbacks is actually very true, my body has physical reactions from trauma, and I’ve had vivid repeated nightmares of people who were important to and hurt me. So for one thing, does anyone else here have any form of PTSD? And I see a psychologist regularly, we both think that’s what it is. Not self-diagnosing. I’m not trying to act like or assume I’m better than everyone in my life. I’m a flawed person. Very much. However they like to throw their problems on me and I truly have been treated a particularly poor way amongst my family and formerly in friend groups.

I’m chronically depressed but with no change to my external circumstances even antidepressants don’t do anything that really really helps. They should at least improve motivation but they didn’t really. I’ve seen things be stagnant for too long. I quit taking them. Things in my life need to change but the people who need to help with that and do things for me. They just don’t. I feel like I’ve never had someone to truly look up to. I sure don’t have proper parental figures who make the right tough decisions, they’re selfish and gaslighty. And most of my friends abandoned me or are just casual and not people I see as inspiring no offense. I’ve really met some awful people along the way and this isn’t even accounting for things that happened in relationships. Or with this one guy two months ago who was the final straw. I have a relationship which is not doing so well rn because of my own depression and we can’t seem to meet in the middle on communication because we speak in different ways and they don’t care as much about insight so it feels like me carrying those serious conversations so I feel like I’m on my own even in a relationship.

After all this and so many people hurt me I don’t like trying to keep up with people and there’s some anxiety in there but it’s more that it’s just exhausting. However being on my own when I do want a certain kind of company is exhausting. Then I hang around and joke around with people but I know it isn’t the meaningful discussion I want and I get bitter and feel lonelier. I am a mess. It just feels like why do I even bother.

 

[GreenOctagons]

I haven’t been to parties and I’m in my 20’s. I also have no friends from school though.

I guess I may as well spill the beans and admit I dropped out during year 7 on this thread, idrc if people judge me. What my parents put me through during my life has been no joke and the arguing and swearing and insulting from them never really ends. I tried getting back to school for years but “why don’t we try homeschooling”. No. God no. And I got held back and stunted because my parents were like I was too feeble or not able to handle school. They made it impossible for me to get back, and now everyone in my family blames me for not trying and makes negative assumptions. Nobody in my life realises the effort I put in and I have nobody I was growing up with through this. I actually felt like I was learning nothing in year 7 but I was aware enough to know I shouldn’t skip it and here I am like a decade later where I missed the latter half of school entirely. Down here we have no middle school, it goes from primary to high school so that sucked.

Now I wish I could explain what CPTSD is like but I’ll say the stuff about nightmares and having flashbacks is actually very true, my body has physical reactions from trauma, and I’ve had vivid repeated nightmares of people who were important to and hurt me. So for one thing, does anyone else here have any form of PTSD? And I see a psychologist regularly, we both think that’s what it is. Not self-diagnosing. I’m not trying to act like or assume I’m better than everyone in my life. I’m a flawed person. Very much. However they like to throw their problems on me and I truly have been treated a particularly poor way amongst my family and formerly in friend groups.

I’m chronically depressed but with no change to my external circumstances even antidepressants don’t do anything that really really helps. They should at least improve motivation but they didn’t really. I’ve seen things be stagnant for too long. I quit taking them. Things in my life need to change but the people who need to help with that and do things for me. They just don’t. I feel like I’ve never had someone to truly look up to. I sure don’t have proper parental figures who make the right tough decisions, they’re selfish and gaslighty. And most of my friends abandoned me or are just casual and not people I see as inspiring no offense. I’ve really met some awful people along the way and this isn’t even accounting for things that happened in relationships. Or with this one guy two months ago who was the final straw. I have a relationship which is not doing so well rn because of my own depression and we can’t seem to meet in the middle on communication because we speak in different ways and they don’t care as much about insight so it feels like me carrying those serious conversations so I feel like I’m on my own even in a relationship.

After all this and so many people hurt me I don’t like trying to keep up with people and there’s some anxiety in there but it’s more that it’s just exhausting. However being on my own when I do want a certain kind of company is exhausting. Then I hang around and joke around with people but I know it isn’t the meaningful discussion I want and I get bitter and feel lonelier. I am a mess. It just feels like why do I even bother.

Keep your head up mate.

All we can do is try and bury the past someway and make our futures better.

I had case of unrequited love through my college years with a girl, I loved her, she didn’t love me back. I ended up losing her completely even as a friend. I still have dreams that I’m even still friends with her as we were really close as friends. But it is what it is, just gotta try and move on

You can DM me if you ever need a chat!

 

[Beanz]

i have no friends at my school, and it’s 100% my fault. i don’t understand people who can just approach someone and make friends with them on the first day. there is one person who i would be interested in talking to but i don’t know how i could possibly go up to them because they’re always in a group. i don’t know how to talk to people despite going to therapy for this for like 5 years. what do i do, go up to them and say hi? isn’t that a little weird? after i ask how they are what do i do next? im too anxious to actually approach anybody, i think everybody is judging me and i perceive people as a danger for some reason. i also have problems making eye contact. when i go back to school i’ll be sitting alone at lunch and im afraid people are going to make fun of me.

 

[GreenOctagons]

i have no friends at my school, and it’s 100% my fault. i don’t understand people who can just approach someone and make friends with them on the first day. there is one person who i would be interested in talking to but i don’t know how i could possibly go up to them because they’re always in a group. i don’t know how to talk to people despite going to therapy for this for like 5 years. what do i do, go up to them and say hi? isn’t that a little weird? after i ask how they are what do i do next? im too anxious to actually approach anybody, i think everybody is judging me and i perceive people as a danger for some reason. i also have problems making eye contact. when i go back to school i’ll be sitting alone at lunch and im afraid people are going to make fun of me.

I was shy in as a kid too, struggled to talk to people. I only had a small group. It’s not your fault, you’re just shy and probably a bit anxious - trust me I can relate. I’m still shy speaking to women, just don’t know how to start conversations and like you say I think ‘what if I make a right *** of myself?’

My advice is just be yourself, you should always and just start a conversation about a topic. Films, sports or something like that, then just go from there. Could be hard at first but once you do it once and find out you can do it, you’ll have no problem doing it again. Also, forget what other people think, it’s just noise - just concentrate on yourself.

 

[LadyDestani]

I have depression and anxiety. I believe that I've had them most of my life, but I didn't get diagnosed until last year. Mental illness runs in my family so I was very familiar with the symptoms early on, but since they seemed to be mild cases and didn't have a major impact on my ability to function I never felt a need to seek help. That changed over the past few years. Significant family issues, a stressful work environment, the pandemic, and national/global issues caused both of my illnesses to spike. My anxiety started manifesting as physical back pain that was so severe it literally woke me up every hour. I couldn't get any sleep and the exhaustion only made me feel worse.

I'm dealing with them now in multiple ways. I talk to a counselor monthly, or more frequently if needed, and she's given me tools to help control my mental state when I feel myself spiraling. I see a massage therapist weekly and she helps with a combination of the physical and mental aspect. She practices somatic therapy, so it's not just a massage. It sounded kind of crazy to me at first, but she can just touch an area that hurts and talk me through what I'm feeling and by focusing on that particular muscle I can learn how to release the tension myself. We also work on breathing exercises and she does do massage to relieve the regular muscle tension from being on a computer all day. Finally, I'm on two different mood stabilizers, one to help me through the day and another that helps make me drowsy at night.

It's taken me a couple of years to get here, but I've made a lot of progress and I'm going to continue working to try to get even better.

 

[GreenOctagons]

I have depression and anxiety. I believe that I've had them most of my life, but I didn't get diagnosed until last year. Mental illness runs in my family so I was very familiar with the symptoms early on, but since they seemed to be mild cases and didn't have a major impact on my ability to function I never felt a need to seek help. That changed over the past few years. Significant family issues, a stressful work environment, the pandemic, and national/global issues caused both of my illnesses to spike. My anxiety started manifesting as physical back pain that was so severe it literally woke me up every hour. I couldn't get any sleep and the exhaustion only made me feel worse.

I'm dealing with them now in multiple ways. I talk to a counselor monthly, or more frequently if needed, and she's given me tools to help control my mental state when I feel myself spiraling. I see a massage therapist weekly and she helps with a combination of the physical and mental aspect. She practices somatic therapy, so it's not just a massage. It sounded kind of crazy to me at first, but she can just touch an area that hurts and talk me through what I'm feeling and by focusing on that particular muscle I can learn how to release the tension myself. We also work on breathing exercises and she does do massage to relieve the regular muscle tension from being on a computer all day. Finally, I'm on two different mood stabilizers, one to help me through the day and another that helps make me drowsy at night.

It's taken me a couple of years to get here, but I've made a lot of progress and I'm going to continue working to try to get even better.

I hope you continue to get better!

 

[Violet Witch]

Whilst I've never been diagnosed officially with depression I do believe I suffer from a mild form of it alongside "Reverse SAD" which is related to feeling anxious as the days get longer and warmer in summer months. Since the start of July my mental health has plummeted as the temperatures have soared here in the UK with no sign of any cooler weather on the way anytime soon. I wake up every morning feeling extremely anxious and have to force myself to eat breakfast which isn't like me at all as I love breakfast. I do believe though that once the cooler and more autumnal weather sets in in the UK my anxiety will disappear until late Spring next year, however for the moment I'm stuck in this perpetual cycle of feeling low and anxious (and on the verge of tears at times) as another heatwave is about to rear it's ugly head.

 

[tiffanistarr]

honestly i never ever go to parties, nor do i do anything like clubbing or what-not. i feel like less and less people are doing stuff like that or growing out of it quickly. only one of my friends used to party and drink a lot but she stopped within like a year and wont do it again. i feel you!

I think you might be right. I don’t hear about it near as much and I think covid had a huge hand in that.

In my late teens and early 20s I was a party girl. I’m talking passed out drunk on the deck of a boat marina drunk. I have a lot of great fond memories at parties, but that life does get old quick. I love the feeling of being drunk and carefree and giggling and just weightless almost. I eventually stopped drinking all together. As I became more aware of my health and anxiety I realized that alcohol just isn’t good for you. I also saw the problem in myself enjoying being drunk, it’s fun, but it’s not something I was comfortable enjoying when I really thought hard and deep about it when sober. I wasn’t on the brink of being an alcoholic or anything, but it wasn’t safe. I’m glad for the memories I made when I was drunk and I loved having my closest friends all there and just being ridiculous and bonding but it was time to grow up for me.

I don’t know how to drink without getting drunk, so i chose to stop the partying. I wish I could say people aren’t missing out on anything, but the core memories I have are so fun and precious to me. That being said, there’s tons of ways to bond with friends that don’t involve partying. So really, you aren’t missing too much by not partying. Also, as i’ve gone through life and have had some traumatic things happen, i have major trust and commitment issues now that hinder my availability to make meaningful relationships with people.

I kinda think it’s cool the kids coming up aren’t partying as much. Like it leads to creativity made memories. Like you don’t need alcohol to have a fun time and it’s fun to come up with more productive ways to bond and have fun.

Also, all the people at parties now??? eww no thanks. I could never. Going to the grocery store gives me the anxiety sweats, I couldn’t imagine going to a house filled with people lol.