xSuperMario64x
love of my life šš
sinus headache 

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to be clear, im a guy. It may be healthy to talk about this stuff with someone close. Ive thought a lot about revisiting someone from 14 years ago beause she was so important to me, we left each other in a way that was so harshly unimportant. Neither of us knew what we were doing. idk anyways. Let it out. Tread carefully where you lead yourself, what would you be afraid of to speak. Its ok that youve been having thoughts and things even though youre with someone. Ive felt devotion and your guilt is unfounded; like your looking for a reason that isnt there. Be honest with yourself and someone. Maybe your boyfriend if thats not too tall an order, honesty goes a long way and is quite peaceful when youre truly honesti keep dreaming about my ex and i canāt stop thinking about him but i feel so guilty because i have a boyfriend who i very much love⦠and like this has started happening very suddenly as of 2 days ago i just want it to stop i actually feel like im going insaneee
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Iām so sorry, Xara. I had to deal with something similar recently, with my dog Molly passing away in March 2022. Weād had her for 12 years (ironic), but it felt like less because I felt like I was the only one who cared at the end. Pet loss can hurt just as much as human loss, and thatās okay if it does. Your kitty was an important part of your life- itās completely understandable. I like to think thereās a special place in heaven (or equivalent) for our furry friends, and I bet sheās up there right now, making cloud biscuits or something. I hope this helps, and my DMs are open if you ever need anything.itās 2:43am. i just came across a video of someone cuddling with their black cat; the cat was āmaking biscuitsā on them and purring loudly, and now iām crying because my zeva used to do that. she had the loudest purr, one that filled up every room she was in, and could make all of my troubles and anxieties seem like nothing. i always jokingly told her that she was crushing my ribs whenever she āmade biscuitsā on me because of her size, but you donāt know what i would do to have that just one more time. just 5 more minutes. her purr only exists in videos now, and i will never cuddle her again. 2 years ago tomorrow is the last time i got to cuddle with her before she got hurt. i wish i had known. i wish i had known halloween would be her last full day on earth. i wish i had known i would never get to say goodnight to her again come november. i wish i hadnāt spent the entirety of halloween weekend willing november 1st to come faster, all because i wanted my copy of mario party superstars to come so that i could play. i wish more than anything that she was still here. i will never understand why she isnāt; why out of all the horrid people in the world, my sweet 12-year old cat had to die.
she was my everything, and i am so tired of feeling like i have to undermine my own grief just because pet loss isnāt on the same scale as the loss of human loved ones to a lot of people. i am tired of only receiving condolences for my grandmother, a woman who made me feel like a waste of space most of the time, when zevaās death was the one that broke me. i would be fine if she had lived. i wouldnāt feel so irrevocably empty all of the time if she had lived.
i just want my grief to matter to someone. my parents and i grieve the same loss, and yet they left me alone to mine. i went through that loss alone. that life-altering, brain rewiring, world-ending loss alone. i didnāt have a support system. i didnāt have anyone to hold my hand, or walk me through it, or tell me that i would have a good day again, and i hate it. i donāt want to feel like i have to justify my grief anymore, or tell people that theirs is more important when talking about my own. i just want to feel like i wonāt be alone on her 2nd death anniversary, but i know i will be. the world keeps spinning even though mine stopped.
iāll delete this in the morning. i just miss her. i miss who i was with her.
I'm so, so sorry Xara.-snip-