I’m really sorry you’ve been having a rough time with your mental health right now. Reading what you said honestly raised a lot of red flags to me - this person does not seem like a good friend. 38 texts in the span of two hours without having a conversation that shows a back and forth equal participation shows controlling tendencies. I think this is further confirmed by the fact that your friend won’t accept an equal share of your roleplay to make it a true back and forth participation like role play should be. Every sentence screams controlling, and I personally think if you really want or need to take a break from them for your mental health, you have to tell them. If it’s easier, you can even be vague about it, though that won’t help them change, if they’re even open to seeing the need for change. Try saying something like, “I‘ve had a lot going on lately, and I just need to take some time for myself. I’ll let you know when I can come back to roleplaying with you. In the meantime I likely won’t be able to reply to many texts, if any. I just want to let you know so you don’t worry if I don’t reply.” That way, you’re telling them you need time, and setting expectations for your friendship during this time. If this were what I considered to be a healthy relationship, I’d say that laying out the specific reasons behind your needing a break would be best, but given how I don’t think this is healthy and your mental health needs attention, I think you’re fine leaving out the specifics for now. You can choose to provide those later, if you’d like. I hope this helps, and you’re free to DM me if you’d like.
"it's normal to be broke in your 20s" well it shouldn't be lol. maybe instead of coming up with excuses they could, oh idk, actually give you some helpful financial advice? hopefully you can find the help you need, even if you have to resort to asking one of us for help. I know someone here would be more than happy to help youmy poor financial habits are really coming back to bite me rni'm talking to my therapist about it since i more or less have a shopping addiction, but nobody is taking it seriously. whenever i ask for advice i get "oh it's normal to be broke in your 20s" like yeah, sure, but it's because I AM THE PROBLEM and i'd like some advice on how to un-learn the bad behaviors i have and how other people manage but!
yeah uhhh that's a clear sign of lack of respect for boundaries. good friends understand that people sometimes need to take time for themselves, and that it's perfectly fine to do so. I'd understand if it was a dire situation, but that doesn't seem to be the case. you're not living to serve them and them only. they need to respect your space. and if they want to throw a fit or continue pestering you when you ask for alone time, then are they really that great of a friend?
it's honestly pretty sad and pathetic at this point.
i used to be so much more articulate
I know we're kinda just random ppl on the internet but we really do care a lot about you here, even if no one else seems to. if you feel like you need a break then that's fine, you know what's best for you. and if you decide to do that, we will patiently await your return. I pray that you find the care and healing that you need, you're amazing and you deserve to be happy
all my other friends who are trans wanna give her a second chance and try to bridge the divide and then there's me who felt an instant wedge between us. I'm shocked my friends are being so understanding. I went to bed mad af last night. I want to be supportive but she has this air of superiority over us, like she thinks I'm simple minded. Oh lawd this is too much
