Violet Witch
☽Stay Wild Moon Child☾
Everyone at work is annoying the crap out of me but thank goodness I finish two weeks today for the rest of the year. 

-I’m also big on looks
-all I really want in a relationship is someone who shares most of my interests and that I can talk to about my feelings and otherwise
I always wear shoes, even when I'm walking around the house (yes, I do have house shoes that are separate from my outdoor shoes), because I can't stand the feeling of dirt and stuff on my feet haha. and of course potentially stepping on something really awful like you mentionedI used to wear shoes everywhere. Even to bed because I stepped on a box cutter my mom left out when I was younger, like 5/6. I was terrified to leave my feet unprotected. I got over it in the past year and started not wearing them to bed. But I literally just stepped on ****ing toe nail clippers and it hurts, and now I have my shoes on in the house. I don't care what anyone thinks. I need protection on my feet.
can second this, emotional attraction always comes first and that provides the most solid foundation for a relationship. I believe looks are an added bonus; I find that after I've fallen for someone because of their personality and humour and quirks, I grow to love their appearance as well, but as a by-product of my love for them and who they are as a person. I couldn't imagine relying so much on looks, that makes things way more difficult and even a bit superficial imo.Honestly so many people who are struggling with dating say this as if they are only asking the bare minimum. It is the grand slam. She has to be a sweetie, like everything you like, and be conventionally beautiful. If after 6 years this isn’t working it’s time to shift gears. Physical attraction is important but scrap basing your potential dating partners so heavily on their appearance. Looks change over time. Start with trying to form an emotional connection first; you don’t have to try to seek out someone who already has all your same interests, because when you make a connection with someone you can gradually share those interests with them. When I met my partner I never gave a crap about anime, card games, travelling etc but I came to enjoy sharing those things with him as our relationship grew.
Also you mention how you’re approaching your mid twenties like you’re in your twilight years - I never went on a date until I was like 27! In my somewhat defense I was never looking for a relationship haha. But I also never held a picture in my head of how I wanted my future partner to look, so when the person came along who I really connected with there was nothing standing in my way.
update on this: apparently the courier company is trying to claim it was delivered to me. they're saying the driver's GPS puts him in "the right area," but no houses in our street match the photo he took so he clearly wasn't in the right place. they're also claiming he "left it in a communal area" but not only do i live in a house, so there is no communal area, his own proof of delivery photo shows it on a doorstep and someone in the open doorway, so he didn't leave it anywhere -- communal area or otherwise -- he evidently gave it to someone. (and my name was signed, so forged by either him or the recipient.) the fact that this big company is just straight up trying to lie despite there being evidence that they are lying is wild lmao.new development in the worst week of my life: someone stole my new pc! it got delivered to a completely different unknown address (i've no idea where, because they're claiming it was delivered here, and there's no contact for the driver) and not only did the person ACCEPT IT, they might've potentially even signed my surname. (unclear. the automated response when i tried calling the courier company said my name was signed, but i'm not sure if it was just reciting the name on the receipt/package.) i'm... no words. what a horrible, selfish person regardless for not just telling the driver, "hey we didn't order anything from here," or "that's not my address or name on the label". so now i'm just missing a £750 pc lmao. emailed the seller company, and i can only presume they're opening an investigation with the courier service -- because i wasn't allowed to do it myself -- but they haven't answered me again yet. i know they're (hopefully?) probably doing their best, but the lack of response is making me very anxious when they initially responded very quickly. like that's a lot of money to just have completely up in the air.