Just an update post, but she's doing perfectly okay now.
She wasn't making to her litter box and she was moving sluggish. Her meow was a rough sound too. Had me worried sick.
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What's Bothering You?
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Just an update post, but she's doing perfectly okay now.
She wasn't making to her litter box and she was moving sluggish. Her meow was a rough sound too. Had me worried sick.
My laptop threw a lot of BSOD yesterday to the point I had to do a system restore, after that it still works ok for now. I have no idea what happened, but since the laptop is almost 6 years old with a broken hinge, i might have to look for a replacement.
The laptop is getting up there in age, but I still have a 15 year old one that works fine. Just might take a few minutes to boot up. If you're pressed for money, there's a few things you can to do keep it going for a bit longer. A full on system restore might help, but if there's some kind of program leeched in there that could be causing the problem or sucking memory unknown to you, it might hang on after the system restore.
Check your programs out. Could be some you didn't download and sneaked in or older programs you don't need anymore that are hogging memory. I think defragging my old laptop also helped it. Depending on how old your laptop is, your device might already do it without your knowledge/automatically and might not need it.
I broke up with my bf today. So like about 2-3 months ago he got a new job. And he has this coworker. He’s admitted she’s attractive. She’s tried to flirt with him he said. He said they’re just friends. But like every single time we’re on the phone it’s “so and so this, so and so that” it’s like constantly him talking about her and being all excited about her and now they go to the gym together after work and workout together. And he said he’s gonna let her use his kitchen to cook some cause she’s staying with a friend right now. So he’s gonna let her come over and use his kitchen to cook whenever. Also a lot of the time we’re talking on FaceTime I hear his texts come through and he gets distracted and they’re from her.
Like I feel like I’m justified in being concerned? Idk if I’m overreacting because of my BPD. Like I let it go for awhile. I don’t have a problem with him having friends or female friends but this just seems really excessive especially for someone he barely knows and is completely enamored with.
But idk. So I broke up with him. We’re also long distance at the moment so it complicates things further.
The thing is I don’t even think he realizes it’s happening. Like I literally believe he believes that nothing is going on. I don’t think things have to get intimate though for it to be considered cheating. But that’s just my opinion. I really just got sick of all our conversations revolving around her and what they’re gonna do. It would be one thing if they weren’t attracted to eachother but they are.
Idk maybe I’m overreacting but it was really aggravating me and I don’t want to sit here and hear it play out.
We’ve been together for a year and have known each other for 10
Like I feel like I’m justified in being concerned? Idk if I’m overreacting because of my BPD. Like I let it go for awhile. I don’t have a problem with him having friends or female friends but this just seems really excessive especially for someone he barely knows and is completely enamored with.
But idk. So I broke up with him. We’re also long distance at the moment so it complicates things further.
The thing is I don’t even think he realizes it’s happening. Like I literally believe he believes that nothing is going on. I don’t think things have to get intimate though for it to be considered cheating. But that’s just my opinion. I really just got sick of all our conversations revolving around her and what they’re gonna do. It would be one thing if they weren’t attracted to eachother but they are.
Idk maybe I’m overreacting but it was really aggravating me and I don’t want to sit here and hear it play out.
We’ve been together for a year and have known each other for 10
ZeldaCrossing64
Trust I seek and I find in you
I am so ****ing fed up with Spotify. I originally got it because I wanted a music platform with background play, but they've been blacklisting so many basic features to push their premium **** that it makes listening to music so much more unbearable. The desktop version was a bit more lenient than mobile, so I mostly listened to music on my Chromebook... Until now.
For the past day or so, Spotify just wasn't working for me. Like, songs wouldn't even load (or they would take a while to do so). I thought it was my device being slow, but this was on both my Chromebook and phone, and I realized there was an update. I updated the app on both devices, and lo and behold... I can't rewind and loop songs now because Spotify on my Chromebook is just like the mobile version. :/
And I mean that literally. Spotify looks like this:
I don't understand this change at all. The old layout (pictured below, it's an old screenshot I took) was just fine. Just... UGH!!!
I almost considered getting their stupid premium subscription, but I just don't have the means to spend $11 monthly so I can listen to music without their stupid-ass limitations. At this point I should just switch to a different platform because Spotify is so goddamn aggravating.
For the past day or so, Spotify just wasn't working for me. Like, songs wouldn't even load (or they would take a while to do so). I thought it was my device being slow, but this was on both my Chromebook and phone, and I realized there was an update. I updated the app on both devices, and lo and behold... I can't rewind and loop songs now because Spotify on my Chromebook is just like the mobile version. :/
And I mean that literally. Spotify looks like this:
I don't understand this change at all. The old layout (pictured below, it's an old screenshot I took) was just fine. Just... UGH!!!
I almost considered getting their stupid premium subscription, but I just don't have the means to spend $11 monthly so I can listen to music without their stupid-ass limitations. At this point I should just switch to a different platform because Spotify is so goddamn aggravating.
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When you're in a position to justify spending money on a music streaming service I'd absolutely recommend going for it. You'll definitely feel the benefit if you're a daily music listener.
I used to subscribe to Spotify but now prefer YouTube Music.
TotodileStars
💫 One day at a time 💫
This project is going to be the death of me - since it started, I've been feeling worse mentally than I have in years, and that's been affecting my physical health as well (provided they're connected at all).
I just feel exhausted, fed-up, sick, and generally awful.
Right, it sucks! I used to listen to music on youtube but the ads and limiting updates are getting ridiculous there too. D:
I've started using the screen recording feature on my phone to save the songs as videos, and from there I can convert them into mp3s or wavs using an app like VLC Media player. It's a little tedious, but it lets you play music offline without fees or ads so I think it's been worth it. Hopefully you can find a solution that works better for you.
ZeldaCrossing64
Trust I seek and I find in you
Edit: Okay, I wrote out this long-ass vent, but now I feel weird about posting it for some reason. I'm just having a really bad day and I'm frustrated/pissed off about a LOT of things.
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Dunquixote
Semi-Hiatus
Really depressed today. I was fine earlier but my mind wandered while trying to sleep and randomly I thought about my best friend and how much I missed him and it made me so sad. Still depressed after I woke up. I just took my medicine so I should be okay eventually moodwise. Still can’t get rid of this emptiness and ache :/
Not feeling any motivation to log in Genshin today. I’m so turned off and stressed still about the customer support and the issue with my accounts. Couldn’t really enjoy the cat event because of this either
Not feeling any motivation to log in Genshin today. I’m so turned off and stressed still about the customer support and the issue with my accounts. Couldn’t really enjoy the cat event because of this either
I’m in a car full of people right now and I don’t really like making conversation, so I put in my earbuds. Turns out my phone has been connected to the car through the usb charging port the entire time and it connected me to the radio 
The whole time I’ve been listening to music they’ve also been able to hear it. I’m glad I didn’t choose to listen to the more explicit music and I chose Katy Perry and One Direction.
The whole time I’ve been listening to music they’ve also been able to hear it. I’m glad I didn’t choose to listen to the more explicit music and I chose Katy Perry and One Direction.
This is just a vent. I’m doing okay. But I’m still feeling the throes of cutting out that one friend.
It’s a really weird spot when I want to be anrgy and set the record straight and actually have them see their problems but that’s just vengeance and ruminating and… well. No matter what I felt there, it seems life is just better without them. And that’s not the way to be, you know? I’m the kind of person who needs a great degree of self-restraint… that gets exhausting… I feel like I’m living from the outside-in.
It’s really… when I think of them I feel stupid, but the way they looked down on me later on… yeah. Not quite recovered from that. Relating myself to other people a lot less, but it’s still there.
There’s always a what could have been. It never would have been though. I never wanted to see the part of them that I did, but I’m glad I have so that I know to keep them away. I feel weird even posting this here. I’m stable but I’m just missing some things.
It’s a really weird spot when I want to be anrgy and set the record straight and actually have them see their problems but that’s just vengeance and ruminating and… well. No matter what I felt there, it seems life is just better without them. And that’s not the way to be, you know? I’m the kind of person who needs a great degree of self-restraint… that gets exhausting… I feel like I’m living from the outside-in.
It’s really… when I think of them I feel stupid, but the way they looked down on me later on… yeah. Not quite recovered from that. Relating myself to other people a lot less, but it’s still there.
There’s always a what could have been. It never would have been though. I never wanted to see the part of them that I did, but I’m glad I have so that I know to keep them away. I feel weird even posting this here. I’m stable but I’m just missing some things.
I feel a lot better than I did yesterday. That's the thing with BPD... My periods of sadness do not last long at all.
I don't have my favorite person anymore. It's actually I that broke contact with her, or at least limited the contact greatly. I haven't contacted her for over two months. She used to be the sole source of my happiness and now she isn't any of it. The fact that I moved on is great and I couldn't have seen this coming just a few months ago. It's just weird not having her. It's different? I sometimes would crave hugs and I received them from her, but I'm not on that level of friendship with many people. I actually have a few friends and I know where I stand with all of them. It feels nice to have an understanding of our friendship and to be okay with the boundaries we have set. It's not about me anymore, but about both of us, and I feel happier now that I realize that.
It's a good kind of different. I'm not even sure this has a place in the "what's bothering you" thread, but I'm getting there. I just sometimes need a hug and it sucks that I can't always get one, but on a brighter note? I somehow gained the maturity in the past few months to respect the boundaries of others and not force them into physical contact they may not be comfortable with.
I don't have my favorite person anymore. It's actually I that broke contact with her, or at least limited the contact greatly. I haven't contacted her for over two months. She used to be the sole source of my happiness and now she isn't any of it. The fact that I moved on is great and I couldn't have seen this coming just a few months ago. It's just weird not having her. It's different? I sometimes would crave hugs and I received them from her, but I'm not on that level of friendship with many people. I actually have a few friends and I know where I stand with all of them. It feels nice to have an understanding of our friendship and to be okay with the boundaries we have set. It's not about me anymore, but about both of us, and I feel happier now that I realize that.
It's a good kind of different. I'm not even sure this has a place in the "what's bothering you" thread, but I'm getting there. I just sometimes need a hug and it sucks that I can't always get one, but on a brighter note? I somehow gained the maturity in the past few months to respect the boundaries of others and not force them into physical contact they may not be comfortable with.
I went to a mall today and got harassed by three teenagers.
I was with my younger cousin and I was buying a gift for my mom. Three older kids stop us. They start yelling nasty sexual comments. Asking if we wanted to fight. Asking if we were intimate.
I'm not much older than them, but I was still the adult in this situation. (Albeit confused and nervous by the sudden conflict). I didn't say a word to them or give acknowledgment. I led my younger cousin into a store. (They started following us, yelling awful things). But soon gave up.
I hope I did the right thing. I keep thinking: Should I have said something to them? Either way I didn't bring it up much more. I didn't want to let them ruin what had been a peaceful day for us.
Why do people behave like this?
I was with my younger cousin and I was buying a gift for my mom. Three older kids stop us. They start yelling nasty sexual comments. Asking if we wanted to fight. Asking if we were intimate.
I'm not much older than them, but I was still the adult in this situation. (Albeit confused and nervous by the sudden conflict). I didn't say a word to them or give acknowledgment. I led my younger cousin into a store. (They started following us, yelling awful things). But soon gave up.
I hope I did the right thing. I keep thinking: Should I have said something to them? Either way I didn't bring it up much more. I didn't want to let them ruin what had been a peaceful day for us.
Why do people behave like this?
Reginald Fairfield
Senior Member
I need to resist an impulse buy, but it's a good deal, and I'm not likely to see it again.
I'm really, really sorry this happened to you. I can assure you you made the correct choice in ignoring them and continuing about your business. If you were to engage them with words or physical contact, it would only give them the attention they wanted from you. Especially since this happened in real life, a fight could have been dangerous. People will act like such jerks for no reason sometimes, it's truly appalling. Sending love and hugs your way.
I'm really, really sorry this happened to you. I can assure you you made the correct choice in ignoring them and continuing about your business. If you were to engage them with words or physical contact, it would only give them the attention they wanted from you. Especially since this happened in real life, a fight could have been dangerous. People will act like such jerks for no reason sometimes, it's truly appalling. Sending love and hugs your way.
It unsettles me most that we were doing absolutely nothing but going through our day before this happened. It very much reminded me of bullying in highschool. There was no reason for provocation. It's possible they were recording for TikTok though. (my cousin noted earlier there was a social media influencer in the mall).
People are scary. I'm cautious about others in public places and this justified me even more.
My debit card got hacked. I’ve been so scared of that happening and of course it had to happen to me. I had just enough money to save and to use for a phone card this month, and they took all of it. I called my bank and blocked my card for now and im going to talk to them later today before I go to work. I guess my phone is going to be disabled or something because I can’t pay for it
Update: We figured out what happened with my card. Someone stole my information and used it on Metapay, and apparently it’s a scam that’s been going around. My card got blocked and I’m getting a new one next week. Glad they didn’t take too much, just 40$. My mom offered to pay for my phone card this month because I don’t get paid until the day after it’s due. I’m glad everything got figured out.
Update: We figured out what happened with my card. Someone stole my information and used it on Metapay, and apparently it’s a scam that’s been going around. My card got blocked and I’m getting a new one next week. Glad they didn’t take too much, just 40$. My mom offered to pay for my phone card this month because I don’t get paid until the day after it’s due. I’m glad everything got figured out.
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If you have an income (ie: the same job paying you for a specific amount of time) there are cash advance apps that don’t require any sort of credit check. You can connect your bank account and qualify for cash immediately. I’ve used one before and gotten $200 at one point. Some of the services are free or cost very little (like a transfer fee of $8, or something, but that is usually billed with the payback and isn’t due upfront.).My debit card got hacked. I’ve been so scared of that happening and of course it had to happen to me. I had just enough money to save and to use for a phone card this month, and they took all of it. I called my bank and blocked my card for now and im going to talk to them later today before I go to work. I guess my phone is going to be disabled or something because I can’t pay for it
I thought I’d offer a solution/an alternative because phones are necessary for some people. I was out of a job for two months because of the job market a few years ago, and my mom lent me money for my phone bill because I needed it to apply for jobs. I’m sorry that happened! That’s happened to me before and it sucked, but I did get the money back from the hacker.
