What's Bothering You?

[Toska]

Yet again, I'm so worried about my friend/s. They keep making "jokes" about how awful their lives are and it stresses me out. One of them just mopes and cries to the extent I'm worried about their mental health. Another is obsessed with something that really isn't that good and has been acting really weird lately.

Another thing: I'm not supposed to talk to one of my friends because he is dating my female friend. Like, what? The boyfriend is so much nicer to me and doesn't treat me like actual garbage only for me to be not allowed to talk to him, just because this girl says so? She's put me through so much anxiety and hurt that I don't want to look at her. But she keeps saying things like "You're my only friend" and "You're the best person ever" so it's that much harder for me to even be mad. I'm done with her and this situation.

 

[_Rainy_]

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Im upset and stressed over something. Also someone started making spaghetti and told me they didn’t know how so I stepped in to help them and they went and sat on the couch. I had to make myself separate sauce without meat. And two different noodles because someone is gluten free. I accidentally burned my food because I got the different burners mixed up. Then I burned my finger and I have a tiny bit of second degree. What’s weird is that it doesn’t even hurt. My SO is insisting on getting me food even though I’m not hungry. Also my insomnia is starting to get to me and I just need to sleep for maybe 12 hours straight, but I don’t think that is going to happen. Also I’ve had some Grey hair ever since I was 16. I feel like I’m the only 22 year old with some grey hair and it stands out in my dark hair

 

[xSuperMario64x]

I need to leave to go to my dorm tomorrow and I literally don't even know everything I need to bring ughhhhh

also I guess classes start Thursday???? like bruh I am in no mental state of mind at all to be doing stuff siudhsdf
luckily tho I only have one class on Thursday and it goes from 9am to noon so ig that's good.

 

[Crash]

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[Midoriya]

Nevermind.

 

[oak]

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Wow that's scary, I'm sorry he is putting you through that. Would you still be safe if you flat out told him to give you space? You can message me if you feel like talking about the topic.

 

[Kuroh]

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I think saying things like "you're my only friend" and "you're the best person ever" in response to you is a form of manipulation for her to get what she wants... Also a big red flag that she's trying to prohibit you from speaking to someone that is kind Maybe it's jealousy?

I could be wrong, but it seems like she has a fear of abandonment both with her boyfriend and with you. It would be good to set down boundaries with these sort of people, and if they can't accept them, then they only care about themselves.

(I hope you don't mind the advice! I've been through very similar situations )

 

[Reginald Fairfield]

I'm gonna sound stupid and entitled so I'll put it in a spoiler:

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This "you're too old for this" mentality is making me angry to the point I want to cry. There's this Stitches plush toy I want to get on my birthday next week but I feel like again, it won't happen thanks to that dumb mentality. May I ask, what is wrong with having one? It's not like it's going to hurt me or anything. What you're doing is literally blocking me from being happy on the day that I'll celebrate on my birthday. Sure, there may be some things that could make me happy on that day, but it's not going to be enough to erase my sadness. I don't ask for stuff very often and those times where I do, I'm denied on wanting so harmless? It's ridiculous. Life is already gonna get bumpy and adult life will be something else. I'm gonna be leaving my teen years very soon and this is how it's gonna be wrapped it up... I really want to cry so hard right now but I have to hide it because I could be seen as "overdramatic" over something so little. Maybe I should cry myself to sleep instead and just mature into a boring adult. I know, it's silly but can't you make a guy be genuinely happy?

I'm not in the target audience for a lot of things I buy or watch, but I'm also not around people that would tell me that.

 

[togeshi]

I think I'm catching colds and it's been five years since I caught colds...

 

[rianne]

I'm gonna sound stupid and entitled so I'll put it in a spoiler:

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This "you're too old for this" mentality is making me angry to the point I want to cry. There's this Stitches plush toy I want to get on my birthday next week but I feel like again, it won't happen thanks to that dumb mentality. May I ask, what is wrong with having one? It's not like it's going to hurt me or anything. What you're doing is literally blocking me from being happy on the day that I'll celebrate on my birthday. Sure, there may be some things that could make me happy on that day, but it's not going to be enough to erase my sadness. I don't ask for stuff very often and those times where I do, I'm denied on wanting so harmless? It's ridiculous. Life is already gonna get bumpy and adult life will be something else. I'm gonna be leaving my teen years very soon and this is how it's gonna be wrapped it up... I really want to cry so hard right now but I have to hide it because I could be seen as "overdramatic" over something so little. Maybe I should cry myself to sleep instead and just mature into a boring adult. I know, it's silly but can't you make a guy be genuinely happy?

I know it's not quite the same since I am a cishetero woman, but just know I can empathize to an extent. You should absolutely not be shamed for wanting that on your birthday. Like you said, it is harmless and finding joy in things like that to keep one's inner child intact is paramount imo. I am sending a lot of well wishes your way for a good birthday celebration and life overall. It's so gross when people try to dictate what's "right" or "wrong" when it's really not that serious and they (not you!) need to get over themselves ASAP.

The normalization of such things seems to be such a huge issue in the West more so than the East. I've seen people of all ages up until retirement/elderly age get excited over lil toys, stuffed or otherwise, as well as comics and cartoons. I've been to a Sanrio store in Japan and an elderly woman got a small bag of goodies with a friend and it was totally mundane for them. Just business as usual for that store, I'm sure.

When products say "for ages x and up" or "for all ages" it really means it as such. /rant over.

 

[xSuperMario64x]

I'm gonna sound stupid and entitled so I'll put it in a spoiler:

Spoiler: Click if you want

This "you're too old for this" mentality is making me angry to the point I want to cry. There's this Stitches plush toy I want to get on my birthday next week but I feel like again, it won't happen thanks to that dumb mentality. May I ask, what is wrong with having one? It's not like it's going to hurt me or anything. What you're doing is literally blocking me from being happy on the day that I'll celebrate on my birthday. Sure, there may be some things that could make me happy on that day, but it's not going to be enough to erase my sadness. I don't ask for stuff very often and those times where I do, I'm denied on wanting so harmless? It's ridiculous. Life is already gonna get bumpy and adult life will be something else. I'm gonna be leaving my teen years very soon and this is how it's gonna be wrapped it up... I really want to cry so hard right now but I have to hide it because I could be seen as "overdramatic" over something so little. Maybe I should cry myself to sleep instead and just mature into a boring adult. I know, it's silly but can't you make a guy be genuinely happy?

literally don't care about what anyone else thinks. you do what you want. you're not harming anyone in doing so, so I don't see a problem with it. adult life really is boring, I've been merging into it for years and trust me it really helps to indulge in the things you enjoy, no matter how old you are.

heck I just bought a Jolteon figurine today, I now have seven out of nine Eevee figurines and it might be seen as immature and kids-only but who cares? it makes me happy and that's all that matters. you just do you man, don't worry about anyone's opinion especially if you're merging into adulthood. now isn't a good time to worry about what others think.

 

[Midoriya]

Honestly, the thing that’s bothering me the most right now is myself. I’ve had a good life and am doing okay, but still complain like I just did not too long ago. Why must I complain when I know there’s others out there that have it worse than me? I need to change my frame of thought and attitude and just maintain a positive mood, lol. There‘s no reason I can’t do that, and it would probably help the others around me too.

 

[Mimi Cheems]

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Well... today is the day one of my friends leaves to go back home. I'm devastated. I JUST met him about a month ago. We've been friends for a month. I've grown so close to him as we've talked for hours every day... I was a complete mess bawling my eyes out last night, I called my mom just... sobbing incoherently. I don't have a whole lot of friends irl. It just sucks that I meet someone I really enjoy talking to and hanging out with, and it's so hard... it's heartbreaking. I know I can just make NEW friends, but I felt comfortable with him right off the bat because I met him through a mutual I've known for almost 6 years irl... I felt such a DEEP and strong connection with him... and I don't know when I'll see him next. I'm going to miss him. I really am. Like, I know we'll still talk but it's just not the same as getting to see him in person...

 

[rianne]

Honestly, the thing that’s bothering me the most right now is myself. I’ve had a good life and am doing okay, but still complain like I just did not too long ago. Why must I complain when I know there’s others out there that have it worse than me? I need to change my frame of thought and attitude and just maintain a positive mood, lol. There‘s no reason I can’t do that, and it would probably help the others around me too.

Just let those feelings be felt. . .jmho. . .don't let it consume and plague you though. Toxic positivity is a thing and feeling the spectrum of emotions is entirely human and okay. It's okay to not be okay sometimes. Reframing your thought process could help though, but pls don't think there's something inherently wrong with you. Beating yourself up in that sense does no good. Idk if you ever write stuff down in a journal but that helps to identify the patterns of what "triggers" these emotions to well up and how you can best tackle them. You don't have to journal every day but just when you need to. And by the end of the entry, you can write what you're happy or thankful for to further "train" your mindset to shift towards that brightside you desire.

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I'm sorry (to re:all I "quote" btw). I don't mean to speak over anyone in this thread, but I just don't feel comfortable sitting back when I know many people on-site are fantastic people trying to better themselves like I am. We're all navigating the tumultuous ocean of life.

 

[Midoriya]

Just let those feelings be felt. . .jmho. . .don't let it consume and plague you though. Toxic positivity is a thing and feeling the spectrum of emotions is entirely human and okay. It's okay to not be okay sometimes. Reframing your thought process could help though, but pls don't think there's something inherently wrong with you. Beating yourself up in that sense does no good. Idk if you ever write stuff down in a journal but that helps to identify the patterns of what "triggers" these emotions to well up and how you can best tackle them. You don't have to journal every day but just when you need to. And by the end of the entry, you can write what you're happy or thankful for to further "train" your mindset to shift towards that brightside you desire.

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I'm sorry (to re:all I "quote" btw). I don't mean to speak over anyone in this thread, but I just don't feel comfortable sitting back when I know many people on-site are fantastic people trying to better themselves like I am. We're all navigating the tumultuous ocean of life.

Thank you, rianne. I really needed to hear this. I’m going to start a daily journal of life events and what I’m feeling. I think that would help a lot.

 

[Reginald Fairfield]

Friggin' puddle of sweat under my mouse arm.

 

[Ananas Dragon]

I can't put up with my mother's bull****

I have to go to Vegas instead of staying with my family, and nobody tells me anything about the law so I don't know jack if I get to choose where I stay

I'm tired of saying I love my mom, I don't, she's making me do this and i can't anymore

I don't want to go away without the rest of my family
I don't want to do this
I don't want to go through what she's putting me through
and I don't love her and I'm tired of lying about it but I have to

I hate my life so much right now

 

[xSuperMario64x]

Honestly, the thing that’s bothering me the most right now is myself. I’ve had a good life and am doing okay, but still complain like I just did not too long ago. Why must I complain when I know there’s others out there that have it worse than me? I need to change my frame of thought and attitude and just maintain a positive mood, lol. There‘s no reason I can’t do that, and it would probably help the others around me too.

your feelings aren't invalid just because someone has it worse than you. you are entitled to whatever you feel, good or bad, and you shouldn't feel guilty about that. but yes i agree, mainaining a positive mood wound help a lot

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im upset cause its almost 2am and i keep having to run to the bathroom. why of all times must my body do this to me at this hour??

 

[Midoriya]

your feelings aren't invalid just because someone has it worse than you. you are entitled to whatever you feel, good or bad, and you shouldn't feel guilty about that. but yes i agree, mainaining a positive mood wound help a lot

Post automatically merged: Aug 19, 2020

im upset cause its almost 2am and i keep having to run to the bathroom. why of all times must my body do this to me at this hour??

Thank you, xSuperMario64x. I really appreciate it.

 

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