What's Bothering You?

[Toska]

My “friends” are always telling me I’m wasting my life away by playing so many video games. Yeah, I know I’ve spent over 1,000 hours playing my switch but honestly I’m not sure what else I could be doing. I’m not athletic, I get frustrated when doing crafts, and reading was always too boring for me. I really enjoy just being able to relax and play some NH or Fe3h but at this point i just feel like thats me being lazy.

Also, I can’t tell if I’m a bad person or my friend is just trying to make me feel bad about myself

 

[deana]

My “friends” are always telling me I’m wasting my life away by playing so many video games. Yeah, I know I’ve spent over 1,000 hours playing my switch but honestly I’m not sure what else I could be doing. I’m not athletic, I get frustrated when doing crafts, and reading was always too boring for me. I really enjoy just being able to relax and play some NH or Fe3h but at this point i just feel like thats me being lazy.

Also, I can’t tell if I’m a bad person or my friend is just trying to make me feel bad about myself

I don't think there's anything wrong with having video games as your hobby ❤ It sounds like your friends are being a little harsh or maybe they've just absorbed some opinions from their parents / older generations who don't really understand the "video games as a hobby" thing. I think people who don't play a lot of games themselves don't understand the full entertainment value of games and therefore view it as a "waste of time" but that's super not true in my opinion and I'm sure many people here would agree.

 

[Dunquixote]

My “friends” are always telling me I’m wasting my life away by playing so many video games. Yeah, I know I’ve spent over 1,000 hours playing my switch but honestly I’m not sure what else I could be doing. I’m not athletic, I get frustrated when doing crafts, and reading was always too boring for me. I really enjoy just being able to relax and play some NH or Fe3h but at this point i just feel like thats me being lazy.

Also, I can’t tell if I’m a bad person or my friend is just trying to make me feel bad about myself

You’re not a bad person. I don’t know you friends, but from what they said, it sounds like something my mom or dad would say, so they may be just concerned. I have a friend who is extremely blunt with his criticisms and concern (which at first don’t seem like concerns) to me so maybe they are like that and don’t know how to sound less harsh. Sorry for butting in. I just can relate since my mom does this to me from time to time.

I know it is easier said than done, but don’t think you’re a bad person or badly of yourself because of their comments and continue doing what makes you happy. Also FE3H is great. Maybe you should show them the game and see if you can get them into it .

Sorry. @deanapants said it much better than me. I agree with everything they said . Maybe you should have a talk with your friends and tell him how you feel? Of course I don’t blame you if you don’t since there are things that have upset me that my friends have done or said to me that I don’t think I should bring up.

 

[Midoriya]

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[Dunquixote]

Still am experiencing depression. Also still am bothered by some stuff that happened a couple months to years ago. I wish there was a way to escape from them, my situation, regrets and memories like my dad selling some stuff i didn’t want him to for dirt cheap at our garage sales, my sister selling a lot more of mygames than i told her she could to buy a system she never played (can never get those games back thanks to the price and rarity), some problems with friends, embarrassing moments, and the whole thing with moving...I wish I could wake up and it all be just one bad nightmare.Please note, i do not wish anything bad would happen to me. no comment is needed. i don’t want anyone to feel bad. just need to vent how frustrated i am. i wish i was normal but i feel like i am not since i have trouble articulating my thoughts and jobs won’t hire me because of my anxiety, along with other things. The last thing i want to do is make a pity story. had enough of those and then no regard for my feelings from a friend’s cousin and others even when i said i have anxiety and being stressed about going to a funeral out of state, and other stuff. I have some issues knowing sometimes what is appropriate to say and not with asperger’s symptoms but it frustrates me even though I know I should understand they don’t get even the simplest in your face things — even i spell out i have anxiety. i mean i wish i wouldn’t let it bother me if they say when i tell them which cat died “oh she never came out anyways” and think, oh he didn’t mean anything by it. Well it still hurt.

Edit: I feel a bit better but still feel like i’m at the edge of mentally breaking. Even the smallest reminders of stuff triggers intense feelings :/

 

[Millysaurusrexjr]

gained a pound this week BUH

 

[Midoriya]

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[Dunquixote]

Not a big bother this time. Even though I know I should save my tbt (not having luck selling stuff either), I submitted a commission request but I am really nervous since I think I asked a lot out of the artist. I offered more than last time and will tip but am not sure if I offered enough. And am worried I annoyed her. I just really don’t want to rip anyone off. I wish I could figure out how to sell my items better. I have items set around the same price as the shops I buy from.

 

[Alienfish]

yep
ribbons are hard to tie for me

Yeah I just do a couple of knots so they stick, I used a velvet ribbon for another plushie before so it works

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the more self-aware I become with how my life relates to me being autistic the more upset and hopeless I become

This, especially since I got my diagnosis some years ago, it's like my brain and body flipped the switch and put like, mental restrictions that shouldn't even be there so I relate too well.

 

[ali.di.magix]

I thought by moving away from home I'd escape family drama but it's just as bad, but over the phone this time. I couldn't care less about my parents arguments face to face and didn't want to hear about it then, what makes them think I give a **** now lmao.

My dad got pissed at me because I cut him off while I was talking to my brother, and it was "too difficult" to go into another room and ask me something over my brother's phone. Once again, not my ****ing problem that they don't get along and I couldn't care less.

Then after that he sulked and refused to talk to me?? Seriously grow tf up so I spent my time stressing out trying to get into contact with him. Literally yesterday he was like "I don't want you to be stressed, let me help!", then he goes and pulls **** like that ffs. Having to deal with family drama causes more stress being half a country away, I don't want to deal with it.

 

[TheSillyPuppy]

i really want to eat healthier but it’s hard when my parents buy a lot of junk food :/ i tried finding atleast some healthier options in my house but there’s a bunch of cookies, chips, soda & ice cream

Have you talked with your parents about getting healthier snack foods? Or even go into the conversation with some ideas prepared on other snacks they could get.

My “friends” are always telling me I’m wasting my life away by playing so many video games. Yeah, I know I’ve spent over 1,000 hours playing my switch but honestly I’m not sure what else I could be doing. I’m not athletic, I get frustrated when doing crafts, and reading was always too boring for me. I really enjoy just being able to relax and play some NH or Fe3h but at this point i just feel like thats me being lazy.

Also, I can’t tell if I’m a bad person or my friend is just trying to make me feel bad about myself

I totally agree with @\deanapants. And quite honestly, I think playing video games is objectively one of the best hobbies someone could take up as we're still going through the pandemic. Depending on your friends and how comfortable you are opening a conversation with them to try understanding why they think you're "wasting your life."

Work has been so exhausting. A weekend never seems long enough to really rest. Growing up is so unglamorous.

 

[Peach_Jam]

feeling terribly dizzy but I have so much work to get done

 

[Midoriya]

My S/O and I are taking a break and now I have no one to talk to every day. My family cares about me, but doesn’t know what’s best for me. I don’t talk to my other online friends that much. I have no one. I’m sick and done with everything and everyone. Not even going to bother trying to make friendships or to date anyone ever again. Not going to bother trying to get a better job or place of my own. I don’t need anyone’s help. I don’t need anything. Just going to continue to play video games to numb myself for now.

 

[Stella-Io]

Craaaaaamps

Seems like these past months my periods have slowly but surely havin worse symptoms. Even when I'm not on my period I still get cramps. If I could I'd go to a doctor or somethin. Also pretty dang sure I have anemia or a blood iron/sugar issue.

 

[Soigne]

sick and tired of my job. i have an interview tomorrow that HAS to go well. i can't keep working 55 hours a week where i'm at now. if i get this job that i'm interviewing for tomorrow, i'll try to work part time making coffee here. but nobody listens to or respects anything i have to say, my boss constantly rearranges my schedule with short notice, and i'm constantly asked to cover for other people knowing that they would never do the same for me. i've had enough.

 

[Reginald Fairfield]

sick and tired of my job. i have an interview tomorrow that HAS to go well. i can't keep working 55 hours a week where i'm at now. if i get this job that i'm interviewing for tomorrow, i'll try to work part time making coffee here. but nobody listens to or respects anything i have to say, my boss constantly rearranges my schedule with short notice, and i'm constantly asked to cover for other people knowing that they would never do the same for me. i've had enough.

That'd do it. Sounds rough.

 

[Alienfish]

sick and tired of my job. i have an interview tomorrow that HAS to go well. i can't keep working 55 hours a week where i'm at now. if i get this job that i'm interviewing for tomorrow, i'll try to work part time making coffee here. but nobody listens to or respects anything i have to say, my boss constantly rearranges my schedule with short notice, and i'm constantly asked to cover for other people knowing that they would never do the same for me. i've had enough.

That sounds pretty.. illegal. Sounds like they're abusing you in a lot of ways, I'm sorry :/
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Also I love how job agency all of a sudden wants to talk to me, like me, a boss at work, and my contact person been trying to get ahold of you people for ages. Psht.

Also yes mom I like La boheme ****ing don't turn of the CD in the middle of one of the parts from it jeez lol

 

[Dunquixote]

Woke up a couple times and can’t stop thinking about my parents having my room painted even though I don’t want it painted and needing to pack everything in my room, the fact we hired people we don’t know, and the moving. I am back to point where i was in high school and in college where I am dreading every day.

I was feeling excited and happy about trying to draw again, but now I don’t know. I hate this and my situation and the fact there is no way out of it or our house being eventually sold. there is no way i can miraculously get a job that accommodates and accepts people with mental health disorders, money for a car and house or apartment and overcome my fear of working, leaving my house, overcome my OCD and be able to work in noisy and dirty environments, overcome my social anxiety. it’s for the grandkids. well what about your daughter? that’s all i hear about lately and it kinda hurts. i know it isn’t “fair” they need to drive hours to seem them but since I’m having trouble overcoming stuff even where i am comfortable, she hasn’t thought that moving will push me further back away from any progress. my mom was going to help me get tested for asperger’s and she still hasn’t. my mom still hasn’t left that bad review on ebay for that figure i got (nothing to do with this but i am upset even though i remind her she still hasn’t done it). i love my mom and dad even though i am extremely frustrated with so many things with my dad and how he always treated me, but i just don’t agree with this.

 

[trashpedia]

I have 3 tests in my classes today and finals next week >.> For some reason, all my classes say they try their best to pick dates that don't overlap any other classes and yet they all pick the same date. This has happened several times already and it stresses me out having to study for multiple tests within the timespan of less than a week for multiple classes.

 

[Alienfish]

My mom and her entitled opinions, shut the **** up and stop assuming how I am and also ...like I don't care about **** bro.