Asexual+Demisexual Positivity Forum

[Galaxite]

This is an Asexual and Demisexual Positivity forum if anyone feels like posting!
I myself found out that I was asexual and demisexual in 2019 after my jerk ex dumped me.
If you'd like to share your experiences with being an asexual or demisexual, feel free to in here.
This is a safe place if y'all want to talk about anything, even when you found out that you were asexual or demisexual!​

 

[xSuperMario64x]

OH MY GOD THANK YOU FOR THIS

so I've known since I was really young that I was ace but I didn't know it was an officially recognized thing until a few years ago. I'm very comfortable w my identity and I don't have any doubt about it; I actually more specifically identify as apothisexual (if you don't know what that is, do some research!). anyways, I've learned to embrace it and in doing so I've become more confident in myself!

I've only come out to people on here and one of my closest friends, not yet my parents. I've been ridiculed a lot by my mom for being repulsed by sex/ual attraction so i dont feel comfortable coming out to her just yet. I think it's difficult for a lot of people to grasp the concept, but it's really not that hard to understand. it's just difficult to accept. I'm hoping someday I can come out to my parents without having them throw a thousand questions and comments (and possibly insults) at me about it.


anyways I'm really happy that this thread exists! I would love to chat w you all about this since it's something I can identify with so closely and dearly

 

[Firesquids]

I'm demisexual and bi
Known for a long time about being bi, at least since I was in middle school, people used to always tell me I'll grow out of it, or I'm just confused, or asking me to prove it (ie. oh you like girls what do you like about them? Why are you attracted to body parts you have?) So I stopped telling people. I also was worried my platonic female friends would view me as predatory.
My sister is ace and people treat her like a child for it even though she's over thirty. Pretty annoying when people project their bias on you.

 

[Galaxite]

OH MY GOD THANK YOU FOR THIS

so I've known since I was really young that I was ace but I didn't know it was an officially recognized thing until a few years ago. I'm very comfortable w my identity and I don't have any doubt about it; I actually more specifically identify as apothisexual (if you don't know what that is, do some research!). anyways, I've learned to embrace it and in doing so I've become more confident in myself!

I've only come out to people on here and one of my closest friends, not yet my parents. I've been ridiculed a lot by my mom for being repulsed by sex/ual attraction so i dont feel comfortable coming out to her just yet. I think it's difficult for a lot of people to grasp the concept, but it's really not that hard to understand. it's just difficult to accept. I'm hoping someday I can come out to my parents without having them throw a thousand questions and comments (and possibly insults) at me about it.


anyways I'm really happy that this thread exists! I would love to chat w you all about this since it's something I can identify with so closely and dearly

I'm so glad I made this thread then! I just don't understand why parents would shame their children for being asexual or demisexual. It's nothing bad at all?? It just makes no sense to me lmao. My mom was like "Well if that's what you want" and it felt like she was ashamed or not believing me about it. I'm glad you're comfortable with your identity I'm so proud of you!​

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I'm demisexual and bi
Known for a long time about being bi, at least since I was in middle school, people used to always tell me I'll grow out of it, or I'm just confused, or asking me to prove it (ie. oh you like girls what do you like about them? Why are you attracted to body parts you have?) So I stopped telling people. I also was worried my platonic female friends would view me as predatory.
My sister is ace and people treat her like a child for it even though she's over thirty. Pretty annoying when people project their bias on you.

Man that's so ridiculous! I'm so sorry people do that to you and your sister. You both don't deserve that at all. I don't think you'd come off as predatory in my opinion. It's honestly so annoying when people are like "oh you're gay/bi/lesbian??? don't hit on me that'll make me uncomfortable!" Like let people just be friends with you. There's no ulterior motive. Stop thinking that people only want to flirt with you. Proud of you though! ​

 

[Miss Misty]

Being demisexual is rough in a world where, increasingly, the main way to date is dating apps, and people expect instant gratification.

My sister is ace and people treat her like a child for it even though she's over thirty. Pretty annoying when people project their bias on you.

That is absolutely the worst. I would never hit a child, but dang have I come close with some teenage girls who get all smug about "that's alright, some people are just late bloomers. you'll be sexually active one day!!111!1"

 

[Firesquids]

Man that's so ridiculous! I'm so sorry people do that to you and your sister. You both don't deserve that at all. I don't think you'd come off as predatory in my opinion. It's honestly so annoying when people are like "oh you're gay/bi/lesbian??? don't hit on me that'll make me uncomfortable!" Like let people just be friends with you. There's no ulterior motive. Stop thinking that people only want to flirt with you. Proud of you though!

Right? especially being demi too, I'm like I don't like you like that. Don't assume I'm out to get you (no pun intended) lol

 

[Galaxite]

Right? especially being demi too, I'm like I don't like you like that. Don't assume I'm out to get you (no pun intended) lol

Omg yes. It's so annoying. Like hello I need to build a connection first, not even attracted to you yet lmao.​

 

[axaniao]

I'm a demisexual hetero romantic! I've felt plenty of romantic attraction to guys but I've never felt sex/ual attraction to anyone until I got reeeeaaaally close to them, they're the only one I've felt that way about. I found out when I was reading a thing about sexualities and demi was on there, and I didn't realize that's what that was until I looked into it. So yea, I'm demi hetero ^^

 

[Galaxite]

Being demisexual is rough in a world where, increasingly, the main way to date is dating apps, and people expect instant gratification.

Ugh it really is. Like it's so hard on dating apps. I tried using Tinder and I'm so socially anxious so all the dates I tried were awkward. That's when I found out I'm demi and ace. They always just usually want one time things or to hit it off immediately and it's so tough because you want to get to know the person before you even commit.​

 

[Firesquids]

I'm a demisexual hetero romantic! I've felt plenty of romantic attraction to guys but I've never felt sex/ual attraction to anyone until I got reeeeaaaally close to them, they're the only one I've felt that way about. I found out when I was reading a thing about sexualities and demi was on there, and I didn't realize that's what that was until I looked into it. So yea, I'm demi hetero ^^

Honestly I thought demi was the norm until I started dating and people were so ready to go.

 

[Galaxite]

I'm a demisexual hetero romantic! I've felt plenty of romantic attraction to guys but I've never felt sex/ual attraction to anyone until I got reeeeaaaally close to them, they're the only one I've felt that way about. I found out when I was reading a thing about sexualities and demi was on there, and I didn't realize that's what that was until I looked into it. So yea, I'm demi hetero ^^

Omg same. I'm so glad my bf is demi too and he respects that I'm ace and completely fine with not having sex all the time.​

 

[Miss Misty]

Ugh it really is. Like it's so hard on dating apps. I tried using Tinder and I'm so socially anxious so all the dates I tried were awkward. That's when I found out I'm demi and ace. They always just usually want one time things or to hit it off immediately and it's so tough because you want to get to know the person before you even commit.​

I haven't even tried a dating app because of being demi + socially awkward so mad props to you for at least giving it a shot before writing them off

Honestly I thought demi was the norm until I started dating and people were so ready to go.

I thought demi was the norm too. At my high school, people really only dated within their friend cliques and everyone was too shy to ask anyone out quickly. So like the friends -> lovers thing made sense because that was all I knew. Imagine my surprise when out in the real world, there are confident people who will ask you out the second after you tell them your name.

 

[xSuperMario64x]

That is absolutely the worst. I would never hit a child, but dang have I come close with some teenage girls who get all smug about "that's alright, some people are just late bloomers. you'll be sexually active one day!!111!1"

duuudde this has been my mom for most of my life. nowadays when she tries to tell me this I just say "mom, I'm 21, don't you think I would have done that by now??" ><

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Honestly I thought demi was the norm until I started dating and people were so ready to go.

the fact that people are so ready to go, and the fact that it's so common among people, actually bothers me really bad. it's the main reason why, up to this point, I haven't dated anyone yet. cause I really don't want that kinda relationship lol

 

[Seastar]

I actually more specifically identify as apothisexual (if you don't know what that is, do some research!).

There's a word for that? Well then, that's what I am.

 

[Galaxite]

I haven't even tried a dating app because of being demi + socially awkward so mad props to you for at least giving it a shot before writing them off

Omg it was so nerve wracking though, a lot of people ghosted me and texting was so awkward because I didn't know how to hold a convo lmao.​

 

[xSuperMario64x]

There's a word for that? Well then, that's what I am.

apothis unite!!

 

[avieators]

i've known i was ace for a very, very long time (basically since i found out what sex was and was like that's WACK lol) i do like girls, but like. i like the idea of girls? like, i like looking at girls and saying shes so pretty but i'm not "ready to go" as someone else in this thread put it i think i might have shades of demi/gray ace, since i feel like i could consider it for that one perfect person...who knows tho lmao. i've never even had a romantic relationship but that's probably attributed to being in the south and being surrounded by mean girls (and the absolute worst kind of boys but thats neither here nor there)

 

[Galaxite]

i've known i was ace for a very, very long time (basically since i found out what sex was and was like that's WACK lol) i do like girls, but like. i like the idea of girls? like, i like looking at girls and saying shes so pretty but i'm not "ready to go" as someone else in this thread put it i think i might have shades of demi/gray ace, since i feel like i could consider it for that one perfect person...who knows tho lmao. i've never even had a romantic relationship but that's probably attributed to being in the south and being surrounded by mean girls (and the absolute worst kind of boys but thats neither here nor there)

Omg I feel that. I like girls in the sense of their fashion and makeup but not any romantic interest in them. They're cute and have such nice style! Especially characters like on animal crossing, too cute.​

 

[avieators]

Omg I feel that. I like girls in the sense of their fashion and makeup but not any romantic interest in them. They're cute and have such nice style! Especially characters like on animal crossing, too cute.​

thats why i'm just kind of like aaaagh i dont know what i am! bc i've never had romantic interest either, only like "WOW SHE CUTE" but maybe i just havent "met the right person" as my mom says. between the two i feel like i'd be more likely to have a romantic connection over a sexual one

 

[Galaxite]

thats why i'm just kind of like aaaagh i dont know what i am! bc i've never had romantic interest either, only like "WOW SHE CUTE" but maybe i just havent "met the right person" as my mom says. between the two i feel like i'd be more likely to have a romantic connection over a sexual one

You just gotta take your time. There's no rush to find a partner. Maybe you could potentially be aromantic and not really want relationships? It varies from person to person. Maybe you haven't met the right person yet but there's also no time limit on it though! Romantic connections are better in my opinion anyway.​