do you like yourself?

[xSuperMario64x]

inspired by the "do you like people" thread, now the main question is, do you like yourself?

I personally do, for the most part. I feel like I'm a decent person and I'm always self-observing and learning about myself so that I can become a better person. the only thing I don't like is how many mental health issues I have to deal with, mostly bipolar. but I'm very quirky and odd and funny, and I think being autistic leans into that too (I don't think being autistic is a fault, that's what makes me uniquely me!). I also try to be a good friend and listener to others, and I've gotten better about that. I know a lot of people like me, and I can see why! I'm a likeable person with all of my traits and even my faults.

 

[SkyKnight03]

Yeah, I mostly like myself.

My self esteem can fluctuate so I wouldn't say I'm '100% self love all the time'.

I'm aware of my own flaws and I'm gradually working through them to better myself. I accepted that it's okay to not be perfect and that helped me accept myself more.

 

[Suguri]

In my current state it's hard to like yourself when everyone wants you to be the definition of a "normal" teenager. :^(

But I can't just stop there. There are some things about me I'm mixed towards, but refuse to change anyway because it's become such an integral part of myself. My autism comes to mind.

I also don't like being called "perfect" too, because I am not and nothing is like that.

Might change this later when I get older...

 

[Psydye]

I'll be honest, not entirely...

I'm very self-conscious about my weight...thing is, I really DO need to lose at least some weight as I'm in a very unhealthy range. I don't mind being a little chubby but I'm a little beyond that. Need to start going for walks.

 

[Chronos314_XD]

It's really hard for me to love myself sometimes. I don't really like a lot of things about me, I hate how insecure and socially awkward I am all the time when in public and I end up constantly thinking I'm embarrassing myself or actually end up embarrassing myself. I also always have a hard time when letting go of past mistakes even when nobody cares anymore. I also really don't like the way I look and I'm super self conscious about it, it's why I always wear hoodies and face masks all the time.
I apologise if this sounds super whiney but that's how I think.

 

[matt]

Unfortunately this body is a hard body to please with various things going wrong

 

[Yoshi155]

I guess, but I hate a lot of things about myself. There’s a lot of times where I wish I could completely change myself personality wise and I think I put myself down too much.

 

[Seastar]

Yes and no.
Mostly just like myself personality-wise and nothing else. I hate a lot of things that I cannot change. I also have a problem with how I sometimes act under stress. Theoretically, there should be something I can do about that one, but I am in a terrible situation.

 

[Kitsuragi]

i don't think there's a single part of myself that i like, yet there's little to no motivation to change. i wonder if my own self-dislike makes other people think differently of me. i feel like some self doubt is normal these days.

 

[Midoriya]

I like myself as a person, but I like other people outside of myself more. I like to focus on getting to know people, being friends with others, and helping others out.

I personally think society is too focused on loving yourself to an unhealthy degree, and it creates selfish people who think about no one but themselves. I can't stand people like that, but they're prevalent in society these days. If more people focused their attention outside of themselves and on others who may genuinely need help or just someone to talk to, I believe the world would be a better place.

There's also people who focus on others too much, to the detriment of their own health. I think my mom was this way and it was part of the reason she went to an early grave. I think there definitely needs to be a balance, but people who focus the majority of their attention on themselves are just selfish imo.

 

[Firesquids]

Generally yeah, I like myself. The main things I dislike are the ones that feel out of my control and socially embarrassing. I don't like that I get so easily overwhelmed, and that I get anxiety attacks (overstimulation is really hard to manage!). I don't have good control of my tone and tend to speak bluntly. I can come across rude without intending to, so I often find myself misunderstood. I also hate the nasty things I sometimes say to myself to try to "keep myself in line". I'm pretty self aware about it now though, and don't feel like that's actually me, it's just other people's words echoing in my head. Overall, I think we're all works in progress. I'm trying to be kinder to myself and work on what I can control about myself to be the me I want to be.

 

[Roxxy]

Do I like myself? No not really. Do I appreciate that other people like me? Absolutely.

I have good qualities and good friends who appreciate me

 

[Neb]

I'm conflicted on myself. I think I'm a nice, smart, and a considerate person, but I also hate my appearance and I hate that I've made so many social mistakes. Therapy has helped a lot though and I no longer outright dislike myself. I can see the positive qualities I have even if the negative parts bother me sometimes.

 

[QueenCobra]

Now? Yes. Ten years ago? No. In high school, I was quiet and bullied quite a bit. (I still am quiet; was also diagnosed with Asperger’s as a teen.)

We all have our insecure moments, but overall I love myself. It took a long time to get here, and I don’t see myself going back.

I think the most important thing, to feel good about yourself, is to do what you love. (A hobby, a craft, etc.) It sounds odd, but that’s what boosts your mood and in turn your confidence. (at least for me)

 

[.: Meri :.]

I think, on a core level, I must. I don't think I try to sabotage myself, I like being around people who are nice to me and treat me well, and I take care of my needs. It wouldn't make sense to do those things if I hated myself on a fundamental level.

More generally/on a more conscious level, I usually do like myself, but it's taken me some work to get here, and there are still times when I suffer periods of self-loathing, though that happens to me a lot less than it did when I was younger. I'm still working towards better self love and acceptance, and that'll probably be one of the things I'll want to focus on when I get into therapy.

 

[Croconaw]

I do like myself. There are some things in the past I did in the past that I'm not necessarily proud of, but I think those things had to happen for me to be happy today. Why did I tear up writing that first part?

I struggled a good bit with myself being bipolar with the disassociating, impulsivity, unstable emotions, etcetera. I encountered situations over the past few weeks that should have upset me or cause me stress, but I was able to handle them properly and react in a more mature way.

Even today, I ran into one of my mom's friends that I'm not too fond of and he cussed me out. He's angry because of a fight with my mom, and he always takes it out on me. I was able to just look him straight in the face and walk away without starting something.

I inevitably encountered less than pleasant to deal with customers at work, one even raising her voice to me and calling me a slur. I calmly dealt with the situations while telling them to have a nice day rather than overreacting and creating a bigger problem.

I know that forgiveness from others for my wrongdoings in the past isn't necessary, but forgiveness for myself is... and I have.

 

[Tude]

Absolutely! I'm amazing *twirls*

 

[axaniao]

i do not like myself. i have a lot of mental issues and it seems to mess everything up for me.
i try to like myself but it's really hard when it feels like i mess up everything i touch
maybe in the future I'll be able to like myself more, but im going through a tough time that has made it extremely difficult to

 

[VernalLapin]

Some parts yes, other parts, hard no.

 

[Romaki]

I do like myself, after all I do act according to my own judgements and moral, but I've always been too smart for my own good too.
Like... for one I have a lot of mental health issues that come with that, gifted kid syndrome and all. Never learning how to learn etc.

But more importantly, I always know exactly why people behave the way they are behaving and it always leaves me jaded. I can always ruin a good thing because I will always find that one flaw I cannot let go of. I'm looking for perfectionism in relationships and that's just not realistic at all. Everybody is flawed, I know I am flawed, but I just can't move past that. And people are quick to find better friends than me.