Getting too much attention

[Corrie]

When people go over the top with doing nice things for you, do you feel awkward? Whenever I get a lot of attention I begin to panic and feel like I want to run away and hide, meanwhile I am honoured and I appreciate all they do for me but I just panic. It's really weird and I just don't know what's wrong with me or how to make myself calm down and not want to avoid anyone.

 

[Bowie]

Pretty much exactly how I feel. It's even worse on birthdays and at Christmas and stuff, because I always feel so guilty. In the end you've just gotta appreciate it and thank them and then it's all good. There's nothing bad about it.

 

[Alienfish]

Tell me about it... Been my life since I was a kid because I was a lone kid and spoiled like hell :/ And people always went overboard with attention. LIKE OMFG U DID THIS DRAWING LETS FRAME IT AT ONCE!!!!!1shift and like.. idek just got their minds really crazy over some crappy thing I was embarrassed over and such.

But yeah in general if people compliment me too much or stuff I can get really panicky. I'm not an extrovert nor good at taking this stuff as you should so I'm like.. yeah thank you let's hide this ugly paper away for now.

 

[LinkToTheWorld]

I've always struggled with this and not knowing how to react in those situations. I can remember when I had to leave my last job and they did an assembly for me...have no problem with being in front of a group of teenagers and delivering a lesson, but put me in front of the whole school and make a big fuss over me and it's like my nightmare. I see some people who handle it really well and I don't know how they do that. I never know what to say or worse, I say something stupid without thinking because I'm panicking. Have such bad anxiety at the best of times anyway. I'm just much better if I blend into the background, really never liked standing out for any reason and I'm very introverted by nature.

 

[seliph]

Honestly I love it and it gives me validation but I always have an underlying feeling of "I owe them" when it happens so it's bittersweet

 

[SaltedKaramel]

I know exactly what you mean. I hate attention, compliments, etc... that are directed towards me. I've gotten better at receiving gifts from other people though so that's some improvement lol! I don't know if it's public anxiety, shyness or something else but I don't know what to do in situations like that.

Like say a person comes up to me and compliments me on something like my clothes, I'm just like...."Uhhh thanks?" It sounds like I'm uninterested but really inside I really appreciate it.

 

[demoness]

i live off attention, especially if it boosts my ego, it's romantic or i'm being checked out or validates my vanity so not really

only kind that aggravates me is people that infantilize me when they see an adult woman in a wheelchair. i'm only physically disabled, don't baby talk me. ask if i need help, be concerned, that's sweet, but don't assume my condition and act normal. to be fair it's usually old people, not other millennials

 

[piichinu]

no it only used to bother me when i was like 7 or 8 and slowly went away

 

[N a t]

I like certain kinds of attention. Not like I love it, and not like I feel neglected, but I desire more attention from very select few people who I love to shower with affection that do not reciprocate ))

 

[vel]

i love attention, as long as it isn't being called on in class, because i usually don't know the answer.

 

[glow]

not at all, i love attention especially when it's from someone i love u feel

shower me in luv k thx

 

[dizzy bone]

It bothers me a little. I always feel like I owe them something, especially when it comes to money or someone buying me something. However, I do feel like I'm more on the giving end of things and sometimes I'm bothered that I don't get the same amount of attention lol... like my room mate is always sick. A week of every month she is sick with sinus infections or really bad period pains. I get really concerned about her and I'm always there to make sure shes ok (plus so is her boyfriend). But whenever I get sick, like no one cares lol. I think I offer a lot of myself and I expect the same back but it doesn't always work that way. Growing up at home too my mom always gave my brother tons of attention but she rarely bothered with me.

 

[LinkToTheWorld]

not at all, i love attention especially when it's from someone i love u feel

shower me in luv k thx

Oh yeah but I think that's a bit different. I like having attention off somebody I love but I really can't stand it if I'm in a situation where I'm the centre of attention within a group of people. I have some friends who thrive off being the life and soul of any situation, and I really admire them for it, it's something I wish I could handle better.

 

[Acruoxil]

No not really attention is good, especially if it's a person you appreciate because then you get an excuse to do things for them and give them more attention too