How do you feel about calling you names irl

[CylieDanny]

I went to get some coffee, and the dude behind the counter, kept calling me hun, or honey and it was kinda creepy. I didnt like it. Ive been called other things, like dear, or sweetie.

I personally dont like when people refer to me with different names. But how do you feel?

 

[Midoriya]

Interesting you should ask this, because I was on a trip not too long ago to the western part of Texas, and stayed at a hotel, and when I was having breakfast this waitress kept calling me "honey" or "sweetie." I honestly didn't think much about it, especially since they probably call every person there that.

If someone wants to call me something like that I'm fine with it. Just as long as it's nothing offensive. If someone starts calling me slurs or disrespects me I'm going to threaten to use my martial arts, lol.

 

[Neb]

It rarely happens to me, but I hate it. Even with people I’m close to I don’t like being called affectionate names very much. I would rather be called by my name in nearly every situation. Maybe someday I’ll open up a bit, but for now I’ll just stick to being called Benjamin or Sophie.

 

[Millysaurusrexjr]

It's a bit unprofessional but I don't mind it personally!

 

[Aquilla]

To me it really depends on the situation and the person doing it/ their intention behind it. I’ve been called “honey” by an elderly lady in a café before and thought it was rather endearing. If I’m being catcalled by middle aged men however, I absolutely hate it.

I have to add: being called endearments is not at all common in my culture. It would be quite weird to call someone “sweetie” or the likes out of the blue. I only ever use endearments with my spouse or very close friends. The only time a stranger would use endearments when addressing a stranger here in Germany is when someone tries to flirt or catcall.

 

[Chris]

I use terms of endearment with everyone. Never thought too much about it. It's very much commonplace where I'm from.

Likewise, I don't really overthink being called them. Not unless there is something else in the way they are speaking to me that is putting me on edge, at least.

 

[Belle T]

It's perhaps a little too familiar for my taste when it comes from complete strangers, but it's not something that necessarily bothers me. It's similar to the "dude" discussion that was had on this forum awhile back. It's not something I prefer personally, but I don't get up in arms over it usually.

 

[Xara]

it’s only happened to me a handful of times, but i actually kinda like it. i’m always scared out of my mind whenever i’m talking to someone, especially a stranger, and it helps reassure me a bit and make me feel more comfortable. it really depends on the situation and vibe of the person, though, and the name i’m being called. “honey” is fine, “sweetie”, “baby” etc feels a little too affectionate for a stranger to call me that, but again it depends on the situation and the vibes.

 

[Kitsuragi]

it bothers me if someone's doing it specifically to try to be flirtatious but if someones being sincere and kind, i love it.
waitresses at diners asking "what can i get you honey" like???? the best feeling. yes i'd love a refill. i owe you my life.

 

[deana]

I agree with others that it depends a lot on who it's coming from and the setting. In most cases I generally don't mind but there are a couple of specifics that are real "no"s for me. One of those being called "baby" or even worse "baby girl" other names I can handle but not those. The other big no is, people who get creepy with terms of endearment while I'm at work. I'm being paid to be fake nice to customers, that's what customer service is, but some people seem to think I'm giving out special friendly treatment or something which causes some unwanted friendliness from them in return.

 

[Roxxy]

Mostly I think from my experience and where I live it’s normally nice and just a friendly way to chat when you don’t know someone’s name. In my corner of the world you get used to it a normal friendly greeting here a woman could be called hen (not the feathered kind it’s so normal I actually need to find out why I grew up with a neighbor who always called me doll. Scottish people are friendly and I have never felt threatened or disrespected which is the most important thing. I am too old now but calling anyone baby

 

[Corrie]

For strangers, if it's not coming from an elderly person it feels awkward and uncomfortable to me.
I love it from family members or partners though!

 

[Belle T]

"baby girl"

I retract my previous post. I hate this immensely.

 

[Romaki]

Strangers giving you a nickname is a no-go. I dislike pet namers in general because they feel so impersonal, I don't want to be your 5th honey or something. But when my bff calls me sweetheart to comfort me that's okay. :3

 

[Croconaw]

Honestly, whether or not I’m into pet names deeply depends on the person calling me them. I never use them myself. On very rare occasions, I’ll call my favorite person a nickname but it’s not often. I do it a lot more to myself and behind her back than in person, but she does say my nicknames are endearing, so there’s that.

 

[QueenCobra]

It depends where I am or who’s saying it. When I was a kid at a restaurant in Tennessee, the waitress called me and my sister “sissy” and I thought it was kind of cute/funny. Then again, we were young kids, so it kind of made sense….

 

[Licorice]

Being called honey, baby, sweetheart, etc by a strange man makes me want to gouge their eyes out.

 

[LadyDestani]

It's extremely common to use these terms of endearment where I'm from. I grew up being called 'dear', 'sweetie', 'honey', and others by practically anyone older than me, so it generally doesn't phase me. It does happen a bit less now that I'm an adult, but elderly people and anyone working directly with customers still use those terms on a pretty regular basis. My boss (a female roughly my age) calls me 'dear' all the time. I live in a small town and it's just their way of being friendly, even with strangers.

I don't feel comfortable using those terms myself unless it's someone I'm very close to or a child, but it doesn't bother me when other people use them. That's assuming, of course, that it's their normal way of speaking and not some attempt at demeaning me or hitting on me. And I'm really not fond of 'babe', 'baby', or 'baby girl' in general. I allow my mom and my aunt to call me baby girl, but no one else.

 

[slzzpz]

Depends on the intent I'd say. If its condescending, etc...but usually it doesn't bother me.

 

[Mr_Persona]

I very hate being called "honey" "sweetie" "hun" "dear" by anyone. It bothers me very much