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LGBTQA - Discussion and support.
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Ghost Soda
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Too late? lolwat? Too late for what? Do people lose the ability to say when they don't like a word after it's said? Does saying queer cause them to die instantly or lose their voice or whatever?
I'm fine being called queer as long as it's not used with malice and would even call myself that.
HufflepuffCas
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I'm a little late to the forum, but I'm an asexual and aromantic person with aesthetic/sensual attraction towards all genders, and yeah...
Holy moly, this thread is really reminding me of tumblr right now (and why I generally avoid it).
I'm not going to get too involved in the argument going on here, but I'm going to be brutally honest and say that I have a hard time taking people seriously when every other word they say is censored and they're just all around being unnecessarily aggressive and hostile. It makes everyone else in the community look ridiculous.
I know that swearing like a sailor and yelling at everyone who disagrees with you is the cool thing on tumblr, but that doesn't mean it's acceptable to do everywhere else. And, even if you're not swearing, but still just being unnecessarily aggressive, that's still not helping anyone.
For the record, I've been abused for my gender and orientation, by strangers and family, and I've had just about every slur that exists used against me at some point, and I still support the right for individuals in the community to reclaim "queer" for themselves. If you don't want it used for you, that's fine. Most people don't. But there's a good way of making that clear, and a bad way, and dragging out a fight like this is definitely a bad way.
Every person in the world who uses the term isn't out to personally offend you. Yes, there are still some people who use the term to be cruel, but a lot of people don't. It's the same thing with misgendering and how uptight the tumblr community gets over it - more often than not, if someone misgenders me, they're making an honest mistake, and correcting them is enough to get the point across.
When you act like this, all you're doing is making yourself, and the rest of the community, look childish.
I'm not going to get too involved in the argument going on here, but I'm going to be brutally honest and say that I have a hard time taking people seriously when every other word they say is censored and they're just all around being unnecessarily aggressive and hostile. It makes everyone else in the community look ridiculous.
I know that swearing like a sailor and yelling at everyone who disagrees with you is the cool thing on tumblr, but that doesn't mean it's acceptable to do everywhere else. And, even if you're not swearing, but still just being unnecessarily aggressive, that's still not helping anyone.
For the record, I've been abused for my gender and orientation, by strangers and family, and I've had just about every slur that exists used against me at some point, and I still support the right for individuals in the community to reclaim "queer" for themselves. If you don't want it used for you, that's fine. Most people don't. But there's a good way of making that clear, and a bad way, and dragging out a fight like this is definitely a bad way.
Every person in the world who uses the term isn't out to personally offend you. Yes, there are still some people who use the term to be cruel, but a lot of people don't. It's the same thing with misgendering and how uptight the tumblr community gets over it - more often than not, if someone misgenders me, they're making an honest mistake, and correcting them is enough to get the point across.
When you act like this, all you're doing is making yourself, and the rest of the community, look childish.
yeah, i have to agree with this on some level. i used to use "queer" as part of the grouping, but now, it just seems wrong in a way? on multiple occasions, i've mentioned the slur and identified with it. almost all of the times, at least one of my friends looked visibly uncomfortable with me saying it. i don't say it anymore.
it's just a lot easier (and safer) to not use that word/slur. "gay" has become the new umbrella term, so why not use that instead? i'd like to hear some other views, so to everyone: feel free to reply.
also, yes. that game is... i don't even know. i saw sterling's gameplay. not so great.
apparently, the creators only did it to "prove a point".
(they only proved that they're ridiculously stupid.)
omg its so bad im like how did this get on greenlight? its sooo awful im not kidding . even gameplay wise its the worst thying ive ever seeen the music is so baed and the art is so bad. can this guy go back to baking or wahtever the **** his job was
steam doesn't monitor what goes on greenlight. the only kind of thing that closely resembles "monitoring" is them making people that want to feature their game on greenlight pay a $100 fee. clearly, it's not enough. :s
the main creator himself stated that he only worked on the game for a couple days before releasing it and putting it up. he wanted to make it bad.
i felt like emailing the company, but i don't think he'd be willing to listen to anybody. after all, he didn't even apologize (and STATED that he wouldn't).
Putting my two cents in to the subject of using words that have derogative meanings, I myself never personally had any issues with words such as "f**, queer, or homo" I generally used them myself, of course without any malicious intent. I myself am gay so I don't have any hatred towards anyone when using these words, nor when they're said by close friends.
However, some time ago, I met an incredibly wonderful friend whom I love to pieces and one day, I threw the word "f**" at him. And it really upset him. I was reluctant to change what I said because it's just whatever to me. But he explained to me a personal part of his life that left scars (both emotional and physical) and being called that word only reminded him of that traumatic time in his life. And you know, I really care about him and understood and never once did I call him a f** again. And soon enough, I actually found myself not even using that word for any other occasion. I still don't mind if it's used around me, not in vain of course. But like I believe it's been said here before, you just don't know what a person's gone through. It's more or less about being able to show empathy.
And I've actually never been called those names out of malice. I'm the type of person who has to actually convince new friends that I'm gay haha. I really don't show it, and it's nothing to do with any sort of pressing issue in today's world, it's more of just me being comfortable with who I am. I'm a dude who happens to like other dudes.
However, some time ago, I met an incredibly wonderful friend whom I love to pieces and one day, I threw the word "f**" at him. And it really upset him. I was reluctant to change what I said because it's just whatever to me. But he explained to me a personal part of his life that left scars (both emotional and physical) and being called that word only reminded him of that traumatic time in his life. And you know, I really care about him and understood and never once did I call him a f** again. And soon enough, I actually found myself not even using that word for any other occasion. I still don't mind if it's used around me, not in vain of course. But like I believe it's been said here before, you just don't know what a person's gone through. It's more or less about being able to show empathy.
And I've actually never been called those names out of malice. I'm the type of person who has to actually convince new friends that I'm gay haha. I really don't show it, and it's nothing to do with any sort of pressing issue in today's world, it's more of just me being comfortable with who I am. I'm a dude who happens to like other dudes.
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Yeah, that was on Steam Greenlight a while ago. The reason it was allowed in the first place is because Valve has no restrictions on any of the games submitted to be greenlit as long as the creator hands over a $100 fee. If enough people vote for it can become an actual thing you download on your PC, which is pretty awful. Thankfully it was removed in a flash due to how much criticism it was gaining from the community.
I'm probably just blind, but do asexuals count as a part of this thread..? If not, I just need to rant for a sec
I never hear about anything related to asexuality, which makes sense considering it's not as common as being lesbian/gay/bi/etc..at least from what I know. I'm asexual but I'm not exactly open about it, everyone assumes I'm simply straight. Not too long ago, I was in a conversation where we were for some reason talking about dating, who's lesbian, who's bi in our school, etc..I'd just like to add that I'm not secretive of my sexuality either. So they asked which guy I like, and I simply stated that I'm not interested in guys. They then assumed I was either bi or lesbian, but I said it was none of them and they all got confused :| there are plenty of other sexuality types out there, but yeah..I admitted I was asexual and haha..a majority of the people involved in the convo just didn't understand at all. "Then what are you gonna do when it comes to having kids?" "So there's gonna be no romance going on in your life? That's boring, at least experiment." I just wanted to repeatedly swing my head against a brick wall as they had a conversation about my sexuality for a good few minutes haha..
I never hear about anything related to asexuality, which makes sense considering it's not as common as being lesbian/gay/bi/etc..at least from what I know. I'm asexual but I'm not exactly open about it, everyone assumes I'm simply straight. Not too long ago, I was in a conversation where we were for some reason talking about dating, who's lesbian, who's bi in our school, etc..I'd just like to add that I'm not secretive of my sexuality either. So they asked which guy I like, and I simply stated that I'm not interested in guys. They then assumed I was either bi or lesbian, but I said it was none of them and they all got confused :| there are plenty of other sexuality types out there, but yeah..I admitted I was asexual and haha..a majority of the people involved in the convo just didn't understand at all. "Then what are you gonna do when it comes to having kids?" "So there's gonna be no romance going on in your life? That's boring, at least experiment." I just wanted to repeatedly swing my head against a brick wall as they had a conversation about my sexuality for a good few minutes haha..
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Right I get that some people identify with the word 'queer' but I am not going to reclaim a slur.
HAVE U GUYS SEEN THE CUTE COMIC WITH THE LESBIAN MARRIED CPUPLE OMG ITS SOOO ADORABLE
http://manhuajia.tumblr.com/post/118981113444/magan-danai-by-ermuzibu-previous-1-2-3
so I'm seeing more TWERFs pop up and tbh I really hope they burn in hell
http://manhuajia.tumblr.com/post/118981113444/magan-danai-by-ermuzibu-previous-1-2-3
so I'm seeing more TWERFs pop up and tbh I really hope they burn in hell
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Cute comic ^^ Anyway, I skimmed the recent stuff and everything I wanted to say has already been said in a very eloquent manner (thanks Mav!). I just wanted to hop in here and show my support for the LGBTQA community. I consider myself a pansexual, but I'm not very open about it in real life. I'm married to a man, so people usually just assume I'm straight.
confettistan
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Sup, didn't know this thread existed until now, but there really has to be some acknowledgement for Ireland here ^^! Winning by popular vote is huge, especially in a country so often called one of the most conservative in Europe.
Yes! I was pleasantly surprised by that, well done Ireland!!
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