Wow, I didn't know this. I also had some interest to watch sense8 but this kind of turns me back...I strongly dislike racist scapegoats. Blaming someone for problems, whether it's true or not, shouldn't matter! What does matter is that you get back up and fix those problems.
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Wow, I didn't know this. I also had some interest to watch sense8 but this kind of turns me back...I strongly dislike racist scapegoats. Blaming someone for problems, whether it's true or not, shouldn't matter! What does matter is that you get back up and fix those problems.
It kind of annoys me when people say that you'll never change their point of view. I think that is quite an unhealthy way to live. My opinions have changed or strengthened over time from discussion, debate and having access to new information.
brutalitea
tae bae
One of the founders of the LGBT movement/Pride in the US was a black trans woman (Marsha P. Johnson) so if the director really said that then she's a complete and utter moron. Johnson was a leader of the Stonewall riots (don't believe that crappy Stonewall Uprising "documentary") and spent her entire life fighting for LGBT rights. (imo, every LGBT person in the US should know about Johnson)
A closed mind and heart makes for a very predictable life, for many people that grants safety and happiness. Ignorance is bliss as they say.
Wisdom often comes from hardship, or atleast you could argue that matters of the heart which can make you happy, also can make you unhappy.
I do believe if you been thrown on the path of wisdom and growth, you are not likely to want to process reversed, but I believe even more in the simple principle that if you go through life with your vision purely facing forward, you have no clue what your missing out on and are destined for a happier life.
Life is funny that way. Enrichment offers higher happiness, but also deeper sadness.
None of this is meant in a condescending way though, I hope it doesn`t come across like that. Its just a very philosophical and psychological topic and those always trigger me to respond. The world would be a better place though if we as a species were more extravert.On the other hand, maybe the human race can`t carry that burden and we would all go insane. Liberal countries use much prozac.....
Err that was way offtopic.
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I want to add only this. I saw this React video (a youtube channel) about Caytlin Jenner and saw how scared those kids were to express their opinion. That saddened me. They were very careful with their words, but they should be encouraged to speak freely, as long as it can be considered respectful and its clear opinions aren`t brought like facts. The only way to educate people on these issues is by open debate. When someone`s true feelings on a matter stay hidden, it becomes much harder to communicate with them and pinpoint the reason(s) and often misconception(s) that person truly has.
Great example was when an interviewer confronted a black kid with the comparison towards racism. It really sparkled that kid like; "Oh wow, I never thought of it like that."
I know for sure that kids point of view was turned 180 degrees that interview. Atleast in the sense there is a deeper understanding.
Ah well.
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Wittle_Munchkin
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I'm a questioning asexual. (possible Grey-A) I'm able to experience romantic and platonic attraction, but anything more than that makes me feel indifferent or even weird depending on who I'm dating. Sometimes it's annoying, and other times, it can really come in handy. 
I have a few questions for the asexual/grey-a people here:
1. Are you in a relationship with someone right now?
2. If so, does your partner know that you're Asexual/Grey-a?
3. How do they feel about it? Are they understanding of it?
4. If you're not in a relationship, would you date someone who isn't Asexual/Grey-A?
5. Lots of asexuals are stereotyped as preferring 'cake' over uhhh... suggestive physical thingies beyond kissing. (Gotta keep this SFW xD Right?) I don't like cake at all! I'd rather have sushi or BBQ ribs. What about you?
6. What is your least favorite question that people who aren't asexual ask you?
7. Do your parents/friends know about your orientation?
8. Are they supportive of it? How do they show you their support?
9. How many Asexuals/Grey-A's do you know in person?
20. Describe your dream/favorite date with someone who didn't make you feel pressured to do the physical thingies.
Mine is walking through a clean and pretty park that has lots of trees. At night when it's cool outside. After a wonderful dinner. Snacking on frozen yogurt. Later holding hands while laying on a picnic blanket to look at the stars. Playing the acoustic guitar.
(I recently went on this date and it was the best! ❤ I wanted to share it because y'all are awesome and friendly.)
I have a few questions for the asexual/grey-a people here:
1. Are you in a relationship with someone right now?
2. If so, does your partner know that you're Asexual/Grey-a?
3. How do they feel about it? Are they understanding of it?
4. If you're not in a relationship, would you date someone who isn't Asexual/Grey-A?
5. Lots of asexuals are stereotyped as preferring 'cake' over uhhh... suggestive physical thingies beyond kissing. (Gotta keep this SFW xD Right?) I don't like cake at all! I'd rather have sushi or BBQ ribs. What about you?
6. What is your least favorite question that people who aren't asexual ask you?
7. Do your parents/friends know about your orientation?
8. Are they supportive of it? How do they show you their support?
9. How many Asexuals/Grey-A's do you know in person?
20. Describe your dream/favorite date with someone who didn't make you feel pressured to do the physical thingies.
Mine is walking through a clean and pretty park that has lots of trees. At night when it's cool outside. After a wonderful dinner. Snacking on frozen yogurt. Later holding hands while laying on a picnic blanket to look at the stars. Playing the acoustic guitar.
(I recently went on this date and it was the best! ❤ I wanted to share it because y'all are awesome and friendly.)
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I'm a questioning asexual. (possible Grey-A) I'm able to experience romantic and platonic attraction, but anything more than that makes me feel indifferent or even weird depending on who I'm dating. Sometimes it's annoying, and other times, it can really come in handy.
I have a few questions for the asexual/grey-a people here:
1. Are you in a relationship with someone right now?
2. If so, does your partner know that you're Asexual/Grey-a?
3. How do they feel about it? Are they understanding of it?
4. If you're not in a relationship, would you date someone who isn't Asexual/Grey-A?
5. Lots of asexuals are stereotyped as preferring 'cake' over uhhh... suggestive physical thingies beyond kissing. (Gotta keep this SFW xD Right?) I don't like cake at all! I'd rather have sushi or BBQ ribs. What about you?
6. What is your least favorite question that people who aren't asexual ask you?
7. Do your parents/friends know about your orientation?
8. Are they supportive of it? How do they show you their support?
9. How many Asexuals/Grey-A's do you know in person?
20. Describe your dream/favorite date with someone who didn't make you feel pressured to do the physical thingies.
Mine is walking through a clean and pretty park that has lots of trees. At night when it's cool outside. After a wonderful dinner. Snacking on frozen yogurt. Later holding hands while laying on a picnic blanket to look at the stars. Playing the acoustic guitar.
(I recently went on this date and it was the best! ❤ I wanted to share it because y'all are awesome and friendly.)
what the **** is grey-a
it means u have grey hair and are asexual
Wittle_Munchkin
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Lol I wondered the same thing before reading up on it.
When someone is a Grey-A, it means that they experience no sexual attraction (just like asexuals), but there are exceptions.
According to Wikipedia, people who identify as a Grey-A...
- do not normally experience sexual attraction, but do experience it sometimes
- experience sexual attraction, but a low sex drive
- experience sexual attraction and drive, but not strongly enough to want to act on them
- people who can enjoy and desire sex, but only under very limited and specific circumstances
It also says:
"Some people who might technically belong to the gray area choose to identify as asexual because it is easier to explain. For example, if someone has experienced sexual attraction on one or two brief, fleeting occasions in their life, they might prefer to call themselves asexual because it is not worth the bother of having to explain these one or two occasions to everyone who asks about their orientation."
Orientation isn't always in black and white, and it's exactly how I identified with mine.
I'm in a grey area for sure.
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Sometimes it's okay to not have anything to say. Sometimes it's okay to not know and have time to think. It's not right to put pressure on people to respond d to situations like that in the moment. Thinking g that we should know everything and know how to respond is a tool to help us interact in society on a practicsl basis. It's useful to have confidence in the th8ngs yo u do to help propel yourself forward but when it comes to thinking and "philosophy" we need less know jnowing, less and confidence and more time.
Sry.for weird grammar I'm on mobile
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Pressure is also bad when it prehibits people from speaking. Society has become overly sensitive. Personally I feel we should work more to distinguish people who are blantantly trying to insult from people with genuine questions on difficult topics. People have the pitchforks and torches hidden under their sleeves nowadays and 9 times out of 10 its for no reason whatsoever. I feel it weakens the message you give when you do come across a serious matter in daily life or the media.
So I definetly agree people should be able to form opinions in complete freedom, but I feel its a missed opportunity to be so hesitant to share thoughts with others, because it helps evolving and growing to a more mature and founded position.
tybalt_cake
heavymetallover
Sorry for the off-topic ness but i need answers
Is my mom homophobe?
Even through im a Hetero (no,i dont think being LGBT is bad,if i would,i wouldnt even posting here)i hate alot homophobic people,however as the title says
Example,one time,she was watching a movie were one principal character was gay and when he telled his dad,his dad was angry and disappointed,her reaction was like this:
"But why?Why this is happening in the world?why we cant live happy without discrimination?"
But when my aunt went to my house with my cousin and her friends,here what happened:
Cousin:I herd that "gay" means happy
I dont remember what my aunt sayed but then:
Mom:They say gay means happy but actually,gays will be always fagg*ts
Then my aunt and her friend started laughing with her.
It was pretty incomodating heard my mom saying that,she could hate everyone but not LGBT...
So...is my mom a homophobic or is transforming in that?
EDIT:Oh,and my no one was drunk at that moment
Is my mom homophobe?
Even through im a Hetero (no,i dont think being LGBT is bad,if i would,i wouldnt even posting here)i hate alot homophobic people,however as the title says
Example,one time,she was watching a movie were one principal character was gay and when he telled his dad,his dad was angry and disappointed,her reaction was like this:
"But why?Why this is happening in the world?why we cant live happy without discrimination?"
But when my aunt went to my house with my cousin and her friends,here what happened:
Cousin:I herd that "gay" means happy
I dont remember what my aunt sayed but then:
Mom:They say gay means happy but actually,gays will be always fagg*ts
Then my aunt and her friend started laughing with her.
It was pretty incomodating heard my mom saying that,she could hate everyone but not LGBT...
So...is my mom a homophobic or is transforming in that?
EDIT:Oh,and my no one was drunk at that moment
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first, i'd like to say that yes, this is a bit off-topic... but, this thread is both for support AND discussion, so it's fine. don't worry about derailing us (even though we weren't talking about much) or anything.
second, saying f*ggot usually means that the person who said it is homophobic, but it sounds like you were surprised by your mom saying the word. does she say that word often? does she openly admit that she hates LGBTQIA people?
tybalt_cake
heavymetallover
I dont know
its like when shes alone she supports it
but when shes with other people she says that
its like when shes alone she supports it
but when shes with other people she says that
OreoTerror
halo
Hey! My mum used to always say things about me being a lesbian, silly little things like "oh you're only looking at that lingerie website to check out all the hot girls" and stuff like that.
Well, I came out to her because she just flat out asked me if I was, and I said yes, and that was that. She said I could talk to her about anything no matter what and all that stuff, and that the whole family are super accepting so I didn't need to worry about that.
So yeah, I was so stressed about coming out that I never did it but I did and it felt so good to tell someone that's one of the closest people to me I have.
Well, I came out to her because she just flat out asked me if I was, and I said yes, and that was that. She said I could talk to her about anything no matter what and all that stuff, and that the whole family are super accepting so I didn't need to worry about that.
So yeah, I was so stressed about coming out that I never did it but I did and it felt so good to tell someone that's one of the closest people to me I have.
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