LGBTQA - Discussion and support.

[cannedcommunism]

So.
I've realized I'm bisexual for about a year now, but I haven't come out yet. One of my best friends, who I've had since 2nd grade, is super homophobic. I don't know how to tell him or how he'll react. Since we've been friends for years I'd expect him to support me, but his political views tell me otherwise. Any advice as to how I should tell him or handle it in case he reacts badly?

 

[tybalt_cake]

[WARNING:i dont know very much about this topics]
IMO,i think you should unfriend him,just think about it,when you tell him,hes gonna hate u,and the he will tell to EVERYONE,someone may support u,but that doesnt help from the hate of the others,people there would make u bullying,if ur teacher notices about this,and if she/he tell to your parents and ur parents are homophobics,ur ****ed man,probably the bully from everyone would make u depressed,coming to the point of you to suicide.
Sorry if this is very un-realistic,still,i think you shouldn't tell anybody in your school,i think this topic should be more talked in family than in school

 

[AnEndlessOcean]

So.
I've realized I'm bisexual for about a year now, but I haven't come out yet. One of my best friends, who I've had since 2nd grade, is super homophobic. I don't know how to tell him or how he'll react. Since we've been friends for years I'd expect him to support me, but his political views tell me otherwise. Any advice as to how I should tell him or handle it in case he reacts badly?

What you're going through is super prevalent. It's difficult to come out to people who are close to you, especially if you're aware that they might not accept you...but honestly? Go for it, if you're ready. Just tell him straightforward, it doesn't need to be special. If he doesn't support you, he's not the type of friend to keep around to begin with. If you don't feel comfortable coming out to him just quite yet, do it when you feel that it's the right time. The same applies for family, too! I was overwhelmingly nervous coming out to my friends, but I was very surprised when all of them turned out to accept me. Even one of my friends I've known since 1st grade (who wasn't too sure about it first) has come to accept me for who I am.

If you lose your friend over coming out, don't worry too much. You will meet people along the way who will become very close to you and the best part is; they'll accept you for who you are! Just take it a day at a time and you'll find that people who you're really supposed to be around will be there for you.

 

[radical6]

My friend is a mormon and he knows im bi (idk? questioning) and trans and so do his parents and im wondering whats the chance of his parents hating me bc i feel like they do

 

[cannedcommunism]

[WARNING:i dont know very much about this topics]
IMO,i think you should unfriend him,just think about it,when you tell him,hes gonna hate u,and the he will tell to EVERYONE,someone may support u,but that doesnt help from the hate of the others,people there would make u bullying,if ur teacher notices about this,and if she/he tell to your parents and ur parents are homophobics,ur ****ed man,probably the bully from everyone would make u depressed,coming to the point of you to suicide.
Sorry if this is very un-realistic,still,i think you shouldn't tell anybody in your school,i think this topic should be more talked in family than in school

Yeah you're not too good at this. My parents support gay marriage anyways XD

What you're going through is super prevalent. It's difficult to come out to people who are close to you, especially if you're aware that they might not accept you...but honestly? Go for it, if you're ready. Just tell him straightforward, it doesn't need to be special. If he doesn't support you, he's not the type of friend to keep around to begin with. If you don't feel comfortable coming out to him just quite yet, do it when you feel that it's the right time. The same applies for family, too! I was overwhelmingly nervous coming out to my friends, but I was very surprised when all of them turned out to accept me. Even one of my friends I've known since 1st grade (who wasn't too sure about it first) has come to accept me for who I am.

If you lose your friend over coming out, don't worry too much. You will meet people along the way who will become very close to you and the best part is; they'll accept you for who you are! Just take it a day at a time and you'll find that people who you're really supposed to be around will be there for you.

Thanks! I'll tell you how it goes.

 

[tybalt_cake]

Sorry >.<,i think im very n00b at LGBT topics

 

[cannedcommunism]

Sorry >.<,i think im very n00b at LGBT topics

It's alright. Probably not your thing though :\

 

[Jarrad]

So.
I've realized I'm bisexual for about a year now, but I haven't come out yet. One of my best friends, who I've had since 2nd grade, is super homophobic. I don't know how to tell him or how he'll react. Since we've been friends for years I'd expect him to support me, but his political views tell me otherwise. Any advice as to how I should tell him or handle it in case he reacts badly?

Racists, misogynists and homophobes don't get far in this world. If I were in your situation I'd just leave him suffer the consequences of his poisonous lifestyle.

(Though if he's truly your friend then he'd stay by you regardless of what or who you choose to identify as)

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My friend is a mormon and he knows im bi (idk? questioning) and trans and so do his parents and im wondering whats the chance of his parents hating me bc i feel like they do

I'm British so I literally only know of Mormons because of orange is the new black (lol) but if homosexuality and transsexualism is against their religion then I'd only naturally assume that they disapprove of "you" (quoted because i think ur sexuality and gender doesnt define you as a person)

 

[Cam1]

Im so confused. I know for a fact Im ace, and I think Im aromantic as well, althouggh Im not sure. If you had asked me a month ago, I could confidently say that I was both of those with no questions, but Im just not so sure. And I dont have any ace/aro friends, so I really dont have anyone to talk to about it. Well, I guess it will all work itself out

 

[Jarrad]

Im so confused. I know for a fact Im ace, and I think Im aromantic as well, althouggh Im not sure. If you had asked me a month ago, I could confidently say that I was both of those with no questions, but Im just not so sure. And I dont have any ace/aro friends, so I really dont have anyone to talk to about it. Well, I guess it will all work itself out

what do those mean

Spoiler: Ace???

 

[Cam1]

what do those mean

Spoiler: Ace???

Ace is asexual (lack of sexual attraction) haha. Aro is aromantic (lack of romantic attraction)

 

[Lady Timpani]

what do those mean

Spoiler: Ace???

lol

Does anybody else sometimes feel bad about their sexuality, even though they've identified that way for years? I sometimes get this way and used to think it was because I was questioning, but now I'm starting to realize it's just because I feel bad and guilty about being a lesbian.

 

[Cam1]

lol

Does anybody else sometimes feel bad about their sexuality, even though they've identified that way for years? I sometimes get this way and used to think it was because I was questioning, but now I'm starting to realize it's just because I feel bad and guilty about being a lesbian.

I feel guilty about being ace. I dont really know why wither, but I do.

 

[Paramore]

lol

Does anybody else sometimes feel bad about their sexuality, even though they've identified that way for years? I sometimes get this way and used to think it was because I was questioning, but now I'm starting to realize it's just because I feel bad and guilty about being a lesbian.

Yes, I usually feel ashamed.

 

[Ghost Soda]

lol

Does anybody else sometimes feel bad about their sexuality, even though they've identified that way for years? I sometimes get this way and used to think it was because I was questioning, but now I'm starting to realize it's just because I feel bad and guilty about being a lesbian.

Nope. Don't see why I would.

 

[yoshiskye1]

sometimes i feel pretty ashamed to be asexual as i kinda feel bad that i don't find anyone sexually attractive. it kinda feels like i'm a bit of a nature freak (given it's meant to be natural to desire sexual pleasure) and i feel like i'm a failure to society as i don't play the role i should if that makes sense

 

[Dragonqueen0912]

sometimes i feel pretty ashamed to be asexual as i kinda feel bad that i don't find anyone sexually attractive. it kinda feels like i'm a bit of a nature freak (given it's meant to be natural to desire sexual pleasure) and i feel like i'm a failure to society as i don't play the role i should if that makes sense

I feel the exact same way. Society has made sex something that shows you you love them but it's not true and it's ridiculous? Like I have my on ways of showing I care for someone I don't want to do something I have no interest in. I felt like such a freak before I even found out about asexuality, and I still do now.

My own brother didn't believe me when I told him, so now I feel like I can't tell anybody. Things like that is a huge problem, and we shouldn't be seen as freaks for not wanting anything to do with it

 

[yoshiskye1]

I feel the exact same way. Society has made sex something that shows you you love them but it's not true and it's ridiculous? Like I have my on ways of showing I care for someone I don't want to do something I have no interest in. I felt like such a freak before I even found out about asexuality, and I still do now.

My own brother didn't believe me when I told him, so now I feel like I can't tell anybody. Things like that is a huge problem, and we shouldn't be seen as freaks for not wanting anything to do with it

AH thank you! this post is just it. most people just laugh like i'm joking when i say i don't dig it. it's normal by societal standards (and lets face it, natural standards) to find enjoyment and be excited by sexual things but abnormal and crazy to just not

 

[kaitastrophe]

im a questioning asexual.
i have a question for those who are ace:
how did you know you were asexual?​

 

[Cam1]

im a questioning asexual.
i have a question for those who are ace:
how did you know you were asexual?​

My main trigger is that everyone else always said how they couldnt wait to get married so they could have sex and all, but it really just disgusts me in general.