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but then how else will i find who else is also a raging gay so we can d8
Celestefey
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I'm seeing a counselor soon, wondering whether or not to talk about coming out issues? I've never openly discussed my sexuality with anyone in real life before. I've sort of mentioned I was kind of questioning my sexuality to a few people but I just say I'm heterosexual. I'm too afraid of having to face rejection... I know my parents wouldn't react well. I suppose I just want to find ways to cope. But again, I'm just afraid that if I tell my counselor, she'll tell my parents... I doubt she would, all of the information in counseling sessions is kept private and confidential, but my mum kept asking me what I was going to say in my counseling sessions... It's like ahhfjdnskmlms nooooo. ;v;
(I'm bisexual btw, seeing the counselor for reasons relating to depression though)
(I'm bisexual btw, seeing the counselor for reasons relating to depression though)
@Celestefey
Well, if you feel you can trust your counselor about this, then I say go for it! Bear in mind though that unfortunately, not all counselors are open-minded about sexual orientation. I'm not telling you this to make you feel scared. Rather I'm saying this so it's not too much of a surprise if the counselor really does react negatively. Most counselors should be fine anyway, just saying.
Also, the counselor isn't allowed to talk about things discussed in sessions openly, so she will not talk about this to your parents. About your mom... Well, all I can say is that you're already 17 so you shouldn't feel the need to tell her something that you want to keep private. Just tell her it's none of her business what you're gonna talk to your counselor about. She has to understand this!
Well, if you feel you can trust your counselor about this, then I say go for it! Bear in mind though that unfortunately, not all counselors are open-minded about sexual orientation. I'm not telling you this to make you feel scared. Rather I'm saying this so it's not too much of a surprise if the counselor really does react negatively. Most counselors should be fine anyway, just saying.
Also, the counselor isn't allowed to talk about things discussed in sessions openly, so she will not talk about this to your parents. About your mom... Well, all I can say is that you're already 17 so you shouldn't feel the need to tell her something that you want to keep private. Just tell her it's none of her business what you're gonna talk to your counselor about. She has to understand this!
I know what you're intending to say, but also! Some people like having their sexuality/gender identity/etc. define them because it helps to give them a solid sense of self. I understand what you're saying, however, but it's also good to acknowledge that some people need their characteristics to define them.
my first time posting in this thread, hello!i'm 18, asexual and tbh it makes me cringe when people ask me about having a boyfriend (i feel slightly silly for it >.< ) and she/her pronouns.
also I might not post here much bc i'm on/off hiatus (depending on my college workload lol)
LOL ppl ask me this every day and its a slow and painful thing to explain
cornimer
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@lencurryboy hello!!
I just wrote an essay about this for school. Gender roles and the oversexualization of society. So I'm glad someone understands me. XD
RainCrossing
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Celestefey
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Thanks so much. I haven't met with my counselor yet, I was just sort of planning certain things I could talk to her about! I suppose after a few sessions I'll be able to work out whether I can trust her with that information or not and such and I'll go from there. I don't really feel a need to come out to everyone but... It kind of sucks that I have to hold this in all the time because I fear being rejected for who I am. I can't help it or control it. It just hurts a lot when I hear my dad making homophobic jokes or comments, and I'm standing there trying to soak it up and act like I'm okay with it. I'm not okay with it! It really hurts my feelings a lot of the time, but I can't say it! My dad literally told me and my brother one day that he'd be "disappointed" if either me or my brother came out as 'not straight' (basically...) but he'd still accept us. Okay, so he'd "accept us" but be disappointed in us and make us feel like complete failures over something we cannot even control? I don't know. It just hurts. I'm glad that I have supportive friends on the internet though who I can talk to about it and we share the same problems so it makes it easier knowing I'm not the only one suffering through this.
And yeah, I keep telling her that I just want it to be kept between me and the counselor, I say it's because I want a "neutral person" to talk to it about! I don't want to tell people everything, she needs to accept that. She's always going on about how I'm an 'adult' now so she should treat me like one too and respect my privacy.
But thanks so much for your help! ;v; I'm really grateful.
but my gayness is such a big part of my personality
A lot of people are into dating, so obviously sexual/romantic preference can be a big deal. Most of the people who use this forum seem to be older teens and people in their early 20s, according to the age poll, so it would make sense; people generally are into dating and the likes at this age.
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I mean those that don't intend to date the individual and literally judge the person on who they want to be with. Why does their sexuality matter on who they are as a person?
JellyDitto
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Unpopular opinion : I feel like people that dont agree with homosexuality and etc shouldnt be put down. Also before i get berated for being homophobic, Im gay.
Edit : I also feel like lgbt people that put down homophobes are just as ignorant as the homophobes themselves.
Edit : I also feel like lgbt people that put down homophobes are just as ignorant as the homophobes themselves.
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crystalchild
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yeah, in my opinion, someone's orientation shouldn't matter to you unless you're considering sexual/romantic relations with them, and the only judgment you should make based on the answer is whether such relations are a possibility or not. unfortunately this is a dream scenario and not always realistic in the world we live in.
i don't feel like going out of my way to announce that i'm gay, it's a revelation that has to come naturally, or in some situations may be concealed to avoid attention. i really don't want it to be a big deal. the downside is that i can never find a date, hahaha.
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this better be a joke.
JellyDitto
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Just because someone doesnt agree with your sexuality doesnt mean theyre not a good person. :/
LovelyLavender
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My two cents: You do you. Love who you want to love.
Yes, it does. It's not all that different from disliking someone because of their race. Sexuality/gender identity are just as inherent as race; it's something you're born with. If someone says they don't like you or don't "agree" with you because you're gay, trans, etc. they're saying they don't like you because of a fundamental part of you that you have no way to change.
Homophobes are bad people, end of story.
LovelyLavender
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I believe there is a difference between bad people and just being narrow minded.
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