LGBTQA - Discussion and support.

[LovelyLavender]

"Hot gay girls" aren't there for your pleasure.

Jesus. I hate that. My apologies if you're joking, but this really gets under my skin as I'm sure my girlfriend and I wouldn't get away with being in a lesbian relationship because I'm not hot. Ew a fat chick lol she must be one of those lesbians who are super feminist and hate all men because one made her angry. lol

"I hate homosexual relationships they're just wrong. *looks at lesbian porn*" A pretty good example of certain men who only view women as there for their pleasure.

Man I've been up for 2 hours and already today Berri's had to put on her feminist/lgbtqa hat and keep it on. @_@ C'mon guys, why.

I'm sorry to be technical. But the term "hot" is opinion. I actually do prefer my partners chubby, because I am attracted to that.

Sorry I'll leave now.

 

[Officer Berri]

No, i understand that. It's just that the at large opinion of hot gay girls are the skinny college girls who have pillow fights and make out in their tiny little negligees.

That's what I'm reacting to. They probably meant it as a joke post, but it's been a source of frustration for me ever since I was a kid. One of the first times I noticed hypocrisy in action, actually!

 

[LovelyLavender]

No, i understand that. It's just that the at large opinion of hot gay girls are the skinny college girls who have pillow fights and make out in their tiny little negligees.

That's what I'm reacting to. They probably meant it as a joke post, but it's been a source of frustration for me ever since I was a kid. One of the first times I noticed hypocrisy in action, actually!

I give you a cyber hug. I hope it eases your frustration.

 

[Gregriii]

It's not. That's the point. Congratulations. How is a homophobe's actions based in good intentions when all it does it hurt people?

Well when an homophobe insults someone the person can decide to get offended or not, while you can't avoid having your leg broken

 

[Esphas]

cant we just agree the leg analogy was awful and arguing over it is futile because it didnt even make much sense in the first place? okay thanks

 

[Officer Berri]

Dude, like, why are you getting so worked up, man.

Like, just choose to not be offended with our dislike of how homophobes treat us like crap. ♥

 

[RiceBunny]

Something must be in the air today because there are too many angry people about in this forum today. Everyone needs to get off their computers, go outside and take a breather.

Anyways, does anyone else really like turtles? I've always wondered if some turtles can be gay. I mean, I've seen them trying to dry hump shoes and other misc. items, but I've never seen a male turtle try to dry hump another male turtle. Can anyone confirm dis?!

 

[boujee]

Something must be in the air today because there are too many angry people about in this forum today. Everyone needs to get off their computers, go outside and take a breather.

Anyways, does anyone else really like turtles? I've always wondered if some turtles can be gay. I mean, I've seen them trying to dry hump shoes and other misc. items, but I've never seen a male turtle try to dry hump another male turtle. Can anyone confirm dis?!

what kind of sht

 

[LovelyLavender]

Dude, like, why are you getting so worked up, man.

Like, just choose to not be offended with our dislike of how homophobes treat us like crap. ♥

You are a godsend

 

[crystalchild]

brewster's cafe sure is heated today.

sexualization is probably one of the primary reasons i don't like to talk about my orientation a lot of the time. the whole "ooh hot lesbian, can i watch" phenomenon is something i hope never to experience. disgusting.

i am also pretty ace, and having to try to convince someone that sexual and romantic orientation can differ is just too much effort. not to mention the fact that many can't even wrap their heads around the concept of asexuality in the first place.

 

[cornimer]

brewster's cafe sure is heated today.

sexualization is probably one of the primary reasons i don't like to talk about my orientation a lot of the time. the whole "ooh hot lesbian, can i watch" phenomenon is something i hope never to experience. disgusting.

i am also pretty ace, and having to try to convince someone that sexual and romantic orientation can differ is just too much effort. not to mention the fact that many can't even wrap their heads around the concept of asexuality in the first place.

I know! Everyone thinks that love=sex, and when you try to explain that you're not interested in the latter people assume that you're not interested in relationships at all. But it's so not true. Asexuals are just as capable as falling in love as other people are, we just aren't interested in the physical side.

 

[RiceBunny]

brewster's cafe sure is heated today.

sexualization is probably one of the primary reasons i don't like to talk about my orientation a lot of the time. the whole "ooh hot lesbian, can i watch" phenomenon is something i hope never to experience. disgusting.

i am also pretty ace, and having to try to convince someone that sexual and romantic orientation can differ is just too much effort. not to mention the fact that many can't even wrap their heads around the concept of asexuality in the first place.

This^ I usually told any potential boyfriends at some point that I was pansexual, and if their response was "so you'be be into threesomes?" then I ran the other way ASAP.
Also, yes, just because you're sexually attracted to someone, it doesn't mean you're romantically attracted to them or vice and versa. People also have preferences. Sexual preferences are also a thing if you just like everything or more than one. It's ok to prefer one to the other, you're allowed and it doesn't mean anyone else can put a certain label on you. It saddens me when I see other people get shamed for having "too many girlfriends/boyfriends" when they say they're gay. Just because you're Bisexual it doesn't mean you have to have an equal amount of girlfriends/boyfriends.

 

[cornimer]

That really sucks. I think there is a lot of pressure that parents put on their children to have children themselves one day. It's a little bit selfish if you ask me. It's not the parent who will have to deal with another child, after all. It'll be you, ultimately, if you choose to have a child. They'll only see the nice side of their grandchild and won't have to deal with all of the trouble and hassle that comes with having a child again. And secondly, it's not their place to decide, after all! It's your life and you're in control of it, so you live it the way you want to. There is nothing wrong with choosing not to have children, there is nothing wrong with being ace. I'm sorry you've had to go through that too. I would hope though if you ever did tell your mum that you were ace that she would be accepting of you and your life choices. Just give it time and thought. I would suggest if she says things like that again to try and ask her why she thinks that, or ask what's wrong in not having children? Or you could say something like "having children shouldn't be your main aim in life, you should focus on travelling or fulfilling your life's dreams", at least that way you're sort of hinting towards her you're not interested without explicitly saying it. It's not fun just constantly feeling like you will be a disappointment to your parents, but seriously, you aren't at all. What your parents think is not the be all or end all, in the end. That's what you have to try and remember, and I do try and tell myself that.

Your post made me feel a little better, thanks. c: You're right, there really shouldn't be so much pressure on people to have children. It's not for everyone. Unfortunately for me, my mom just happens to really, really want grandchildren, which is why she often tries to hint to my sister and I that we should have lots of kids. A few times when she brought up the topic of having kids I did say "You mean if I have kids", but she just responds by saying that one day I'll find a nice guy and have kids. And inside I'm just like "Nooope".

I have a close relationship with my mom, but I just know she wouldn't react well if I told her...oh well. If/when I'm 35 and still don't have kids or a boyfriend, maybe then she'll understand. XD

I really hope that things work out with your family too!

 

[GalacticGhost]

brewster's cafe sure is heated today.

Agreed. Some people really need to chill. Of course, in a thread about a topic like this it's probably to be expected.

Boy, am I glad that there are no threads about religion...

 

[Officer Berri]

The fun thing is I'm asexual. So I really don't understand the concept of sexual attraction. To me sex is an icky thought. I will only have to to make the babbles. Sex organs are creepy. xD

Also the heating of brewsters is probably my fault. I do tend to heat things up like a volcano when I get into such topics.

THIS. NON BINARY WHO IS FINE BEING CALLED GIRL FOR SIMPLICITY'S SAKE. IS ON FIYAAAAAA.

 

[cornimer]

Agreed. Some people really need to chill. Of course, in a thread about a topic like this it's probably to be expected.

Boy, am I glad that there are no threads about religion...

THAT would be a disaster. Please nobody ever start one.

- - - Post Merge - - -

The fun thing is I'm asexual. So I really don't understand the concept of sexual attraction. To me sex is an icky thought. I will only have to to make the babbles. Sex organs are creepy. xD

This is exactly how I feel. Isn't the Internet great? It lets you know that you're not alone. :')

 

[Officer Berri]

I don't think the site would be able to handle that. It would just melt into a puddle of goo.

Though I'm a non-confrontational pagan so I'd just sit and watch. And dance in the fire.

for the glory of satan of course

 

[cornimer]

I don't think the site would be able to handle that. It would just melt into a puddle of goo.

Though I'm a non-confrontational pagan so I'd just sit and watch. And dance in the fire.

for the glory of satan of course

Someone just started a religion thread...

 

[Officer Berri]

I'M GETTING MY DANCE READY. ♥♥♥

 

[Shimmer]

brewster's cafe sure is heated today.

sexualization is probably one of the primary reasons i don't like to talk about my orientation a lot of the time. the whole "ooh hot lesbian, can i watch" phenomenon is something i hope never to experience. disgusting.

i am also pretty ace, and having to try to convince someone that sexual and romantic orientation can differ is just too much effort. not to mention the fact that many can't even wrap their heads around the concept of asexuality in the first place.

I actually had no idea that romantic and sexual orientation could be different until last year because my boyfriend told me about it. It's fascinating, it really is. It made me re-evaluate my sexuality.

I used to think that I was biromantic but hetero with both romantically and sexually. When considering being sexually active with a girl, my first thought was about preforming oral which wasn't really my cup of tea but to be honest, preforming oral sex on a guy really isn't my cup of tea either. XD I mean, I would totally do it for my partner if they asked but I would never WANT to do it for the sake of doing it. I just want to please them. So the same would be with a same sex partner. I would do it if it pleased them.