LGBTQA - Discussion and support.

[boujee]

It helps. I do like her but not much for other women.
It makes sense.

 

[tae]

Not sure if I'm not going to get much support but is it possible to be bisexual but you're really not as attracted to the opposite sex?
As I'm growing up I thought I was straight, I still think I am. Throughout I've been attracted to only men. Up to this point, I have this friend who's female and I really really like her, like literally. I can see myself with her but I can't really see myself dating other women but her. Now I believe I was bisexual but at the same time, can't see myself dating a girl so now I'm all confuse.

you might just be attracted to her and find her to be aesthetically / physically pleasing? but if you honestly can't see yourself ever dating a girl, and you're not even certain if you'd date her, i'm not sure you should jump the gun and say you're bisexual. maybe you're just curious?

 

[boujee]

you might just be attracted to her and find her to be aesthetically / physically pleasing? but if you honestly can't see yourself ever dating a girl, and you're not even certain if you'd date her, i'm not sure you should jump the gun and say you're bisexual. maybe you're just curious?

Probably! I can see myself dating her but I don't really have much of attraction to other women. I'm probably curious and exploring my sexuality so who knows~
She's gay herself, I find her both aesthetically pleasing with a nice personality as a bonus. Ha, if I ever dated her she would make jokes in how she made a straight girl gay. u0u

 

[tae]

Probably! I can see myself dating her but I don't really have much of attraction to other women. I'm probably curious and exploring my sexuality so who knows~
She's gay herself, I find her both aesthetically pleasing with a nice personality as a bonus. Ha, if I ever dated her she would make jokes in how she made a straight girl gay. u0u

regardless play around and find what fits for you. but just be safe while you do, haha. :') there's no harm in experimenting and don't feel pressured to put a label on yourself right away. it'll drive you crazy trying to guess and put yourself into a block. just do what feels right and go from there, friend. ~

 

[NursePhantump]

OK how exactly do you explain they and them pronouns to someone because I'm having trouble explaining this and it's simply bc they don't understand which is fine just

difficulty

 

[tae]

OK how exactly do you explain they and them pronouns to someone because I'm having trouble explaining this and it's simply bc they don't understand which is fine just

difficulty

that the person (or yourself) don't go by he/him/she/her pronouns and prefer to stay gender neutral and that the only pronouns they'll respond to are they/them.

 

[NursePhantump]

that the person (or yourself) don't go by he/him/she/her pronouns and prefer to stay gender neutral and that the only pronouns they'll respond to are they/them.

I've tried explaining that part already, btw yes it is me going by the they/them pronouns. But they're asking things like "why do you use these pronouns though?" and I'm trying to explain that it's simply because it just feels right and they're rly not understanding and I'm starting to think it's on purpose whoops

 

[boujee]

regardless play around and find what fits for you. but just be safe while you do, haha. :') there's no harm in experimenting and don't feel pressured to put a label on yourself right away. it'll drive you crazy trying to guess and put yourself into a block. just do what feels right and go from there, friend. ~

I will! Or I will try. I'm not going to go to any clubs or anything, especially since it's cold out to experiment on some girls. And once again I'll try. I've been thinking about it for awhile so it'll come to me soon I guess.

 

[tae]

I've tried explaining that part already, btw yes it is me going by the they/them pronouns. But they're asking things like "why do you use these pronouns though?" and I'm trying to explain that it's simply because it just feels right and they're rly not understanding and I'm starting to think it's on purpose whoops

are you agender? how do you identify if you don't mind me asking.
does said individual know you identify that way?
does this person speak a different language than you because i've often learned with some people who speak a different mother tongue than english have a hard time understanding the use of they/them pronouns because of how they're taught / used in their own language.

 

[NursePhantump]

are you agender? how do you identify if you don't mind me asking.
does said individual know you identify that way?
does this person speak a different language than you because i've often learned with some people who speak a different mother tongue than english have a hard time understanding the use of they/them pronouns because of how they're taught / used in their own language.

I'm actually demigirl, I don't mind you asking! I tried to explain that to this person but it didn't come across quite right and it just confused them even more. They asked why I don't use she and her pronouns instead since I feel partially female and it would confuse less people.

 

[boujee]

I've tried explaining that part already, btw yes it is me going by the they/them pronouns. But they're asking things like "why do you use these pronouns though?" and I'm trying to explain that it's simply because it just feels right and they're rly not understanding and I'm starting to think it's on purpose whoops

I don't think it's on purpose, it's probably a new concept to them so the only thing they really can do is ask questions because that's all they can do to get some clarity. It's kinda like me when I was trying to understand more about transgender people, mostly because my adoptive aunt is trans, I didn't really talk to her much growing up as kid since she was my uncle before and mostly because my family was isolated so it would have been weird to throw that on the table so I went on the Internet seeking answers lol. I understand it a bit more and I even came to a reasonable time to talk to my aunt about it.
I love her really much and so does my family. In due time they'll understand.

 

[NursePhantump]

I don't think it's on purpose, it's probably a new concept to them so the only thing they really can do is ask questions because that's all they can do to get some clarity. It's kinda like me when I was trying to understand more about transgender people, mostly because my adoptive aunt is trans, I didn't really talk to her much growing up as kid since she was my uncle before and mostly because my family was isolated so it would have been weird to throw that on the table so I went on the Internet seeking answers lol. I understand it a bit more and I even came to a reasonable time to talk to my aunt about it.
I love her really much and so does my family. In due time they'll understand.

I hope they do because I do like having this person as a friend but I think I might just send them an article on demigenders and get it over with because I've never been good at explaining things ^^;

 

[tae]

I'm actually demigirl, I don't mind you asking! I tried to explain that to this person but it didn't come across quite right and it just confused them even more. They asked why I don't use she and her pronouns instead since I feel partially female and it would confuse less people.

but she/her pronouns make you feel uncomfortable right? so just tell them that. "i don't fully identify as female, so female pronouns feel incorrect to me so please don't use them towards me." if they can't understand it, i could at least hope they'd respect your request to be comfortable and happy.

 

[NursePhantump]

but she/her pronouns make you feel uncomfortable right? so just tell them that. "i don't fully identify as female, so female pronouns feel incorrect to me so please don't use them towards me." if they can't understand it, i could at least hope they'd respect your request to be comfortable and happy.

they make me very uncomfortable yes (vomits at family gatherings) and hopefully they will, I've sent them a thing on demigender and am seriously hoping that it helps even a little.

 

[libertyxrose]

I am bi in a lesbian relationship. Almost everyone in my class is homophobic (except my gf lmao) so we're terrified to come out. In the bathroom my girlfriend anonymously wrote I am a lesbian on the door and recieved no end of hate. Why can't I just be who I am D:

 

[visibleghost]

I am bi in a lesbian relationship. Almost everyone in my class is homophobic (except my gf lmao) so we're terrified to come out. In the bathroom my girlfriend anonymously wrote I am a lesbian on the door and recieved no end of hate. Why can't I just be who I am D:

homophobia sucks so much. hope you can get to be in a place where you feel safe enough to come out sometime soon. good luck ;;

 

[libertyxrose]

homophobia sucks so much. hope you can get to be in a place where you feel safe enough to come out sometime soon. good luck ;;

tyty

 

[Dorian]

Awesome! Hi all! I am a gender fluid married woman with a gender fluid nineteen year old daughter. Always have been even back when we didn't have a descriptive title!

 

[Bowie]

I can't decide what the hell I am. Sexually, I know I'm gay, but when it comes down to my gender it's difficult. More or less, I don't agree with gender norms. If I want to wear something longer than a suit then I will, but that doesn't necessarily mean I'm trying to be a girl. I'm just trying to be me, and it's irrelevant to me whether that makes me look like a girl or a boy. I identify as a boy, and I'm 100% fine with identifying as a boy, but at the same time I'm very oblivious to it. I don't know what that would be called.

 

[boujee]

I can't decide what the hell I am. Sexually, I know I'm gay, but when it comes down to my gender it's difficult. More or less, I don't agree with gender norms. If I want to wear something longer than a suit then I will, but that doesn't necessarily mean I'm trying to be a girl. I'm just trying to be me, and it's irrelevant to me whether that makes me look like a girl or a boy. I identify as a boy, and I'm 100% fine with identifying as a boy, but at the same time I'm very oblivious to it. I don't know what that would be called.

It's called being you