clothes don't have a gender. wearing a dress doesn't make you any less of a boy, just like me wearing makeup and growing my hair out doesn't make me any less of a boy.
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clothes don't have a gender. wearing a dress doesn't make you any less of a boy, just like me wearing makeup and growing my hair out doesn't make me any less of a boy.
I didn't say you were. Stop taking general statements so personally.
This.. It annoys me when people associate such crap with a certain gender/sex out of the blue. It's one thing if you don't feel comfortable wearing either because of your identity but it's rude to assume everyone thinks that way or likewise.
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I used to feel this was too, for a long time. Well, one kind of big difference was that it bothered me I guess haha, but yeah.
I didn't really care about gender, but I kind of wished I didn't have to label myself with a gender identity. I wished I could just be me and not have to be gendered all the time with pronouns, "girl clothes" or stuff because I just wanted to enjoy stuff because I liked them, not because I was a certain gender.
After some time of feeling this way I started getting more and more certain that I was male, which is what I identify as today. I still don't really care about gender a lot, I don't really care about gender norms, I still wish gender didn't have to be such a big deal, but now i definitely have a gender identity, which I didn't back then... I dunno I guess I wanna say that it's fine to feel like that and that I kinda get it (unless I don't ahheh)
I personally don't think you need to label yourself if you don't care. People around you will probably keep reading you and gendering you as male, and if you don't think it matters and it doesn't bother you then it is probably fine. You don't have to tell anyone either, if you don't feel the need to. But just because you are fine with identifying as a boy it doesn't mean that you have to be one, so I suggest that if you feel confused or wish to explore this you could try to find out about different identities.
Personal opinion: I think it's annoying that gender is a really big deal and that you pretty much are cis until proven otherwise. I just wish gender wasn't part of everything all the time. I don't know, I'm just tired of it.. rant over i guess haha sorry this wasnt really a great reply
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Tbh I like to consider myself agender but a lot of people have boatloads of beef with that idea so I usually never bring it up.
Who I'll fight them
I haven't made any actions. I asked for some clarity and my way of thinking is apparently transphobic now. Just goes to show how sensitive some people are. What a day.
That Zephyr Guy
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Instead of taking offense over finding out your way of thinking is a bit wrong maybe learn to change your way of thinking.
Or don't. Idrc. Who needs an open mind?
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Holy **** it's amazing how many posts someone can make about how people are "too sensitive" but be the most sensitive and upset person on the boards.
That way of thinking is transphobic, and it's not uncommon for trans people to have internally transphobic thoughts, especially when trying to figure themselves out. Nor is it uncommon for LG people to have internally homophobic thoughts or women to have internalized misogyny. It's something that basically everyone deals with that can be unlearned.
Get over yourself.
Maybe I'd agree if I actually said a single thing about my way of thinking. I'm just being accused randomly based on the smallest things I've said about my gender. What is it with this forum today?
Well, I don't know or care whether you're homophobic or transphobic or a misogynist or not, but I know that I'm not and I was only seeking some causal advice. I don't know why you're so interested in pursuing every little thing I say.
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No I wouldn't say you are but putting too much emphasis on that and assuming it's all about it is a bit naive. One thing if you don't feel comfortable in said stuff because one or more reasons is one thing, basing it off that is another. Sure, people may alter their looks a lot and I don't blame them but to be honest I wouldn't assume stuff based on what you wear. If you told me you are whatever I would stick with that to show respect.
To later posts about agender, I consider myself that and while I have maybe more attributes to whatever gender/sex than the other I don't want to define myself being whatever gender/sex there is. I'm fine with whatever pronoun to be honest, I just don't want a definition and prejudices based on what comes with being a girl, boy etc. and I don't feel like home in either of the worlds.. Like if "world of man" would be eg, soccer and beer and "woman" being typical womanly things like caring way too much or whatever I'm neither.
That Zephyr Guy
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If you don't think like that then why exactly are you getting offended....? If you've done nothing wrong then what's to be upset about.
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moko: yeah, i know a lot of people don't feel "at home" in either the stereotypically male or female role and therefore either id as nonbinary or like they don't really care.
i honestly really dislike that certain ways of living, or certain clothes or interests are gendered, it shouldnt have to be like that :<
i honestly really dislike that certain ways of living, or certain clothes or interests are gendered, it shouldnt have to be like that :<
That Zephyr Guy
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Tbh the fact that you're taking such offense to the thing he said only makes it look more like you actually think that way. If you didn't make such a huge fuss over it I wouldn't have thought so at all.
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