LGBTQA - Discussion and support.

[Souji]

I don't hate allies, I'm glad there are allies in the first place! But I do dislike when some allies think they are owed something for being allies or they try forcefully include themselves in thing they don't belong...

Also;
"I hate homophobic people! How dare they be like that!"
"I hate when white, cis allies try to help! How dare they!"

I understand that some things allies can do are... questionable. But they are not all bad.

 

[radical6]

I don't hate allies, I'm glad there are allies in the first place! But I do dislike when some allies think they are owed something for being allies or they try forcefully include themselves in thing they don't belong...

Also;
"I hate homophobic people! How dare they be like that!"
"I hate when white, cis allies try to help! How dare they!"

I understand that some things allies can do are... questionable. But they are not all bad.

i dont hate allies. i just get very ticked off at allies sometimes. you call them out for saying something wrong? "WAAH!1! WITHOUT US YOU WOULDNT HAVE RIGHTS1!1!1"

no one hates cishet white allies for being who they are. its just that some of them end up being jerks who put their feelings over us. they dont listen to queer people talk and try to put their opinion in.

 

[Twisted Circuits]

Ok, what on earth is cis or cishet?

 

[oath2order]

Cis = cisgender. Basically, what most people are. You were assigned "male" at birth, and you grow up agreeing you're male. Or female.

Cishet = Cisgender + heterosexual

Ciscum = Cisgender + scum. Yes, this is a thing. Mostly a Tumblr thing.

 

[Colour Bandit]

I used to be one those 'holier than thou' allies, but after a lot of talking with members of GSRM community (aka showing me that I wasn't really helping) I've stepped back a bit and am now more of a shoulder to cry on and try to stop Cishets from using derogatory terms so casually... I've found that with losing my superiority complex I've learnt more about GSRM, e.g. Demisexuals who I had no idea existed before and common courtesies which most allies ignore...


(GSRM: Gender, Sexual and Relationship Minorities, I was asked to use this awhile back as it covers everything...)

 

[radical6]

I used to be one those 'holier than thou' allies, but after a lot of talking with members of GSRM community (aka showing me that I wasn't really helping) I've stepped back a bit and am now more of a shoulder to cry on and try to stop Cishets from using derogatory terms so casually... I've found that with losing my superiority complex I've learnt more about GSRM, e.g. Demisexuals who I had no idea existed before and common courtesies which most allies ignore...


(GSRM: Gender, Sexual and Relationship Minorities, I was asked to use this awhile back as it covers everything...)

i feel like most allies only care about the gay dudes. like. the cis ones. it gets really annoying when they type "GLBT' im like wowww that better be a typo.

i think the term GSRM is better than LGBT but i read somewhere the dude who created it or w/e was a piece of crap and hated LGBTQA+? that and i read that cishet allies try to put themselves in because apparently they fit in the term ?? i dont understand how??? but?? idk.

 

[Colour Bandit]

i feel like most allies only care about the gay dudes. like. the cis ones. it gets really annoying when they type "GLBT' im like wowww that better be a typo.

i think the term GSRM is better than LGBT but i read somewhere the dude who created it or w/e was a piece of crap and hated LGBTQA+? that and i read that cishet allies try to put themselves in because apparently they fit in the term ?? i dont understand how??? but?? idk.

I used to be one of those 'only gays matter' allies :/ I try not to focus on one specific group now...

I was asked by someone whose identity didn't fit into LGBTQA to use GSRM (plus I find it easier to use and explain to others) and never really knew it's origins, I'll still use it though since it includes all minorities- Allies do not fit in the term, we are not a minority! We are not oppressed! I just want to punch those allies in the face, pushing themselves in all the time and making us all look bad (ugh I wish I could tell younger me not to be so stupid like those allies)

EDIT: I just noticed in my last post I put relationship in GSRM, it's meant to be romantic...

 

[radical6]

I used to be one of those 'only gays matter' allies :/ I try not to focus on one specific group now...

I was asked by someone whose identity didn't fit into LGBTQA to use GSRM (plus I find it easier to use and explain to others) and never really knew it's origins, I'll still use it though since it includes all minorities- Allies do not fit in the term, we are not a minority! We are not oppressed! I just want to punch those allies in the face, pushing themselves in all the time and making us all look bad (ugh I wish I could tell younger me not to be so stupid like those allies)

EDIT: I just noticed in my last post I put relationship in GSRM, it's meant to be romantic...

so apparently GSRM is used by cishets because...

because i’ve seen it coopted by cishets who think they belong in our safe spaces because they are ~kinky~ and i’m not here for that **** like if people think it’s a more inclusive term that’s fine (and as a cis person i wouldn’t dream of telling trans* people that they should or shouldn’t use an acronym that they feel is more/less inclusive) and i don’t think LGBTQ is perfect or non-erasing but until i stop seeing cishets think that that term includes them i’m not comfortable using it myself

so like BDSM crap?????? i have no idea why in the world they would use it. ???
please do punch those allies oh my god

 

[Colour Bandit]

so apparently GSRM is used by cishets because...



so like BDSM crap?????? i have no idea why in the world they would use it. ???
please do punch those allies oh my god

Seriously... Find me these people so I can knock some sense into them, anyone can join in with me.
If anyone feels uncomfortable with me using GSRM because of Cishets that think being kinky makes them the same as Gays, Trans*, Queer, etc. people then I will stop using it here. But otherwise I will still use it as it covers everyone and other reasons that I have said before...

 

[Bon]

Oh, I didn't know we had a thread like this o: I'm the B!

 

[001rich100]

What's with everyone using a single letter to represent their orientation? Just spell it out! Lol

Well, I'm plain Gay! Gay and happily in love with my boyfriend, Twisted Circuits! Love ya nerdy-booski!

 

[radical6]

washington is so gay tbh

 

[kerryelizabeth]

I really don't label myself. I guess if I had to label myself, though, I'd be pan. I don't care what you look like, if you're male, female, blonde, brunette, fat, thin. If I get along with you, then I see you as a potential partner. But I've never really labelled it before, I just sort of am what I am and don't let it define me. Just roll with it as and when.

Does that even make sense?

 

[Jinglefruit]

I really don't label myself. I guess if I had to label myself, though, I'd be pan. I don't care what you look like, if you're male, female, blonde, brunette, fat, thin. If I get along with you, then I see you as a potential partner. But I've never really labelled it before, I just sort of am what I am and don't let it define me. Just roll with it as and when.

Does that even make sense?

That's kind of how I see things. I figure something to do with being able to love anyone makes you less bothered about having a name for it ~ as in labelling something automatically closes the chance of it being something else, so labelling something as being open to everything seems strangely hypocritical. (I hope that makes sense, I'm rather tired.)

Recently I've taken to classing myself as somewhere between Pan and Demi. ~ and call it pandemicsexual xP

 

[Princess Weeb]

wait this thread exists

yay <3

And I'm with @Kerryelizabeth on this one actually, I'm not really sure enough for a label :")

 

[Jas0n]

There is an attractive guy at work whom I wish to pounce on but I am far too awkward. Sadtimes.

 

[Jake]

There is an attractive guy at work whom I wish to pounce on but I am far too awkward. Sadtimes.

you can pounce on me if you want!!

 

[RhinoK]

I'm confused myself, which is usual, given my age. I've had a past relationship with girls (well - one, for two years, pls don't judge I was nine when it started) but I had this really intense feeling of bromance with someone and I told him everything and hugged him and got him little gifts and it was a strong friendship but I've had a lot of problems at home and I'd used to SH (which he knew) and I'd just have bursts of anger and abuse him and I can't really blame it on my anger because I'd feel like I enjoy it. To put it simple, I said a one name too many.Seven months have passed and we're complete strangers even though we literally can't avoid each other when we have at least one lesson together a day. I get mixed singles off him because he was the one who texted me "I love you" when we weren't even friends and he's has about four girlfriends this year so??? And he told me happy birthday about four times on my birthday two months ago and that's the only time since May we've talked.
/rant

I'm sorry I've done some whining. Just needed to get things off my chest and the fact he's constantly on my mind after seven months of us not being friends is confusing me

 

[M O L K O]

I don't hate allies, I'm glad there are allies in the first place! But I do dislike when some allies think they are owed something for being allies or they try forcefully include themselves in thing they don't belong...

Also;
"I hate homophobic people! How dare they be like that!"
"I hate when white, cis allies try to help! How dare they!"

I understand that some things allies can do are... questionable. But they are not all bad.

I can't agree more with this post.

 

[Stevey Queen]

I'm confused myself, which is usual, given my age. I've had a past relationship with girls (well - one, for two years, pls don't judge I was nine when it started) but I had this really intense feeling of bromance with someone and I told him everything and hugged him and got him little gifts and it was a strong friendship but I've had a lot of problems at home and I'd used to SH (which he knew) and I'd just have bursts of anger and abuse him and I can't really blame it on my anger because I'd feel like I enjoy it. To put it simple, I said a one name too many.Seven months have passed and we're complete strangers even though we literally can't avoid each other when we have at least one lesson together a day. I get mixed singles off him because he was the one who texted me "I love you" when we weren't even friends and he's has about four girlfriends this year so??? And he told me happy birthday about four times on my birthday two months ago and that's the only time since May we've talked.
/rant

I'm sorry I've done some whining. Just needed to get things off my chest and the fact he's constantly on my mind after seven months of us not being friends is confusing me

Aww that's a cute story XD parts of it anyways. You should apologize for your angry outbursts and try to regain your friendship with him.