they're still defending us because they sympathize with the hardships we face. but i'm sorry if people were bashing your religion, that's not okay at all.
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they're still defending us because they sympathize with the hardships we face. but i'm sorry if people were bashing your religion, that's not okay at all.
Does anyone know if districts can ban certain things from being announced? Because that was my school's excuse for not announcing the a absolute shock of Texas (the state I live in) declaring the ban on gay marriage unconstitutional or the Day of Silence (which I don't particularly like, but still.) They also gave a firm no to my friend asking if there could be an LGBTQA+ support group because it was "too sexual". I'm really tired of schools giving all these excuses.
how is a LGBTQA+ group too sexual....wtf.... terrible excuse
but no i dont, sorry. i would just try to keep fighting i guess? make them run out of excuses to give you ok
wow, i just wanna say that tsundere is super cool and educated for their age.
also, as to stay on topic, i think that i might start identifying as agender again. i thought i was becoming more comfortable with being ~female~ but i'm really not. they/them pronouns have always been more appealing to me and i use them for everyone, until i find out their preference. i just think it suits me better and i feel more comfortable with it.
just geez... it must be so nice to be one of those cis/het people who never question any part of their identity, y'know?
also, as to stay on topic, i think that i might start identifying as agender again. i thought i was becoming more comfortable with being ~female~ but i'm really not. they/them pronouns have always been more appealing to me and i use them for everyone, until i find out their preference. i just think it suits me better and i feel more comfortable with it.
just geez... it must be so nice to be one of those cis/het people who never question any part of their identity, y'know?
It is nice if your gender is never questioned by anyone, but being cis/het doesn't mean you never question any part of your identity. Gender/sexual orientation isn't everything you are, right?
That said, despite being gray asexual, I never really questions myself in this regard. I was either too busy figuring out the much bigger reason why I'm different from most people, or I simply don't care about others' sexuality/identity/general love life as much as far too many people do. Probably both.
That said, despite being gray asexual, I never really questions myself in this regard. I was either too busy figuring out the much bigger reason why I'm different from most people, or I simply don't care about others' sexuality/identity/general love life as much as far too many people do. Probably both.
that's why i said ~one of those~ cis/het people. i wouldn't be ignorant enough to assume none of them ever have identity crises. i probably should have put that, instead of any, but gender/sexuality are big struggles for me and everything else seems nonexistent comparatively. obviously, it's not the same for everyone, but it'd be nice to have some confidence in that regard. and ftr, i only specified cis/het, because those who don't question themselves are more likely to be accepted than a non-cis/queer person who has also never questioned themselves. does that make sense?
once i found out what grey-asexuality was, i had a big aha! moment, like yes, this is what i am. before that, i struggled a lot about what label fit me. sometimes, i still feel strange, despite knowing what i am, mostly because i'm easily overwhelmed on my grey days and feel more comfortable in my ace ones. and i constantly am questioning what my romantic preferences are. i always say panromantic, but i'm never sure if that's actually right, being as i'm quite fearful of most cis men and probably couldn't feel comfortable dating one. not that it natters, since i have a girlfriend, but yeah.
once i found out what grey-asexuality was, i had a big aha! moment, like yes, this is what i am. before that, i struggled a lot about what label fit me. sometimes, i still feel strange, despite knowing what i am, mostly because i'm easily overwhelmed on my grey days and feel more comfortable in my ace ones. and i constantly am questioning what my romantic preferences are. i always say panromantic, but i'm never sure if that's actually right, being as i'm quite fearful of most cis men and probably couldn't feel comfortable dating one. not that it natters, since i have a girlfriend, but yeah.
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What a surprise the thread died.. which is sad but was to be expected
Yup i shouldnt be posting since i havent done my PM yet but all i did was defend trans people i dont think i was that offensive
and besides this post is too update since im excited and i want to post!!
Tomorrow is my final appointment of like psychiatric analysis, and then in 4 weeks i have my appointment to get all my blood tests, and body scans and x-rays before i start treatment ^^
I'm scared lol, expecially of the body can.
If i get disciplined for posting here.. well i'll deal with it
Yup i shouldnt be posting since i havent done my PM yet but all i did was defend trans people i dont think i was that offensive
and besides this post is too update since im excited and i want to post!!Tomorrow is my final appointment of like psychiatric analysis, and then in 4 weeks i have my appointment to get all my blood tests, and body scans and x-rays before i start treatment ^^
I'm scared lol, expecially of the body can.
If i get disciplined for posting here.. well i'll deal with it
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Yeah the thread dying was pretty sad :/ Good luck in your weeks to come though! I wish you the best.What a surprise the thread died.. which is sad but was to be expected
Yup i shouldnt be posting since i havent done my PM yet but all i did was defend trans people i dont think i was that offensive
Tomorrow is my final appointment of like psychiatric analysis, and then in 4 weeks i have my appointment to get all my blood tests, and body scans and x-rays before i start treatment ^^
I'm scared lol, expecially of the body can.
If i get disciplined for posting here.. well i'll deal with it
I find it funny when cis people are like "why are we labeling ourselves so much!! its unneeded why cant we all be NORMAL :'(((" but then they post **** like "I identity as a supersmashzeldafrozendragon fan" or something like that and I just--
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As a tried-and-true bisexual- I still love it when I get "you're just confused!" or "make up your mind!" Ferreal, though, I just love people.
Also, I have the best boyfriend in the world- galaxy, even. But people are still kind of. "YOU'RE GOING TO CHEAT ON HIM BECAUSE YOU DON'T REALLY LIKE GUYS" and there are people who have legitimately thought that me being bisexual meant I was up for a threesome.
I- was not. Not that there's anything wrong with that, but. This is not something to spring on somebody.
Pardon the rambling.
Also, I have the best boyfriend in the world- galaxy, even. But people are still kind of. "YOU'RE GOING TO CHEAT ON HIM BECAUSE YOU DON'T REALLY LIKE GUYS" and there are people who have legitimately thought that me being bisexual meant I was up for a threesome.
I- was not. Not that there's anything wrong with that, but. This is not something to spring on somebody.
Pardon the rambling.
A few people are scared to post.
Good luck, I hope everything goes well for you!
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You always scare all the children away with your scary signature.
aw ty
tbh when i was like a kid i always felt out of place with my gender. then i was 11 or 12 i learned a little bit about trans people and i heard negative comments about them so i forced myself really hard to think im a girl..that lasted for like a year or two when i finally came to accept my own gender so i feel you there.
and yeah i get kinda annoyed when cis people ask how its possible to be agender. im like sorry i dont live in your little bubble? i dont understand why the concept of nonbinary stuff is so hard for them? i truly dont. like they ask me 20 questions before they begin to wrap it around their heads.
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Its hard for some people to understand for the reason you just said. We all have our own little bubbles.
Atleast they are asking questions.. thats good
it educates people..
Just like i dont know much about some religions, i dont know much about non binary people
it doesnt make me ignorant or anything, its good to learn, i dont think its good to complain about cis people in that respect, if they are hateful yes, but if they are showing an interest/trying to learn thats good!
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tbh i blame it all on how we assign gender and peoples harmful views on gender because you know..hate is passed down. if we got rid of that then those little bubbles will go away
ok but understanding the basic concept of a gender outside the binary isnt hard. i dont want people asking me what my parts are or when im going to get an operation. i dont want them to ask me what basic terms mean (like agender, amab etc) when they can go google it. yes, its great they are willing to learn. but when im willing to learn something i wont go ask someone to explain everything if i can look it up myself. i have friends who ask me the most simplest things when they can go google it. i have friends asking me to fight in their fights about things that dont even include them. (my cis friend asking me to go educate a transphobe..wtf) so like.. im really tired having to explain things for people.
Speaking as someone with a lot of close friends who have a lot of privilege, it can be very difficult for them to grasp concepts of oppression and non-normative identities. Someone who was raised their entire life only being taught the gender binary will most likely not immediately understand or accept the concept of non-binary genders when introduced to them. It is the same logic that causes the immediate hostility in people of oppressive groups when hearing generalized statements made against oppressors; i.e., when men take personal offense to statements like "I hate men". It doesn't mean they need to be coddled for it and led by the hand into knowledge, but it is a natural reaction to have.
But you really can't just tell people to google things. The most accurate and helpful resources on subjects of oppression usually aren't popular or widespread enough to be found in the top google results, and you'll always get a lot of conflicting information. The best source for education on topics of oppression is more often than not a member of that oppressed group in particular. But at the same time, their identity is not a commodity and it is not their obligation to constantly have to justify and validate their existence to everyone around them.
It's a tricky situation. I do understand and 100% sympathize with the frustration and stress from other people of oppressed and non-normative groups with educating the privileged. My personal stance is that I always try to educate whenever and wherever I can. I am personally comfortable with people coming to me with questions about my identity; I would rather help them to understand then turn them away and have them grow hostile and more likely to oppose the social justice movement as a result.
I do think that cis people(and straight/white/male/abled/etc people of other privileges) should be encouraged to seek education, and I find that being level-headed and polite and patient is the best way to communicate information in a way that benefits both parties, but at the same time I am also aware of the fact that being treated as an oddity or an expert and infallible information dispenser can be incredibly agitating and stressful. I do feel like people of non-normative identities shouldn't be expected to explain their existence to those around them, but at the same time, there is no better way for education and information to be spread.
But you really can't just tell people to google things. The most accurate and helpful resources on subjects of oppression usually aren't popular or widespread enough to be found in the top google results, and you'll always get a lot of conflicting information. The best source for education on topics of oppression is more often than not a member of that oppressed group in particular. But at the same time, their identity is not a commodity and it is not their obligation to constantly have to justify and validate their existence to everyone around them.
It's a tricky situation. I do understand and 100% sympathize with the frustration and stress from other people of oppressed and non-normative groups with educating the privileged. My personal stance is that I always try to educate whenever and wherever I can. I am personally comfortable with people coming to me with questions about my identity; I would rather help them to understand then turn them away and have them grow hostile and more likely to oppose the social justice movement as a result.
I do think that cis people(and straight/white/male/abled/etc people of other privileges) should be encouraged to seek education, and I find that being level-headed and polite and patient is the best way to communicate information in a way that benefits both parties, but at the same time I am also aware of the fact that being treated as an oddity or an expert and infallible information dispenser can be incredibly agitating and stressful. I do feel like people of non-normative identities shouldn't be expected to explain their existence to those around them, but at the same time, there is no better way for education and information to be spread.
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when i tell them to google i mostly mean those who at least know some good sites for information. if im speaking to someone irl, yes ill explain things. but i have higher standards for my friends online who very well know their privilege and other oppressed groups. seriously, if they follow social justice blogs they dont need to be asking me things. i had a friend who would ask me "hey what do i say to this transphobe??!?!?!/" or "omg why is the trans with an asterisk bad again!1!!11!!!" when they clearly had the resources online to find out why. idk. like if you can go find out information yourself just..please do it. im so tired of having people ask me basic questions when they have the answers.
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