LGBTQA - Discussion and support.

[radical6]

...because they didn't know you were transexual? Also they're in high school, so transphobia's not exactly high on their list of things to take note of.

i meant that i was unlucky to hear that. it did make me pretty upset for the rest of the day. like they barely know what trans people are so i didnt really expect to hear loud transphobic comments like that. maybe people do say it but im just not around to hear.

 

[oath2order]

So I'm going to DC Pride this year

 

[JellofishXD]

what do the letters stand for???

 

[radical6]

So I'm going to DC Pride this year

have fun

what do the letters stand for???

L- lesbian
G- gay
B- bisexual
T- trans
Q- queer/questioning
I- intersex
A- asexual

 

[MintTea]

In France, there was all this mess about the gay marriage law and stuff. That's when I realised how my family was not that open-minded. At the moment I was still wondering because I had have a girlfriend when I was 10 and we did do lesb stuff but it was the only time I had fallen in love with a girl and I'm always falling in love with boys. And I was hearing people saying that gay marriage was okay but certainly not adoption. 'A child needs a mother and a father. Not two fathers or two mothers.' And I was like 'uh and what about divorced parents or when one of the kid's parent is dead? there is only one person in charge of the child and it's better to have two parents, whatever their sexes are'
Now I know I'm bisexual and recently I was thinking about coming out. So I decided to just test a bit people's reactions. One day, I was with my girlfriends and I asked 'Hey what would you think if I was a lesbian?' and only one of them said that it wouldn't bother her. The others were like 'uh it would be pretty awkward' or 'It wouldn't be the same'.

 

[r3*]

I didn't know this thread existed! I'm gender nonbinary and pansexual!! Very cool to have something like this, I'm very proud of this forum rn!

 

[Blockmayus]

my mom was crying when i told her during our therapist meeting im like why the **** are you crying ??? then after we left she locked me in my room and kept bugging me and asking me questions and kept saying **** like "in my mind..you will always be my daughter........ur not seriously like this right.....this is just hormones....." and then i got really fed up and we started arguing and now its ok i guess cuz shes like "i just want you to be a kid" im like ok ok whatever please stop talking to me about it now because that was a terrible idea. like she says she still needs time to accept it im like why is it soo hard to accept?? idk i regret telling her @_@

Eeeeeuuuuuurrrrrgghhh, Im really sorry to hear things went so terribly! I find it really sad when people come out to their parents in some way and the parents somehow manage to make it about their own feelings. It doesnt seem like things will go well right now but hopefuly she will come to understand soon?!??! Or at least you will find a way or handling the situation the best way possible?!??!

SIGHS AT PARENTS :l

 

[ACNiko]

Uuuhhgh I'm so sick of conservative people who still thinks that homosexuality is bad.

I'm bisexual myself. Unfortunately, I've never been in a relationship with anyone. I haven't told anyone that I'm bisexual (not even on the internet, so this is my first time I say this actually), but I know that my family would accept it because we don't see homosexuality as something bad or weird. I would be more uncomfortable talking about my sexuality with my friends tbh, they can be pretty homophobic sometimes. I don't know, I want to tell people about my sexuality, but I feel uncomfortable about it for some reason. It's not that I have a problem to talk about my sexuality, but it feels awkward to talk to my parents that I'm sexually attracted to people, lol.

My little "problem" is nothing compared to others in here who have parents that can't accept their own child's sexuality. I feel so sorry for you, and I'm so angry at this *** heteronormative world, and it makes me so sad.

 

[Princess Weeb]

My little "problem" is nothing compared to others in here who have parents that can't accept their own child's sexuality. I feel so sorry for you, and I'm so angry at this *** heteronormative world, and it makes me so sad.

I have just come to the conclusion that most adults suck
I am so done with people that think everyone younger than them is stupid and just "going through a phase" or whose views are worthless.


How the absolute hell can two people make and raise a child just to disown them or treat them like crap because of one measly thing like their sexuality or their views/religious choices etc

That is still the child you created and you loved what the hell is even different they didn't kill a person pls calm down fff

 

[ACNiko]

I have just come to the conclusion that most adults suck
How the absolute hell can two people make and raise a child just to disown them or treat them like crap because of one measly thing like their sexuality or their views/religious choices etc

Yeah it's sickening. I feel so lucky because I have awesome parents, but I know so many people with parents who have no respect for their children. Parents are suppose to support their children no matter what, and that some parents freak out because of sexuality is just so... aargh it's so stupid!!

 

[Solaeus]

I'm attracted to guys, but I'm not sure sexually.
I'm not attracted to girls either way, I'm not sure
if I'm Aesexual or not, I feel kind of bad for saying I'm aesexual
to 1. Avoid conflict and annoying gossip and 2. I'm not sure

 

[radical6]

why do afab trans people feel like we're the one's who have the disadvantages compared to amab trans people.. I didn't really think that what you would get assigned at birth would effect the amount of transphobia you received, but boy was I wrong. I'm more aware of my AFAB privilege over AMAB trans people now. I used to think that we all faced the same hardships, but I looked at the violence for AMAB people compared to AFAB people.. I also think it's a bit easier to come out as an AFAB trans person. I guess maybe because of society's expectation of men? Men are usually hurt if they act feminine so I assume that's the reason why most acts of transphobic violence target trans women. Even though they are not men, they are perceived as men. I guess anytime someone perceived as male/or is actually a guy likes or acts feminine, they get punished because they're seen as weak. But AFAB trans people like to hide this a lot..I know I used to be one of them, I didn't think about it at all really. I mean when you see statistics for trans people (murder for example) most of it only happens to trans women. But people who post this kind of stuff/spread this kind of info like to apply it to trans people in general, which still includes trans women, but isn't completely true. It kinda takes away the severity that trans women and AMAB nb people really face. I wish as a community we would prioritize things better rather than ignoring our fellow trans people.

I often see the argument that AFAB trans people face misogyny because they are perceived as female and honestly this annoys me.. If someone says "You're a girl, you should be more obedient" to me then I won't take it to heart because I know it doesn't really apply to me. I'm just really sick of seeing TWERFs/TERFs tear down trans women and AMAB nonbinary people. Or fellow AFAB trans people deny transmisogyny. I really wish I could say something but I don't like arguing on tumblr (because TERFs and neo nazis will go after me tbh) and if any AMAB trans people here want to point out any bad things I say, go ahead. (Relating to AFAB privilege and stuff tho)

 

[oath2order]

I honestly thought that the whole violence against AMAB trans people was, for lack of a better term, common knowledge. Since you mentioned the whole "men can't be feminine" thing, I'm a little surprised this is a bit of a shock to you.

What's twerf/terf?

 

[Alice]

I honestly thought that the whole violence against AMAB trans people was, for lack of a better term, common knowledge. Since you mentioned the whole "men can't be feminine" thing, I'm a little surprised this is a bit of a shock to you.

What's twerf/terf?

A TERF is a trans exclusionary/exterminatory radical feminist and a TWERF is a trans woman exterminatory radical feminist.

 

[radical6]

I honestly thought that the whole violence against AMAB trans people was, for lack of a better term, common knowledge. Since you mentioned the whole "men can't be feminine" thing, I'm a little surprised this is a bit of a shock to you.

What's twerf/terf?

i didnt really think about it because whenever AFAB people mention violence, rape and murder for trans people they really mean trans women. i knew they would face a bit more violence but i didnt think transmisogyny was that bad. But I guess I didn't really know that much back then

 

[oath2order]

still though what's twerf

 

[Blockmayus]

still though what's twerf

From the wording I can only assume its "radical feminist who does NOT consider trans women to be real women"

I have yet to met a single openly trans or nonbinary person offline (Either AMAB or AFAB) because Im pretty sure most of them would have their entire lives absolutely destroyed if they did where I live.. and yet somehow Ive still gotten to see just SO MUCH transphobia directed at trans women, without any of them even being present (Or openly present).

Like I remember the one time when I studied psychology that the whole class somehow started talking about "the gays", it was suposed to be a talk about sexualities in general but somehow people would only focus on "Gay dudes", most of the comments said by people where along the lines of "I think GAYS are ok but... -homophobic remark-". Not a single time did people talk about homosexual women or just about any other kind of sexuality. The one time someone mentioned Bisexuality someone jut said "Gay dudes who are still trying to fit in!" or something.

But the moment ONE person suggested something about "Guys who want to be girls" (Already starting with a pretty transphobic remark of course) the whole group was reduced into a sea of "NOPE NOPE NOPE EWWWWW WHAT IS WRONG WITH THEM". I actualy really wish I could have been more outspoken when that happened but I was terrified of getting too emotional and pretty much outing myself.

 

[oath2order]

Radical feminist part ohhh

I figured trans woman, but I couldn't get the rest. Probably should've googled "twerf trans".

Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminists
Trans Woman Exclusionary Radical Feminists

 

[radical6]

trans women can be radical feminists tho(i know a few) and not all radical feminists are transphobic

most TERFs are TWERFs tho. they might target AFAB nb people and trans men for having "internalized misogyny" but most of their hate is directed at trans women and AMAB nb people

 

[radical6]

i was gonna go to this guy's LGBT group and i was maybe going to see him 1 on 1 but im so glad i didnt. i saw a warning from some trans women saying not to trust dr krillian in seattle..so yeah headsup for any trans people (trans women especially!!)

why does this guy gotta run the only lgbt group here smh