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That's what Jason thinks at any rate.
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That's what Jason thinks at any rate.
You should be entitled to marry anyone! Whether it be girl girl, guy guy and guy girl! I mean if I women can marry a car, ***** please! You should be able to marry someone with the same genitalia! The subject makes me mad, I hate homophobic people! Huff!
I think you're kidding yourself if you think gay marriage being passed is because it's widely accepted. Besides, I said before that regardless of everything it should still be passed simply because of the rights aspect. That doesn't change things in the aspect of social acceptance though and I think it would be better if gay marriage was being passed under better circumstances. I've seen plenty of people that "support" gay marriage still be against a lot of sexual and gender preferences that don't abide by the norms and plenty that support it to your face but behind your backs they will be extremely homophobic in general.
Let's take Dan Savage for example, widely known as one of the biggest gay rights activists and the leader of the "It Gets Better" campaign but in reality he's a huge dick. He's sexist, cissexist, anti-asexual, anti-bisexual, racist, etc. If someone who's actively fighting for gay rights can be that against people in the LGBT and other communities it doesn't take a lot to imagine what a lot of straight people who support gay rights think.
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Not widely, but there are more in favor of it then not.
You see, I'm 14 and I was teased at school by being called gay (I know it's not an insult but that's how they were using it.) and now I'm confused...I don't know whether I'm gay or straight...and it's really frustrating just not knowing...I just wish I knew.. Do you guys know what I could do to make sure? I just don't know what to do...
You're 14, you don't need to know. Stop trying to put yourself into a box and be what you are and ignore what other people say.
exactly. you'll figure it out as you go along. if your not sure, then don't be afraid to give both guys and girls a chance. you'll know when your attracted to a person or not.
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Same thing happened to me. Only it started younger, way before kids should even know what gay or the bad F word means.
Yeah, my advice is to make good friends and see what you like more. Find out which gender you prefer to be surrounded by, and start there. It isn't foolproof, but it's a good start.
But as others said, there's no rush. It's actually pretty common to have bisexual feelings at the age of fourteen, and have it lead nowhere. Just ignore those bullies and do what comes naturally.
I wouldn't say that's accurate. People you like to hang out with aren't necessarily the people you'd like to date.
I guess so -_-...Ugh, so much frustration.
I guess I should explain more. It isn't so much the people you hang out with, it's the people you really, really want to hang out with.
Think about the girl you "like" and the boy you "like". Now if you were given a choice to hang out with only one of them, which would you choose?
Once again, this is in no way foolproof. It's pretty much only useful if it becomes a consistent pattern over a long period of time, and even then it's hardly a sure thing. It was just something I personally noticed in myself. I always blew off my guy friends in favor of girls I didn't know as well simply because they were girls. I would also go to parties and stuff if I knew that a girl I was interested in was going to the party as well, even though I initially wouldn't have gone. But everyone is different in their attractions.
Think about the girl you "like" and the boy you "like". Now if you were given a choice to hang out with only one of them, which would you choose?
Once again, this is in no way foolproof. It's pretty much only useful if it becomes a consistent pattern over a long period of time, and even then it's hardly a sure thing. It was just something I personally noticed in myself. I always blew off my guy friends in favor of girls I didn't know as well simply because they were girls. I would also go to parties and stuff if I knew that a girl I was interested in was going to the party as well, even though I initially wouldn't have gone. But everyone is different in their attractions.
A good way to figure it out is what gender do you "fantasize" about. If it's both then its both. Totally normal to have bisexual feelings at a younger age. ALSO at an older age. I started having bisexual feelings at 12 years old and they never went away!
Don't try to fit yourself into a labelled little box. Let yourself drift around in the gray areas and enjoy it
Try your best to ignore the bullies at school. I know it can be hard but school isn't forever. Usually the "bullied" live more successful lives anway.
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A good way to figure it out is what gender do you "fantasize" about. If it's both then its both. Totally normal to have bisexual feelings at a younger age. ALSO at an older age. I started having bisexual feelings at 12 years old and they never went away!
Don't try to fit yourself into a labelled little box. Let yourself drift around in the gray areas and enjoy it
True that!
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I've always sort of hated how people try to fit me into this sort of box because of my sexuality. I'm female, I like girly things, and I date girls. It's really that simple to me, but other people seem to think my sexuality doesn't deserve to be taken seriously because I don't fit the common lesbian stereotype. Or when I do, say I'm dressing in some athletic clothes or something, then it has to be some point of discussion. Doesn't it make more since that liking girly things would lead to me liking girly people, anyway? Haha, I'm kidding, but policing who people identify as just isn't cool. Also, I wish we could talk about considering romantic and sexual attraction different things, as it's very interesting.
Romantic and sexual attraction are interesting for me, being bisexual. Initially when I meet someone I like I tend to feel more of a romantic attraction towards girls and sexual attraction towards guys and as I get to know them things expand from there. Not sure why but it's interesting that my attraction to each gender differs so much!
True that! I'm a girly girl, but my sexuality is always called into question. It makes me sad too, because most of the lesbians I know lean towards more butch not because they enjoy it, but because they get tired of people always questioning them. It's really rather sad that they have to feel that way.
I have nothing against butch girls, don't get me wrong. Everyone should just have the right to dress and act how they want without being questioned.
And I wish romantic and attraction were talked about differently. I'm actually a pretty romantic person (somewhat secretly) but since many of the lesbians in my area aren't my type, I never get to be romantic. I hope that when I do find a girl, she's a fan of romantic gestures, because there is going to be a lot of them.
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