Thank you for the tips! I'll try the method, dunno how long it could be before I could by an actual binder lolso I went for a few months without a binder, ended up caving in and buying one bc they work reeeeally well. but before I got one I had some tight-fitting sports bras that I would layer on until my chest was as flat as i could get it. I even made them a bit tighter with safety pins but you have to be really careful cause they could suddenly open up. it won't be totally flat (at least, not as flat as a binder could make it) but this method worked okay for me.
I would advise against using an ace bandage since they're made to restrict movement. also don't bind for more than 6-8 hours at a time and also take breaks twice a week!
If you're wondering I got my binder from gc2b and it was a little pricey but totally worth the investment
Sexual Orientation & Gender Identity Support Thread
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Lady Timpani
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Does anybody have recommendations for good LGBT films? I've been getting into movies more in the past year or so and have been mentally compiling a list I'd like to watch, and with Pride month coming up I figured now was a good time to start (although I'll surely be watching them far past June lol I don't have a lot of time).
Some of what I currently have:
Moonlight
Rafiki
My Own Private Idaho
Portrait of a Lady on Fire
But I'm a Cheerleader
Booksmart
Also note "good" is subjective lmao it can be really corny/cheesy/trashy as long as you enjoyed it!
Some of what I currently have:
Moonlight
Rafiki
My Own Private Idaho
Portrait of a Lady on Fire
But I'm a Cheerleader
Booksmart
Also note "good" is subjective lmao it can be really corny/cheesy/trashy as long as you enjoyed it!
I would recommend watching Pride. It's based on a true story regarding the 'Lesbians and Gays Support the Miners' campaign (1984-85). Handsome Devil is also a good watch.
I found G.B.F. and Alex Strangelove entertaining, but not quite as meaningful as the two above.
cornimer
grab acorns 'til you're delirious
So I've known I'm some sort of ace-spectrum + lesbian combo for a few years now, but last weekend, I figured out that I also identify as agender and I've felt really free ever since I'd been reflecting a lot on sex vs gender for a while and came to realize just how much of a social construct gender is, and how I want nothing to do with it anymore 
I'd been reflecting a lot on sex vs gender for a while and came to realize just how much of a social construct gender is, and how I want nothing to do with it anymore 
so.. on saturday, i kinda came out to my friends and im just really glad about that we were all on the topic of our sexualities and like i just said "yeah.. to be honest, i can't really see myself with a dude. i discovered some stuff doing quarantine lololo" and they were super accepting of me so yeah, just a random happy vent!!
we were all on the topic of our sexualities and like i just said "yeah.. to be honest, i can't really see myself with a dude. i discovered some stuff doing quarantine lololo" and they were super accepting of me so yeah, just a random happy vent!!
I Googled pride month just to be sure it really is in June (I will forever doubt my memories lol) and there was a cute surprise! I just wanted to come post about it here because I thought it was a sweet little thing for Google to do.
Happy pride month, everybody! I’ll be keeping out my different coloured roses, prismatic egg, and the newest patch because it’s as close to a rainbow as I can make, lol.
I know we’re still in the pandemic so places may not be able to host full on pride marches but they might still have online pride celebrations that are worth checking out. It’s not the same as an actual march but you’ll still get to celebrate and hear stories/experiences from other LGBT+ people which can be really helpful and reassuring.
Happy pride month, everybody! I’ll be keeping out my different coloured roses, prismatic egg, and the newest patch because it’s as close to a rainbow as I can make, lol.
I know we’re still in the pandemic so places may not be able to host full on pride marches but they might still have online pride celebrations that are worth checking out. It’s not the same as an actual march but you’ll still get to celebrate and hear stories/experiences from other LGBT+ people which can be really helpful and reassuring.
Shellzilla_515
F1 fan who loves onions
It seems like I haven't made a post here in this thread. I still identify myself as a straight male, but I just want to say happy pride month to all! I'm noticing more and more LGBT+ members in this forum and I thought now would be a great time to get a better understanding from the community. It looks like there's a lot for me to learn!
I really hope my post doesn't come off as insincere as I want to be supportive and not spread hate. I may come back here to post again so if there's something that might be offensive to the LGBT+ community, please let me know and I'll edit my posts and learn from there.
I really hope my post doesn't come off as insincere as I want to be supportive and not spread hate. I may come back here to post again so if there's something that might be offensive to the LGBT+ community, please let me know and I'll edit my posts and learn from there.
Foreverfox
✨🩵Spook-tacular🩵✨
To start out Pride month, I just want to say - if there is anyone out there whose parents don't accept their identity, I'm your mom now and please feel free to talk to me whenever. ❤ Everyone has the right and deserves to be loved, accepted, and respected, no matter who they are or who they love or don't love!
Has anyone ever dealt with insults relating to their sexual orientation just because you don’t agree with someone? It seems like people just resort to personal insults or attacks. I guess that’s part of the internet, but I don’t see why this happens so often online. I just block people like this, especially if they’re so close-minded to insult one’s sexual orientation. I’m working hard not to take things so personally though.
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Constantly. I work for a company that has an online forum and it is the first thing people will bring up against me when I have to take action they disagree with. I have to defer to someone higher up to deal with them each time it happens.
A number of people who behave this way online don't even care that much. They just know the right buttons to press to upset somebody. It's all about getting a reaction out of the other person. Report, block, and move on is the best way to deal with these people.
xSuperMario64x
call me Bug 🇨🇦💜🐛
YOU GO FRIENDO, SHOW THAT GENDER SOCIAL CONSTRUCT WHO'S BOSSSo I've known I'm some sort of ace-spectrum + lesbian combo for a few years now, but last weekend, I figured out that I also identify as agender and I've felt really free ever since
also @Shellzilla we always appreciate our straight allies!
I've been questioning my romantic orientation and while I don't feel I can truly put a label on it since it's in an awkward place between full-blown romantic and queer-platonic, I think I might be pan-romantic. I've never dated anyone before so I'm not 100% sure but I feel like if I met someone whom I get along with really well and love to be with then I wouldn't care at all what their gender identity is (as in, it wouldn't influence my decision).
ofc it's always gonna be hard for me to find anyone who is willing to accept me as an ace/apothisexual person so I would honestly be happy with anyone who would accept me regardless of their gender/sex.
it would be funny if I ended up being pan-romantic bc pan and ace are like opposite ends of the spectrum (pan- being all inclusive attraction and a- being lack of attraction). being asexual and panromantic is quite an interesting match lol.
That Marshal Fangirl
🍂Drowning In Fiction🍂
So I've known I'm some sort of ace-spectrum + lesbian combo for a few years now, but last weekend, I figured out that I also identify as agender and I've felt really free ever since
That's awesome! I'm glad you've figured out something so important about yourself. What pronouns do you prefer so I can refer to you as such?
i feel like this might not actually be too uncommon, funny enough!
i initially had thoughts that maybe i was pan because it didn't seem like gender mattered to me at all -- and then i learned that being aro was a thing: i went from "maybe i like anyone and gender doesn't matter" to "i don't like anyone romantically and gender doesn't matter". i'm pretty sure there are people that go the opposite way too!
xSuperMario64x
call me Bug 🇨🇦💜🐛
I've also considered that i may be aro but I'm pretty sure I'm not aro cause I do enjoy the idea of being in a relationship w someone (even tho I've never been in a rom relationship with anyone). I've had trouble defining what makes a romantic relationship which is why I say I fall into a weird grey area. idk I suppose I could try to put myself out there and see if anything sticks
oh, oops, i totally misworded what i meant! i didn't mean to imply you might be aro, i just meant that if you feel you're panromantic + asexual, you shouldn't feel like that's uncommon!I've also considered that i may be aro but I'm pretty sure I'm not aro cause I do enjoy the idea of being in a relationship w someone (even tho I've never been in a rom relationship with anyone). I've had trouble defining what makes a romantic relationship which is why I say I fall into a weird grey area. idk I suppose I could try to put myself out there and see if anything sticks
this was coming from an aro/ace perspective, since i went from thinking i was panromantic to aromantic (but in both cases i still felt i was ace, even before knowing about the ace label)! so i think there's probably a bunch of people with a combination of (aromantic/panromantic) + (asexual/pansexual) -- particularly because there's similarities (i.e. "gender doesn't play in to whether i am (romantically/sexually) (attracted/unattracted) to someone")
This may end up being a long post, I don’t know. I’ve come to terms with being asexual. I just don’t see the appeal in playing with body parts in which we use to go to the bathroom. Sex never interested me. I’ve also never had sex, but I haven’t exactly been pushing for it either due to lack of interest. I can acknowledge when people are attractive, but it doesn’t do anything to me. I don’t want to be with them, they’re just good looking.
I also may be on the aromantic scale. I have no problems being affectionate but whenever I am, it is in the back of my mind that “I love you, you’re a good friend.” Whenever I feel affection towards another person, it’s on a friendship level and I really want to remain friends with that person. I don’t know if my desire will ever change, but I’ve felt strongly towards people and only wanted to be their best friend or good friends with them.
I’ve been questioning whether or not I may be aromantic, but I’m pretty confident that’s the case. It’s confusing as I do feel affection very strongly, but it stays on a best friend level. I’ve never been kissed, but I haven’t pushed for it either. The thought of being extremely good friends with someone intrigues me more than ever dating someone.
I also may be on the aromantic scale. I have no problems being affectionate but whenever I am, it is in the back of my mind that “I love you, you’re a good friend.” Whenever I feel affection towards another person, it’s on a friendship level and I really want to remain friends with that person. I don’t know if my desire will ever change, but I’ve felt strongly towards people and only wanted to be their best friend or good friends with them.
I’ve been questioning whether or not I may be aromantic, but I’m pretty confident that’s the case. It’s confusing as I do feel affection very strongly, but it stays on a best friend level. I’ve never been kissed, but I haven’t pushed for it either. The thought of being extremely good friends with someone intrigues me more than ever dating someone.
cornimer
grab acorns 'til you're delirious
Aw thank you so much for your support MarshalThat's awesome! I'm glad you've figured out something so important about yourself. What pronouns do you prefer so I can refer to you as such?
I'm fine with either she or they pronouns, thanks for asking! Really I only feel weird when people start calling me a "woman" or "lady" haha.
idiotdoomspiral
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I have been eyeing 👁 this thread since it was bumped and reformed by staff but ive never been sure of what to put here. Draft after draft of. Stuff. That just keeps changing. So i wont be surprised if what i say now evolves into something else later but now i am comfortable enough to talk about it. Last year i finally confronted buried feelings of "maybe i am Probably Not Really a girl exactly" which have been evident throughout my whole life, and over this year i have changed my name, hopefully legally as well one day and i plan on getting more done in the future. However while i like being referred to as masc terms being AFAB is still important to my identity. I dont think identifying solely as a man would fix my dilemma and neither would believing myself to be cis. A few years ago i remember telling myself "I would like it if ppl referred to me as a guy and i went by he/him but i also like being a girl. How does that make sense?" and i guess i cant expect everyone to understand that but it makes perfect sense to me. Pronouns dont inherently equal gender all that good stuff. There are probably specific labels for this out there but idk nonbinary works just fine.
xSuperMario64x
call me Bug 🇨🇦💜🐛
oh yeah sorry, I knew what you meant but I was answering in a different way lol xDD
tbh even if I am aro I prob won't really push that label for myself as much as I do the ace and nb/trans labels. i think some people interpret aromantic as not wanting a romantic relationship at all, and while that may be true for many I still like the idea of a relationship.
I think cupioromantic is the word for this, now that I think abt it I think I am cupioromantic. huzzah! I may finally have this figured out!!
