Have you ever considered chest binding? Just a suggestion if you feel more comfortable with a flat chest.
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I’ve been strongly considering it but don’t know how to go about finding the right size. I don’t want to get one that’s too big or small. I haven’t really looked into sizing.
If you are interested in one, gc2b sells binders and they have a sizing chart + measuring instructions for you to use, if you are in between sizes it's best to go up a size. Underworks has binders too but I don't really trust them as much as gc2b because Underworks originally made their binders for cis men with gynecomastia but then they started to become popular with transguys/enbys and gc2b is specifically run by trans people and makes binders for transgender/NB people. Just whatever you choose please do not ever get one of those crappy cheap binders off Amazon.
Thanks for the information. I’ll have to find a measuring tape just laying around, or I may be able to buy one when I’m out with my dad. I think they’re included in most sewing kits, and since I know how to sew, it won’t be too awkward picking one up. I do need more black thread anyway, haha.
copypaste from trans people i know:
"gc2b has gone downhill so not them. underworks is alright. shapeshifters and spectrum outfitters are great, though uk based. for them is a recent one that friends have had a great time with."
apparently, about gc2b:
"Their quality has just been p poor in the past like, 2ish years? Like they don't bind evenly, they're constructed more poorly, the constriction is painful for some, etc."
and apparently spectrum binders' don't fit everyone? but someone else said they loved theirs, so
(if you want more info i can ask them, since this is just what i've seen them say)
Yes I saw a reddit post saying something about gc2b isn't what it used to be in the few recent years, but this is only one source I found, I've been looking at chest binder information for months and months this year and everyone is recommending gc2b and Underworks isn't that bad, I have never heard of shapeshifters and spectrum outfitters before and I'm in the USA not the UK. I just got my binder ordered from gc2b I really hope it's not going to be as bad as what you and that reddit post are saying, people are still recommending gc2b in 2021 and 2022 I feel like I don't really have many places to choose from.
xSuperMario64x
call me Bug 🇨🇦💜🐛
I personally got mine from gc2b and it works pretty well as long as it's washed every other day 
I can't speak for any other brands unfortunately.
I can't speak for any other brands unfortunately.
If you don't mind me asking, what year did you get your binder in and do you still have the same binder you've always had?I personally got mine from gc2b and it works pretty well as long as it's washed every other day
I can't speak for any other brands unfortunately.
xSuperMario64x
call me Bug 🇨🇦💜🐛
the one I have currently is my only one, and I've had it for about a year and a half. It still works pretty well! I would def like to get a second one soon though so I can switch between them when need be.If you don't mind me asking, what year did you get your binder in and do you still have the same binder you've always had?
ali.di.magix
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My brother, who is much younger than me, lowkey called me out and asked "are you asexual?". It was quite confronting to me as I've never said anything to anyone irl about any labels I have and/or am considering. Afterwards I was like wow is it really that obvious lmao.
I still don't know if the aroace label suits me. I feel like "no interest in relationships but open to the possibly" describes me best lol. If I were going to be really specific, I think bi-oriented aroace would be the most suitable (still unsure about the bi bit though lmao).
I still don't know if the aroace label suits me. I feel like "no interest in relationships but open to the possibly" describes me best lol. If I were going to be really specific, I think bi-oriented aroace would be the most suitable (still unsure about the bi bit though lmao).
xSuperMario64x
call me Bug 🇨🇦💜🐛
I'm back making some more crazy self observations lmaooooo
so what did I say I am before? demiromantic? well I'm thinking that aroflux might be more descriptive. I think demiro still does apply to me somewhat but honestly over time my interest in stuff like that fluctuates so much. I go through phases where I'm like head over heels for anyone I like, and then I have other times where I literally couldn't care less abt romance and I'm perfectly content being alone and only having friends. it's so weird lol.
I'm honestly not one to put 7000 labels on myself, I'm pretty content just telling people I'm aroace and trans-masc, but it is p cool to discover new things abt LGBT stuff and myself
so what did I say I am before? demiromantic? well I'm thinking that aroflux might be more descriptive. I think demiro still does apply to me somewhat but honestly over time my interest in stuff like that fluctuates so much. I go through phases where I'm like head over heels for anyone I like, and then I have other times where I literally couldn't care less abt romance and I'm perfectly content being alone and only having friends. it's so weird lol.
I'm honestly not one to put 7000 labels on myself, I'm pretty content just telling people I'm aroace and trans-masc, but it is p cool to discover new things abt LGBT stuff and myself
Yeah, so I got into a conversation this morning with a coworker (I’d consider her a friend) about pronouns. She asked me if I used she/her pronouns and I just nodded as I’m not all that comfortable coming out in the workplace yet. Especially since I’ve been at this one a while. Although, I think she’d be supportive because she’s good friends with a MTF transgender person. Also explains why she seemed to think I wasn’t being 100% when I nodded.
xSuperMario64x
call me Bug 🇨🇦💜🐛
speaking of coming out at work, I'm forced to hide in the closet bc apparently my supervisor is homophobic/transphobic (considering she has one of those "police lives matter" US flags and an NRA sticker on the back door i can safely assume she's conservative) and if she found out I'm trans she would very likely try to find a reason to fire me. I like my job and working with cats at a rescue, but going in every work day and being misgendered bc I can't come out without risking being fired is just awful 
I wouldn't even work there except that being disabled makes it really difficult for me to find a job that accommodates my needs. it took me about a year to find the job I have and I only got it bc a family friend also works there. if I ever find another job that can provide the same accommodations and accepts me as an LGBT+ person I will leave my current job as soon as I can. you can also bet I'm gonna tell people in the community abt her homophobia bc while running a cat rescue is a good thing, hating the LGBT+ community that much is inexcusable to me.
I wouldn't even work there except that being disabled makes it really difficult for me to find a job that accommodates my needs. it took me about a year to find the job I have and I only got it bc a family friend also works there. if I ever find another job that can provide the same accommodations and accepts me as an LGBT+ person I will leave my current job as soon as I can. you can also bet I'm gonna tell people in the community abt her homophobia bc while running a cat rescue is a good thing, hating the LGBT+ community that much is inexcusable to me.
I’ve been posting in here a lot lately, rip.
I was considering getting a chest binder. I’ve been unfortunate enough to have what is considered “larger breasts.” I don’t know my size because I’ve only ever worn sports bras, but my sports bras are sized Medium. The small was wayyyy too small.
Are there more risks binding with larger breasts? The sports bras I use have compression (obviously not as much as binding does) but I’m wondering if I should just stick to the sports bras I’ve been wearing or if I can safely bind with the correct size.
I was considering getting a chest binder. I’ve been unfortunate enough to have what is considered “larger breasts.” I don’t know my size because I’ve only ever worn sports bras, but my sports bras are sized Medium. The small was wayyyy too small.
Are there more risks binding with larger breasts? The sports bras I use have compression (obviously not as much as binding does) but I’m wondering if I should just stick to the sports bras I’ve been wearing or if I can safely bind with the correct size.
xSuperMario64x
call me Bug 🇨🇦💜🐛
honestly I think it would be worth it to try a binder. idk about other companies but gc2b makes binders of all different sizes and you could prob find one that would work for you. I'm in a similar situation that you're in (having a larger chest), and my only gripe is that I do have to put mine in the dryer for ~15 min otherwise it loosens up a bit. but if you expose it to heat and allow it to tighten again it should be fine.
also want to note that companies will usually tell you not to dry your binder bc heat makes it shrink, but like I said, in my case if I don't put it in the dryer it becomes too loose and doesn't bind properly anymore. it's honestly just a matter of trial and error to see what works for you
I need to vent. It is 6am and I can't sleep and this keeps replaying in my head.
So, I spent Christmas with the in-laws. My partner's aunt brought up that I'm gay within the first 30 seconds of meeting. We were still mid-handshake. Immediately after my MIL comes over with a glass of wine and says, "you're going to need this" and boy was she right. I have never had a partner's relative crack so many jokes about my sex life - when they ventured into BDSM territory I wanted the earth to swallow me whole. My FIL kept topping up my glass throughout dinner and as soon as we were done eating told her he was driving her home. So many people apologised for her behaviour. I was warned about what she was like but nothing could have prepared me for the reality.
I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. It really wasn't any of her business and what an awkward topic for dinner conversation. At least it sounds like your MIL and FIL were supportive.
We ended up discussing her behaviour at length this evening and it turned out there was more that I hadn't even clocked onto. It was like I was some sort of freak show performer to her - there were just so many questions that you shouldn't ask someone you've only just met. Most I'm sure no one else at that dinner table actually wanted to know the answer to!
The rest of the family are so supportive of our relationship and do their absolute best to be respectful. That aunt though. Christ. I'm glad we don't live local.
I had to exchange my small binder for the next size up. Hopefully the medium one fits. I honestly hope I don’t need to make a second exchange, although gc2b makes it gc2b. I’m eager to for it to arrive because I’m sort of stressing if it will fit.
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ZeldaCrossing64
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Sometimes I wonder if the only reason I hate being referred to with she/her pronouns is only out of spite from the people who assume I'm a girl, but I'm also not entirely comfortable with he/him pronouns either. That's why I like they/them - It's the middle ground where I can feel comfortable without using explicitly masculine or feminine terms.
Apparently my chosen name, Charlie, is considered gender-neutral. But the only people / characters I've heard with that name were all male. I really like my chosen name so I'm not gonna change it again, but... I don't know. I just thought it was something worth pointing out.
Also, kind of a small rant, but I really wish people would start using gender-neutral terms and pronouns more often. If you're meeting someone for the first time, you don't really know what their gender identity is unless they tell you. But people who make an assumption based on how you look and use the respective pronouns from their initial thoughts of you, especially if it's geared towards me, it really pisses me off.
The more I type this and the more I think about it, the more this whole thing makes sense to me. I had a whole bunch of other paragraphs written out, but I deleted them from this post because it seemed irrelevant to my situation. But I guess it helped me reconsider my gender identity, even if I'm still not 100% sure about it. I don't wanna think about it too much now, but non-binary fits for me in my eyes.
Apparently my chosen name, Charlie, is considered gender-neutral. But the only people / characters I've heard with that name were all male. I really like my chosen name so I'm not gonna change it again, but... I don't know. I just thought it was something worth pointing out.
Also, kind of a small rant, but I really wish people would start using gender-neutral terms and pronouns more often. If you're meeting someone for the first time, you don't really know what their gender identity is unless they tell you. But people who make an assumption based on how you look and use the respective pronouns from their initial thoughts of you, especially if it's geared towards me, it really pisses me off.
The more I type this and the more I think about it, the more this whole thing makes sense to me. I had a whole bunch of other paragraphs written out, but I deleted them from this post because it seemed irrelevant to my situation. But I guess it helped me reconsider my gender identity, even if I'm still not 100% sure about it. I don't wanna think about it too much now, but non-binary fits for me in my eyes.
