I wish I didn't rely so much on other people for my emotions. I've done things in the distant past I'm not proud of because of my BPD, and no that isn't an excuse but I've been seen as a bad person in the eyes of others because of it. I've gotten better in terms of not acting impulsively or even wording things poorly, but it hurts to know that those from my past have probably made up their mind about me: that I am a bad person.
I've seen articles online about "how to survive a relationship with someone with BPD" or "how to survive living with someone with BPD" and it's disheartening that these are what people see from an outside perspective. People with BPD are often seen as manipulative or as bad people, when in reality I used to try to avoid forming close bonds with people to avoid hurting them.
I'm gotten better in terms of being more confident in myself as a person. And not in a "I'm attractive or comfortable with how I look" way. It's in a "I'm confident in my interests and not ashamed of the way I am as a person" sort of way. The fact that I'm more confident in what I like means I'm not picking up interests from those around me or getting into things solely because I want to fit in with specific people. I have friends now, and while we don't share all of the same interests, I'm okay with what we do share in common. My friend has gaming sessions with other people for a game I'm not particularly into, and I'm okay with that, because we do our own things together.
I remember a conversation with my therapist from high school that I ended up keeping in contact with. She said that just because your friends are hanging out with other people, it doesn't mean they forgot about you. Outside validation was a big thing for me and I used to rely heavily on other people for my happiness, and most of the time it ended up being one person. When that one person was with other people, I felt internally attacked.
I feel like I've improved a lot as a person despite a few of the struggles I have here and there, but I'm making progress. I just feel like I'm seen as a bad person in the eyes of some people because my actions in the past and there's no way to recover from that. I can better myself as a person, but will it change the way people see me? I don't think so.