What's Bothering You?

$770 is not enough when everything you owned burned.
$750 is not enough when everything you owned got wiped from a storm.
Insurance companies shouldn't be able to wiggle out.
That whole situation bothers me. It's a really crappy situation and I just feel bad for the people who lost everything and basically not getting anything. I don't care if it is a natural disaster or man made from some lunatic. That shouldn't matter at all for help and/or coverage.
This could happen to anyone. And depending on the severity of the situation could even effect employment.
 
I’ve lost all hope of ever getting into a relationship. I’ll be 23 in a month and I’ve never even had my first kiss. For years I kept thinking I’d eventually meet someone and it’s just never happened. Every time I confessed to someone they rejected me and when people did show interest in me I blew it one way or the other. Either I didn’t like them back, I said or did something that made them lose interest, or I was oblivious until it was too late.

I don’t blame anyone for not seeing me that way. I’m not good looking, I can barely hold a conversation outside of texting, I have psychiatric issues, and I dropped out of college. I know I wouldn’t date myself, that’s for sure.

I don’t mind being single right now, but knowing I’ll probably be like this the rest of my life bothers me. I hate thinking I’ll miss out on such a basic and common human experience. I don’t want to force anything though and I certainly don’t want to settle. That’s unfair to myself and unfair to the other person.

I need to go out and try to make friends irl. My online friends are great, but I need connections in person too.
 
I’ve lost all hope of ever getting into a relationship. I’ll be 23 in a month and I’ve never even had my first kiss. For years I kept thinking I’d eventually meet someone and it’s just never happened. Every time I confessed to someone they rejected me and when people did show interest in me I blew it one way or the other. Either I didn’t like them back, I said or did something that made them lose interest, or I was oblivious until it was too late.

I don’t blame anyone for not seeing me that way. I’m not good looking, I can barely hold a conversation outside of texting, I have psychiatric issues, and I dropped out of college. I know I wouldn’t date myself, that’s for sure.

I don’t mind being single right now, but knowing I’ll probably be like this the rest of my life bothers me. I hate thinking I’ll miss out on such a basic and common human experience. I don’t want to force anything though and I certainly don’t want to settle. That’s unfair to myself and unfair to the other person.

I need to go out and try to make friends irl. My online friends are great, but I need connections in person too.
If that makes you feel any better, I’ll be 32 in less than a month, and I’m not in a relationship either.
 
Erm… I’m 27, and I haven’t had my first kiss despite dating in the past. I’ve only had my teeth fixed for a few years. It’s not like I had a shot with anyone with how they looked before.
 
23 is so young!!!!! You have plenty of time. I know it's hard to listen to, but it really does happen when you're not expecting it. I wasn't looking for anyone and ended up with my bf. The funny part is I 100% wanted to be single because I was happy doing the casual thing and being a workaholic. I had rejected a few people up until that point. I didn’t have my first bf until I was either 25 or 26 (idk what our anniversary is so 🤷‍♀️).

Easier said than done since it's something you actually want, but take your time having fun on your own. The right person will show up. Sorry you're feeling down and hope you make lots of friends in the meantime!
 
I’ve lost all hope of ever getting into a relationship. I’ll be 23 in a month and I’ve never even had my first kiss. For years I kept thinking I’d eventually meet someone and it’s just never happened. Every time I confessed to someone they rejected me and when people did show interest in me I blew it one way or the other. Either I didn’t like them back, I said or did something that made them lose interest, or I was oblivious until it was too late.

I don’t blame anyone for not seeing me that way. I’m not good looking, I can barely hold a conversation outside of texting, I have psychiatric issues, and I dropped out of college. I know I wouldn’t date myself, that’s for sure.

I don’t mind being single right now, but knowing I’ll probably be like this the rest of my life bothers me. I hate thinking I’ll miss out on such a basic and common human experience. I don’t want to force anything though and I certainly don’t want to settle. That’s unfair to myself and unfair to the other person.

I need to go out and try to make friends irl. My online friends are great, but I need connections in person too.
I wouldn't fret, 23 is still quite young and you have plenty of runway even if it doesn't feel like it right now.

I'm in much the same boat as you in some of the aspects you mentioned, but I'm older. I'm somewhere along the asexual spectrum but not, like, 100%; not really attracted to, like, body parts, and for many years I was just flat out disinterested in finding a partner. As of the past few months after my most recent birthday, I've been increasingly feeling the urge to try to find someone myself since I'm not sex-repulsed or anything and I would like the companionship. Feeling that "now or never" anxiety.

While I can ultimately accept not ending up with anyone if life goes that way thanks to my, uh, unique orientation, now that I'm feeling that urge, I'm going to put forth my best and am going to try to see if anything might develop. I encourage you to not give up if it's something you want.

From what I've gathered from friends and other folks, dating is just kind of in a bad place in general for everybody nowadays.

Society's kinda collapsing and economic factors are stacked against the younger generations, and the lives a lot of us are leading aren't what we were told to expect. It's easy to look at where other people are in life and feel discouraged when we don't have this or that.

Work on improving the things you can change and accept those things that you can't. Easier said than done, I know, I'm a socially awkward introvert myself with a fair share of self-loathing, but hey. Can't catch a fish if you don't cast your line. Heck, maybe you don't even have a fishing pole yet, I know I never even set foot in the bait & tackle shop until recently and got mine. Put forth the effort and you'll get the hang of things eventually. It might take a while, it will most likely be quite frustrating along the way, but at least you'll know you tried. You might or might not land a prize catch, but you'll probably reel in a few cool fish along the way and make some memories. Even if a romantic relationship doesn't spring from any of this, you'll be better off for the connections you make and the things you learn throughout the endeavor of learning to socialize more in person.

Wishing you the best!
 
I really wanna meet up with my friend, but despite asking to meet up, that never seems to be mentioned in his reply to my messages.
I know he's like not mad at me, otherwise he wouldn't have reponded. He's acting like he normally is in his messages. I don't wanna keep on about it, but my mum is persistant and shes angry that he hadn't taking the time last year to meet up, but like its a two way thing?

And I hope he isn't thinking I just wanna meet because I have presents for him, and he's not really a big gift guy; I just don't like keeping something that isn't mine. Plus it isn't just that, I do wanna meet up with him.
 
I just lost my granddad. He was the last of my grandparents.
So, my granddad's name was George. He was 81 when he passed away this morning.

Today is actually my partner's grandpa's 90th. He is also named George. I'm supposed to be going to his birthday party tomorrow. Right now I'm unsure if I can handle it. 😔
 
I just lost my granddad. He was the last of my grandparents.

So, my granddad's name was George. He was 81 when he passed away this morning.

Today is actually my partner's grandpa's 90th. He is also named George. I'm supposed to be going to his birthday party tomorrow. Right now I'm unsure if I can handle it. 😔
So, just to make this story sound so much more fictional, my mum just reminded my own granddad's birthday was the 15th. The day before he died.

I'm skipping the party. Can't face it. I messaged my mother-in-law and she was very understanding.
 
I'm starting to regret my choice of not going to college this semester (again). Even though I know I'm not ready, I don't think I can take working 40 hours every week at my **** job and being at home for another 8 months. I just want to be left alone and not have my family constantly getting on my ass. But how could I expect independence and autonomy when I'm not ready to be an adult?

I'm just feeling sad and hopeless about my life again. Nothing is going right, but it's my fault because my poor decisions lead to these outcomes. I'm also gravely worried about my love, but haven't had the chance to reach out to them yet. I'm ****ing incompetent in every aspect. **** me.
 
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