What's Bothering You?
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As someone who's been in the same situation, ignore him and everything that has to do with him. Delete photos and stuff from devices, get rid of things you've gotten from him, and engage yourself in something that doesn't have to do with him. Also delete him on social medias/forums/whatever common stuff you had. Feel free to send me a PM if you want to talk further, this was just some basic advice that helped me at least
xSuperMario64x
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my anxiety is so bad right now, I can never catch a break here 
Dunquixote
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I feel a bit sick to my stomach from nerves, but I took a look even though I was not completely “ready” and I realize I may have overreacted. I just hope it isn’t too late; I still need time to pull myself together to respond in full. I’m such a mess and maybe a coward. Regardless, I still am worried since it doesn’t change that i made someone important to me hurt. I really wish there was a way for me to learn how to talk “normal” instead of everything coming out wrong. And I wish I could forget all the crap that I never asked my brain to dwell on and stress over for so long; and forget all the regrets I have that are paralyzing me from moving forward with my life. sorry anyone that saw my meltdown yesterday
It was probably an anxiety or panic attack, rather than a mental/nervous breakdown. You don't really have a mental/nervous breakdown in the space of one night, nor would you be able to post about it. I'm not having a go, I am so sorry you're upset and do hope you're ok, but a full on mental/nervous breakdown is a far more serious and long term thing that involves some serious psychiatric intervention.
I had one a few years ago. I attempted suicide several times in a short space of time and was twice found by total strangers in public by the rail tracks. To cut a long story short, I have been heavily medicated ever since. So I just get a bit anal about people using the term haha. But seriously, I hope you're ok and hope you didn't react with such anxiety over happenings on this forum? Might be a good idea to take a little break if it's affecting you like that.
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Dunquixote
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Oh thanks for correcting me. I’ll edit my posts. I had no idea honestly or that anxiety/panic attacks were different. And no worries; I get the same way with the term OCD
.It wasn’t anything to do with this site, but I got upset about some silly notification so yeah
. Thanks for the concern. Oh wow. I’m really sorry that you went through that much 
; I appreciate that you shared that with me. sorry doesn’t even cut it. I hope you’re managing better now. i’m really sorry if i upset you.
xSuperMario64x
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panic/anxiety attacks are very different from a nervous breakdown. while a panic attack is a brief period of losing control and feeling an overwhelming sense of panic (as the name implies), a nervous breakdown is characterized by dysfunction, or not being able to function properly, for days or weeks at a time. ive personally never had a nervous breakdown but ive come close to one a few times. it's scary to deal with. panic attacks are also scary but they usually only last 10-15 minutes. you likely had a panic attack, don't feel bad about being ignorant bc now you know the difference.Oh thanks for correcting me. I’ll edit my posts. I had no idea honestly or that anxiety/panic attacks were different. And no worries; I get the same way with the term OCD
also yeah I hate when people use terms like OCD and ADHD to describe their quirkiness. like OCD is not a quirk, it's a condition that is debilitating in this kind of society and is nothing to joke about.
I've survived another day but I'm leaning closer to calling up my uncle and asking if I can go stay w them if I find a job down there. this house gives me nothing but negative vibes and bad memories, I'm tired of it. I want to start anew.
This and when people throw around ASD/Asperger randomly or be like "omg thats so aspie" or stuff.. just n0
Not at all, it was all years ago and life changed significantly since then, thank you for your words though xx And again, don't worry, it's like the OCD thing as you say. Panic attacks are no fun though and I am sorry you had to experience that xOh thanks for correcting me. I’ll edit my posts. I had no idea honestly or that anxiety/panic attacks were different. And no worries; I get the same way with the term OCD
It wasn’t anything to do with this site, but I got upset about some silly notification so yeah
Dunquixote
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My ear is bothering me again; my teeth aren’t thankfully or my jaw. Anxiety is still bothering me and am dealing with still a lot of emotions. A bit unhappy about a few things as well. Please no comments.
sorry for posting here again.
Tornado warning; i didn’t get one on my phone but my mom did ><.
My stomach is hurting from being upset.I am feeling slightly better in some ways but also drained and mentally exhausted.
sorry for posting here again.
Tornado warning; i didn’t get one on my phone but my mom did ><.
My stomach is hurting from being upset
.I am feeling slightly better in some ways but also drained and mentally exhausted.
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Hopeless Opus
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don't you feel... silly? don't you feel... stupid? don't you feel... a little ashamed?
ali.di.magix
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I can't bring myself to tell my family that I'm getting a referral to a clinical psychologist. I kinda need to discuss it with my dad at least because I don't even know if my health insurance covers it I just know they'll ask why I'm getting a referral and I don't want to explain to them why. Not to mention it'll just make them paranoid. Oh well, I'm hoping something will come of the referral and then I can discuss with them the results of it.
I just know they'll ask why I'm getting a referral and I don't want to explain to them why. Not to mention it'll just make them paranoid. Oh well, I'm hoping something will come of the referral and then I can discuss with them the results of it.
Foreverfox
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My knees...my knees are in so much pain. It's become progressively worse over the past 3 days to the point where I can barely walk or go up stairs or bend them. They just hurt. I have an MRI on my right one Tuesday, but what am I supposed to do until then?
I feel like my relationship is in shambles and I don’t know what to do. My SO got a better job opportunity in a different city, and he took it; which is something I encouraged because living there was one of his goals and he was super stressed where he was working before, but I stayed behind because I need to finish my degree. Now, I just feel like with every passing day I’m being put in the back burner more and more. We went from living in the same city and seeing each other often, to cold turkey only seeing each other once or twice each month and I haven’t adjusted well. What makes it worse is that I feel like he hardly communicates with me, now, I know communication works both ways but the thing is he knows I’m on summer break right now and I’m not busy… almost ever, but I don’t want to be bothering him in case he’s in a meeting or on a job site… and I’ve told him I would like it for him to communicate more with me which he agreed to, the thing is that he hardly does it. I get it, he wants to live his life and enjoy it, but as the person he’s dating and supposedly wants to build a future with, I just wish prioritizing me was a little higher on the list, you know.... maybe over comedy shows, just saying.
It also doesn’t help that I still hold resentment towards him because he CHOSE to go out with his friends over spending time with me when I was going through a pretty big loss in my life (which I’m still grieving from). I really needed the support from the one person who’s supposed to have my back and be there for me whenever something like that happens, but I instead got a slap in the face... or at least that’s what it felt like. (For context during this time I was visiting him because I needed to get away during a time someone close to me passed away, so we were in the same city, it’s not like I was grieving and he was in a different city ~3 hours away)
Edit: I don't really need a reply, I just needed to vent, but if you have any suggestions or if you think I'm complicating things too much feel free to let me know.... by this point I don't know what to think anymore.
It also doesn’t help that I still hold resentment towards him because he CHOSE to go out with his friends over spending time with me when I was going through a pretty big loss in my life (which I’m still grieving from). I really needed the support from the one person who’s supposed to have my back and be there for me whenever something like that happens, but I instead got a slap in the face... or at least that’s what it felt like. (For context during this time I was visiting him because I needed to get away during a time someone close to me passed away, so we were in the same city, it’s not like I was grieving and he was in a different city ~3 hours away)
Edit: I don't really need a reply, I just needed to vent, but if you have any suggestions or if you think I'm complicating things too much feel free to let me know.... by this point I don't know what to think anymore.
Hopeless Opus
diluc is my king
ugh me and my big mouth u never know who ur gonna offend .
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This is pretty minor since my new medication has helped a lot. I don’t feel anger whenever I’m ruminating on past trauma anymore. Even comments people make to my face don’t increase my heart rate. What’s bothering me is moving.
Don’t get me wrong, I can’t wait to live in a city where I don’t have to be constantly reminded of my past. It’s just the process of moving itself that’s the issue. I have to find safe ways to move all of my electronics, books, and especially my vinyl records. Not to mention the massive amount of junk my moms crammed into their storage space. The one saving grace are the movers that will help us carry everything up nine floors.
Don’t get me wrong, I can’t wait to live in a city where I don’t have to be constantly reminded of my past. It’s just the process of moving itself that’s the issue. I have to find safe ways to move all of my electronics, books, and especially my vinyl records. Not to mention the massive amount of junk my moms crammed into their storage space. The one saving grace are the movers that will help us carry everything up nine floors.
Deadline anxiety is a thing and it hits me hard. I've spent the past couple of weeks stressing over a paper. It interferes with my appetite and sleep and has generally taken a toll. This morning I decided to merge all of the files together just to see how far I actually am from meeting the guidelines, because I was starting to fret I might run out of content before I met them. 4-9 pages. That's better than the ~20 I thought it was. Alleviates the stress a little but I still only have a week left to finish this thing.
EDIT: Managed to hit the minimum page count and probably have about 1,000-1,500 words left to go. Maybe this is doable after all!
EDIT: Managed to hit the minimum page count and probably have about 1,000-1,500 words left to go. Maybe this is doable after all!
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All you can really do is communicate your feelings to him, ie that you want him to make first contact more because you're afraid of disturbing him during something important...and also because you want him to WANT to, right? Does he know how hurt you were when he chose to go out with his friends when you needed his support? He needs to hear it, so he can hopefully work on how he responds to things like this.
I don't want to aggressively insist you leave this guy, cos that never helps haha, but please, if this sort of thing keeps happening and you're becoming more and more miserable, then consider the possibility that this man isn't the one you're meant to spend your life with. He might be, but he needs to be willing to work on a couple of things. Communication is everything.
General advice I give anyone after way too much experience with this sort of thing: Don't ever feel you have to stay in a relationship that makes you unhappy, you will regret it later. Relationships can't be perfect every minute, but they should ultimately make you happy and embrace the future. Maybe you guys will work it out and be absolutely fine, but I hate to see people stuck in relationships that are hurting them and compromising their own happiness. The thought of you alone in the pain of grief whilst he went out with friends is a sad image and I'm sorry this happened.
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