Have you ever lost a friend?

[moonford]

I've lost two.

First friend: Physically harmed me.

Second friend: Left the country.

 

[Emi_C]

I used to be kind of mean to one of my friends but like I thought he knew it was just kind of "friendly banter" bc we were close but then one day he got too upset to be my friend anymore and like left our friendship group. I've always felt so bad about it and even know we kind of chatted abit ive never been able to actually apologise to him and now I probably wont be able to so I lost him, he was so nice

 

[zoetrope]

Plenty, but they've all been pretty organic. People just drift apart sometimes.

There is one exception, though. I had to cut a friend out of my life a few years after college because she was a toxic lying clingy brat who was driving me crazy and wouldn't take no for an answer. I haven't talked to her in seven years and she still tries to add me on Facebook, text me, etc.

 

[Melchoir]

Around September last year, I became really good friends with a girl in my class. We were together all day, every day. Then around Easter of this year, I realised that she was having a really negative affect on me. Basically, I used to be quite shy and nervous and wouldn't speak my mind or stand up for myself, and this girl was the complete opposite, and her confidence had rubbed off on me. The thing is, she was more arrogant than confident, and I found myself becoming like that too. I decided to distance myself from her, and we slowly grew apart until she confronted me, accusing me of purposefully leaving her out of things. I decided not to argue with her, I simply shut her out until I left school, and I haven't seen her since.

 

[Mega_Cabbage]

Yeah, but it's mostly due to growing apart after graduating schools. The friends I make don't really get offended enough to actually start a fight. Insults and threats mean we enjoy each other's company.

 

[Daydream]

Too many to count, for various reasons.

 

[Licorice]

I've killed most of my friendships. Every friend I have lost it was because I was sick of them. I can admit that. It's just that I get smothered very easily and I get annoyed easily. I also don't get attached to people. I've always done better alone. When I was younger I didn't realize that I might be hurting people when I cut off all contact without warning. Now that I'm older I try to be more patient with people. Right now I have three friends and honestly I can take em or leave em. I feel awful admitting that but at least I'm honest?

 

[Rasha]

I've lost many friends...

 

[Romaki]

Well, since you're just talking about leaving your life - yeah. I had a lot of fake friends that just hung out with me to feel better about themselves and it destroyed me.

In a more sad way, the way this thread sounds like by its title, a kid I used to protect in kindergarten and elementary school got run over by a car.

 

[wolfie1]

I used to be friends with a girl I've known since we were 3, but it wasn't until the end of high school that she started being such a big, big gossip and would spread false rumors about me and other friends in our group. At first, I didn't believe that, because she was friendly towards me, so I was unaware of that. Lol, I was so silly back then; and I let her use me until I saw with my own eyes that she was a big ***** that caused a lot of harm. She even went from one group of friends to another when she was interested in some things that one group of friends couldn't provide. She even told me a lot of **** about her allegedly "best friend" and then she was with her as though she hadn't told me anything. That's when I started to realize that she wasn't a person worth having around.

Well, I haven't seen her for, like, 3 years, but I hope she ends up alone, since she doesn't deserve to be friends with anyone.

 

[Xara]

i've lost many friends.

my first friends i lost after i switched schools in the third grade, and i never saw any of them again.

my first friend i made after switching schools got tired of me after a year.

my second friend turned out to be kind of an a**

my third friend liked to play mind games and would constantly lie and just..ugh

and my fourth and more recent friendship ended because it was toxic. i cared more about her than she did about me, and she would constantly toss me aside and pick me up again when it was convenient for her. she only cared when something was bothering her, but if something was bothering me? sucks to be me, i guess.

overall i just havent had any luck with friends.

 

[MokaAkashiya]

I got rid of a "friend" of a few years yesterday , they stopped talking to me and avoiding me for the past month which has been depressing me. I have emailed, tried to talk, nothing so I just deleted them off my friendslist. As for IRL friends, I have none.

 

[aericell]

I've lost a lot and I wish I could say I don't really care about them anymore but I do, somewhat. I can't really keep my friends around for a long time because I get so tired of putting in so much effort into the relationship while I get little to nothing back and while part of me just wants to endure it hoping it'll change, that's usually not the case and I can't take those kinds of things anymore

 

[moonford]

Well, since you're just talking about leaving your life - yeah. I had a lot of fake friends that just hung out with me to feel better about themselves and it destroyed me.

In a more sad way, the way this thread sounds like by its title, a kid I used to protect in kindergarten and elementary school got run over by a car.

I'm not.

It could be due to death or anything else.

- - - Post Merge - - -

I've killed most of my friendships. Every friend I have lost it was because I was sick of them. I can admit that. It's just that I get smothered very easily and I get annoyed easily. I also don't get attached to people. I've always done better alone. When I was younger I didn't realize that I might be hurting people when I cut off all contact without warning. Now that I'm older I try to be more patient with people. Right now I have three friends and honestly I can take em or leave em. I feel awful admitting that but at least I'm honest?

I relate to this completely.

Im oblivious of others feeling sometimes and it gives a bad impression of me. I don't mean too.

I can't make friends cause I'm rather hardheaded and I stick to my thoughts and opinions, which some people don't like and can't accept these days.

 

[Isabella]

Of course. I think the one that hurt the most was losing one of my best friends due to constant arguments and us having stuff going on, not knowing how to deal with it. I got tired of giving people chances too so I don't know if I'd ever want to be friends again tbh. At least not for a year or so with everything still being fresh. Idk, sometimes you meet those friends that you realize are irreplaceable and the feeling hits you that you won't have anyone like that again, but it's best to just move on from it.

 

[ToXiC_Tr4sH]

A few, but mostly because we just drifted apart. Nothing crazy.

 

[Leen]

Yeah, quite a few.

Most times it's been through life going our own separate ways and losing touch because of the distance and lack of communication. I've lost a couple friends from a fall out It's very depressing losing friends.

 

[boujee]

Recently, three. They all were older then me but all shared one thing; being a baby.

One never wanted to be friends in the first place because they never knew how to withhold conversations(?) and find it quite nice to live under a rock despite telling me things otherwise that clearly debunks that. They mention not liking to talk but joins communities where that's something you delibaterly do.

Another was someone with a severe illness and overacted about anything and overthink quite a lot. I didn't mind and I had a lot of patience to help her ease up a bit after all she's been through. We had one argument though and she cutted me off completely despot this being out first dispute. I guess she didn't like the idea of things not always being about her. Instead of talking it out I guess having no backbone and blocking is always the most easiest thing to do.

The last was a girl who always talked negatively about anyone and always shared her two cents. When I shared a opinion of her she ended up cutting me off as well.

It's funny when people can put on a display but as soon as they show their true colors they wonder why they have no friends.



TLDR;

 

[Acruoxil]

Yeah, best friend left me in grade 3 since he had to leave the city. Besides that not really. I'm pretty good at staying in touch with friends if I want to.

I guess we just drift apart from each other, if that'd count as leaving me.

 

[Licorice]

I relate to this completely.

Im oblivious of others feeling sometimes and it gives a bad impression of me. I don't mean too.

I can't make friends cause I'm rather hardheaded and I stick to my thoughts and opinions, which some people don't like and can't accept these days.

It's definitely something that is hard to change (if it is possible at all) I'd much rather have no friends and be true to myself instead of compromising my personal beliefs for friends. :l