Have you ever lost a friend?

[Celestefey]

Yes. But that's just how life is, you're probably not going to stay best friends with the same person forever and ever. Time moves on, life changes, people aren't permanent, so we're bound to drift apart. It can be bitter sweet but I don't really get too hung up about it anymore because I just accept that's how it is now. One of my best childhood friends... We argued when we moved to our new secondary schools. I blame myself for starting the arguments (I was 11 years old though, bare in mind) but she had been distancing herself from me, trying to make new best friends at her school to replace me, even though she didn't need to because we would still keep in touch and would still meet up outside of school. I guess maybe she didn't want to put in that effort or she felt like she had to move on and away from me. That made me jealous and angry so I often did stupid things, then one day she just decided she didn't want to be friends anymore. We forgave each other and forgot it though, and we're not really close friends anymore but I do consider myself to be her friend. I still care about her a lot and like to hear how she's doing and what's going on in her life, likewise she feels the same. I feel like we will always have a special connection in a unique way, and I will never forget her, but it's okay, we both have good new friends now, we're both happy, so I'm glad things ended okay for us.

 

[jiny]

A lot unfortunately. Most of them are from kindergarten, so they've either forgotten me, or remember me but act like they don't. rip

 

[Aleigh]

Funny you ask this, because my ex-best friend's birthday is tomorrow (the 27th). We were super close best friends for over five years, and then she moved. Not only that, but not too long after she moved we got into a huge fight and I can't even apologize in person because she moved many states away. I miss her so much, and I let her go. It's my fault, but she won't even talk to me. She's blocked me on snapchat, facebook, my actual number, etc. She unfollowed me on instagram but didn't block me there. What really hurts is she won't even tell me what's wrong, and the only thing I can think of is how my other friend probably started this whole thing, and they're still close. She's my best friend, and I let myself be stupid again and messed it up. I'm sending her a letter and a gift for her birthday, and I hope she'll come to terms with me. I'm so devastated, I miss her so ****ing much. I love her and I screwed up again. She's always been there for me, but I feel so empty now that she's not. Every time I think about her or go through old pictures, my heart makes that painful feeling and my stomach drops and gets nauseous. I miss her and I need her back.

 

[Ichigo.]

yeah, a lot. most of them, thankfully, have ended naturally. like, people find different interests and you eventually stop hanging out. i had a group of best friends that were with me from around 4th grade until 9th. we always hung out during school, after school, had sleepovers, etc. but tbh i was the one that changed and got into different things during 8th/9th grade (that damned scene phase ugh) and i started hanging out with different people. we were still friends though, until i changed high schools and eventually just lost contact (myspace fell apart and i've never been into facebook). and i guess i pushed them away too much during the time i ~changed~ because we didn't really text much after i moved. i actually miss them from time to time, because i haven't had a group of friends like that since. i wonder what they're up to now, but i guess not enough to get a facebook and track them down lol.

the only friend i had a falling out with was a friend i made at the high school after i moved. i still don't understand what happened?? she just suddenly started hanging out with a different group of people who she knew i wasn't really friendly with, and never explained the situation to me, so i ended up cutting her out of my life lol. i kind of regret acting so harshly but i'm not sure i had it in me to do anything else. she requested to follow me on IG a few years ago but we still haven't talked since high school. those awkward oblig instagram likes tho......

 

[MochiACNL]

Yes, and now I regret it. We fought over a dumb argument about who knows what (I can't really remember but it must have been stupid). In fact, she was my best friend! She even took me to a concert. I feel bad that we never really apologized to each other but we still talked a bit after that; just not as much as we did before. She changed quite a lot though. (she also plays animal crossing (or at least used to) so if she uses this forum she should know who she is (highly doubt that though)

 

[Dim]

A few from the elementary days. They all became jocks I guess

 

[Hulaette]

I never had any friends while growing up. I had a couple of friends in my early teenage years but they both treated me like garbage everyday. I recently lost a friend who I met on TBT, but that person shunned me when I tried to get to know him better. Not only did he shut me out but he than started to bash on my personal beliefs and slander my blogs. I thought of him as a friend but he pushed me away and ruined our friendship, he blamed that on me too.

 

[seliph]

The vast majority of my "friends" left me either after I came out or after I decided to be vocal about my mental health

It bums me out sometimes but I mean I guess they were pieces of trash anyways ?\_(ツ)_/?

 

[KaydeeKrunk]

Yeah I've lost friends but it's mostly been gradual or temporary. For instance, I had a friend who I was in a friend square with, me and her were friends, she was friends with girl A, who was friends with girl B that i was friends with, but I wasn't really friends with this girl A and my friend didn't really like friend B, so when girl A & B started fighting over a guy, girl A took my friend and I kept girl B. Eventually my friend got in a fight with friend A too so she came back to be and girl B. (I still don't like girl A) But yeah things like that where people would "steal" my friends for a while happened a lot, and also I've gradually lost friends especially after moving away from my home town because not everyone was willing to find a way to come see me or even meet halfway so that kind of sucked, most of them I'm still "facebook" friends with so we still interact and stuff, but yeah. I don't think I've ever abruptly lost a friend unless you mean it in the way of losing them like them dying, I've lost a few friends that way as well...

 

[Pop-tart]

I separated myself from a group of friends I had in school because being around them made me unhappy. They were rude, always complained behind each other's backs, and seemed to thrive off of other's misery including my own. Distancing myself from them was a great decision.

 

[Aquari]

yea a few months ago, me and this one guy were pretty much best buds but he was way too emotional, he'd always find a way to make a conversation depressing. until one day he got butt-hurt for no reason and deleted/blocked me on skype and gamefaqs. but whatevs i have better things to do than to be wasting my time with him

 

[FleuraBelle]

Kind of.
In 2 different ways actually.
1) By them moving away.
2) By us growing apart.

I've had quite a few good friends move away. It was sad when a girl we knew was starting to become one of our best friends but she then had to move. We are Facebook friends though luckily!
And I had a couple friends who I've grown apart from. Both childhood friends. One was lighthearted and the other was pure rejection.

 

[Nightmares]

Well I was best friends with this girl from when I was 4 to 12 years old, but we stopped hanging out when I got into secondary school... I then started being more friendly with my old friend from Year 2 to Year 4. I thought she was great, but in Year 8 she started ignoring me and I lost her as a friend. I'm glad though now, because if that's what she would do to her friends, it shows how horrible of a person she really was :^( I don't want a friend like that.....cri

I made some friends on TBT the summer before Year 9, and it helped forget about being ditched by my ****ty friend, so that was good aha
I've made other friends since then, but I kinda stopped talking with all of them tbh

Currently, I don't really have any "friends" I wouldn't say, but I'm really friendly with almost everyone in my class, and a lot of people online, so it's ok ;D

 

[moonford]

yea a few months ago, me and this one guy were pretty much best buds but he was way too emotional, he'd always find a way to make a conversation depressing. until one day he got butt-hurt for no reason and deleted/blocked me on skype and gamefaqs. but whatevs i have better things to do than to be wasting my time with him

You go girl. ;}

 

[namiieco]

1: was a *****
2: left school
3: left school
4: we just kinda stop talking
5: so many misunderstandings
6: jealousy

help me i have no friends

 

[piichinu]

yea in middle school, she wanted to "join" a clique and thought that meant she had to ditch the rest of us too so bye bye
online these two people that used t be ok with me, one of htem got jealous of something kinda specific and got the other one to hate on me too and caused me a lot of problems. but anyway theyre gone and everything else is solved

- - - Post Merge - - -

and i guess on deviantart some of my friends have just gone..inactive

- - - Post Merge - - -

and plenty of childhood friends ive lost contact with

 

[oath2order]

Of course; that just happens as you grow up.

 

[Soigne]

Far too many but they've all been because I got tired of them so I just stopped talking to them.

 

[Twisterheart]

I've lost several friends.

 

[Miii]

Of course, it happens to everyone at some point or other. But you'll meet new people and make new friends :3 Just don't be afraid to talk to people.