Have you ever lost a friend?

[mintellect]

A lot, actually. In fact I've never been able to keep a close friend for more than a year.

Majority of them didn't do something bad or anything like that, we kind of just... Drifted away from each other.

 

[Chicha]

Many times, yes. It's a part of life. Those who weren't meant to be drift away. The right ones will stay or keep in touch.

 

[Kaleidoscopes]

I used to be in a decent-sized circle of online friends. Over the years some people would come as others left, aside from a few. I would disappear periodically for a few months at a time but always come back whenever I was able to overcome my anxiety and depression; but aside from that me, my best friend, and my second best friend/best friend's girlfriend always stuck together. Due to events that happened last year though my best friends are no longer together, and it was just me and my best friend as his ex just disappeared. I recently just shut myself away from my last friend back in February and don't plan on returning due to my unhealthy cycle of coming and going every few months.

 

[Squidward]

My best friend and I just drifted apart. I guess these things just happen. I still think about her every now and then.

 

[reririx]

Many. Whether due to fights, accidents, distance, or just time. But I don't really mope about them anymore. Life goes on. You meet new people. It's sad sometimes but nothing you can really do~

 

[helloxcutiee]

I've lost a lot of really good guy friends after they confessed to liking me and me telling them I just want to be friends.

 

[reririx]

I've lost a lot of really good guy friends after they confessed to liking me and me telling them I just want to be friends.

Oh me too. It kinda sucks because I really liked them as a friend. But I had to respect their decision to break our friendship apart because it would have been too hard for them.

But I do have a few who have confessed to me and are still my friend.

 

[Acnlmayorboss]

yea she was a terrible friend. u don't need that in your life

 

[Elov]

I've pretty much lost every friend I ever made. Sad, but y'know that's how things are. People drift apart.

 

[merve-chan]

I've lost all my friends. I always lose them after school ends and we move on to different schools. Like out of nowhere they backstab me and I'm left in a pit of sadness.

 

[emolga]

Yeah, I've lost a lot of friends. None to death, though, and I hope I don't ever have to.

 

[Kurashiki]

lots, i've moved several times, plus of course losing some just due to drifting apart

 

[Paperboy012305]

I lost one. And that friend moved out of my neighborhood. I don't know where he is now.

 

[dealz]

If I'm honest I'm quite a loner who enjoys his own company, therefore most of my friendships are only short term. It seems most people crave that social interaction and give up with me when they don't get it. It's not that I don't try but it isn't my cup of tea, so yes I have lost many a friend.

 

[RoxieDean]

I think most of us have at least once, that's unfortunately part of life. Most of my friendships ending was just a cause of nature, drifting apart as we graduated & moved onto different life paths. In my adult life I have lost a couple of people through, "creative differences". I'm not sure how else to word that besides, they didn't "get" me so they didn't trust me. Or of course differences in opinions, which I don't take as a reason to disconnect, but many people do. There have been a couple of people that just genuinely enjoyed starting conflict with others, which I didn't understand the joy in hurting people. The most important things to remember, regardless of your age:

- People will come & go like the weather. Take it in stride, with a grain of salt, because there are so many wonderful people you will have time to connect with in your entire lifetime.

- Be your own best friend when you feel no one else can be. Loving yourself & understanding who you are as a person, is extremely important. That bonding period you must have with yourself will be followed by clarity in the relationships you form.

- Always ALWAYS cut toxic relationships from your life. Do not think you deserve to be treated badly, by anyone. That includes family, friends, coworkers or romantic partners. Recognize & be aware of your surroundings, stand up for yourself when need be. But also keep in mind simple disagreements & arguments will arise. This is normal & should be treated rationally. Try talking things through with the people you know before you leave them behind.

- Realize when it's time to burn bridges. If someone has changed, they will show you, not just tell you.

- Be patient & understanding of others, there is always a chance they will come around after they've taken a moment to think clearly.

- Do not pursue an exhausting relationship. If you feel you must keep up a character that appeals to others while paying your true self dust, let go of it. Others will either accept you for who you are or will move on.

- Don't beat yourself up over being disliked by someone. "You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world & there's still going to be somebody who hates peaches."

- Know your boundaries & expect others to be respectful of them. Do the same for others, do not push limits unnecessarily. No joke is worth potentially upsetting someone or worse, losing them entirely.

- Life happens, friends will move around & get caught up in life. This is especially crucial for people in their early 20's. Don't take it so personally when life gets the best of your friend. It is important that you stay connected, luckily with technology today you can continue to maintain long distance relationships. Persevere through this difficult time & always remind each other that you HAVE each other, distance will not change a friendship that is meant to be.

- Sometimes pointing the finger is not the way to handle a situation. Always remember that you have the possibility of being in the wrong. Take some time to meditate on the situation & self reflect. Regroup & discuss the issue with your friend in a calm, insightful manner.

- Neither you or your friend may be wrong, sometimes it just boils down to a simple misunderstanding. Miscommunication is not worth the disturbance, talk through it until you both are clear.

- Don't assume that it's too late to apologize for something you did wrong. This may not bring your friend back to you, but you will both feel better in the end to get that closure.

- Don't obsess over someone who has blocked you on all communications. Move on with your life as they've done with theirs. This will never be healthy & you must learn to not harvest ill feelings.

- No one is obligated to you & vice versa.

- Friendship is not a competition, you are allowed to have other friends. Expand your horizons. Keep in mind to not be neglectful of relationships you want to keep.

- Lastly, cherish your friends. They will keep you youthful & alive. Never forget to tell someone what they mean to you.

 

[vel]

friends that left due to organic reasons, such as myself moving to another school, sure. other than that, i think i'm still pretty okay with everyone, if i have ever lost a friend they're probably way too irrelevant for me to remember.

 

[N a t]

I've lost quite a few over the years. Many of them due to school and classes, and life just keeping us apart, but the most recent two losses were kinda bad for me.

I cut off my one best friend of about 5 years, cuz I found out she was stealing from me. Not cheap stuff either. I let it slide a few times, and never said anything, and then for Christmas like 2 years ago, she gave me some of the items she stole from me as my X-mas gifts. I never called her out on it, because I'm weak I guess, and didn't want any drama, so I basically stopped talking to her forever.

The second friend, was one of my newer best friends. We became pretty close when the Christmas betrayal took place lol. I did a lot for him. Probably more than I've done for any other friend, because I thought he needed it. His life was a little rough. He's said and done quite a few questionable things though. I basically never asked him for anything, all I ever wanted to do was talk. I guess I talked to him too much or talked about all of the wrong things though. A little over 2 weeks ago, he stopped replying to any of my texts. Yet I hear about him texting my other friends, from them personally, and I saw him messaging people in a group chat on skype, that I HAPPEN TO BE A PART OF. I let it all go though, and I finally sent him a very short text message, that was quite rude, but I basically said goodbye. Just three words. Even then, he never texted me back for any reason. Yet, he still spends time with all of his other friends and contacts everyone else.

I realize I probably cause my own suffering when it comes to people, but I honestly feel so used, and it tires me out.

 

[Hopeless Opus]

too many to count, all for different reasons. i've been catfished multiple times, had people pretend to suicide on me, manipulated and betrayed me a ton. i wouldn't say i have trust issues despite this. i'm probably the most trusting person i know, and when i give to a friendship, i give it all. and if you don't see me doing that, then it means i'm probably done with you or you've broken my trust. if you break my trust you can gain it again, but not as easily as before. but if you break it again, then i'll be done with you permanently.

i never used to be like that though... i'd give people tons of chances. my old best friend, i gave her about... what, 6 chances?? it was because i cared too much. she hurt me too much though, and when i finally woke tf up and opened my eyes i knew she wasn't worth the pain and suffering. we ended on good terms but i've recently come to hate her as she has become friends with some of my old friends who betrayed me.

as for the ones who catfished me. one was my best friend for a long time. she manipulated me though i was blind to it, she almost controlled me. i was playing as her dog basically just so i wouldn't have the pain of losing her. but when my friends and i finally realized she was a catfish and caught her in numerous, built up lies, she left my life permanently, thankfully.

people come into my life, see that i'm very much a caring and mindful person, and use that to their advantage. people know i will cave and hold back. i'll take the pain they deal out to me but with the thought of 'we had so many great memories and we'll make so many more, so i can live through this pain for now' in the back of my mind. but when people push me too far and don't feel the same way as me, i start to pull away from them.

it used to be so hard for me to let go of manipulative people. but now when people betray me, and i've been hating them for a while, it's much easier to part from them.

 

[Fantasyrick]

Recently, three. They all were older then me but all shared one thing; being a baby.

One never wanted to be friends in the first place because they never knew how to withhold conversations(?) and find it quite nice to live under a rock despite telling me things otherwise that clearly debunks that. They mention not liking to talk but joins communities where that's something you delibaterly do.

Another was someone with a severe illness and overacted about anything and overthink quite a lot. I didn't mind and I had a lot of patience to help her ease up a bit after all she's been through. We had one argument though and she cutted me off completely despot this being out first dispute. I guess she didn't like the idea of things not always being about her. Instead of talking it out I guess having no backbone and blocking is always the most easiest thing to do.

The last was a girl who always talked negatively about anyone and always shared her two cents. When I shared a opinion of her she ended up cutting me off as well.

It's funny when people can put on a display but as soon as they show their true colors they wonder why they have no friends.



TLDR;

The picture is me honestly.

 

[Buttonsy]

Every friend I've ever made but my Mom and one online friend, basically. Largely because I've moved so much that I'm usually just not very close to my friends anymore, although there have definitely been much more dramatic friend break-ups, usually involving people taking out their aggression on me tbh.