Im changing my name...

[Moritz]

I had a long talk with my husband and... he's very supportive
To the point where I feel an awful person.

Please help give me clarity.

I want to change my name to Moritz.
Its been my name on everything since I was like 13.

Every game. Every website. Here... I'm moritz.

Its just me..


But its not the name I was born with.

So many people won't understand. I will be laughed at.

But I just want to be me. The real me.

The me I've always felt I've been.

Post automatically merged: Jun 12, 2021

For clarity Moritz is a character from spring awakening who shot and killed himself.

I always used to think I would do the same.

Then it was a badge of honor that I didn't.

I.still don't know my place
But I know where I come from. And its there

 

[Chris]

If it feels right then go for it.

I'm currently in the process of legally changing my name. I stopped going by my birth name in my early teens and I'm now 29, yet suddenly due to COVID and working from home people have started calling me by it again simply because it's the name on my work email. For me this, combined with hopefully starting an MSc this September, was the tipping point to finally get it down on paper that the name I go by is not the one on my birth certificate. It is a massive weight off to finally be shedding a name I dislike. I thought I'd feel guilty, but I don't. Like yourself, the name I am now going to go by is the same one I have been using online and in video games.

 

[Moritz]

If it feels right then go for it.

I'm currently in the process of legally changing my name. I stopped going by my birth name in my early teens and I'm now 29, yet suddenly due to COVID and working from home people have started calling me by it again simply because it's the name on my work email. For me this, combined with hopefully starting an MSc this September, was the tipping point to finally get it down on paper that the name I go by is not the one on my birth certificate. It is a massive weight off to finally be shedding a name I dislike. I thought I'd feel guilty, but I don't. Like yourself, the name I am now going to go by is the same one I have been using online and in video games.

Thanks for the words of support!

For years I've been telling myself I will take the name when I'm slim again and the person I want to be.

But why should I wait?

Why should I not just be who I want to be... who I am...

This name means everything to me.

Its who I am through and through.

I should do this.

I need to do this.

This is me...

 

[LadyDestani]

I have never changed my name or thought about changing it, but my brother changed his name. My parents weren't too happy, but I supported him and they eventually came to terms with it. I think you have a right to go by whatever name you want. If it makes you comfortable and happy, then go for it.

 

[Xara]

i have no words to describe just how much i relate to what you’re going through but i completely understand how you feel. i feel the same way myself, about my own name. xara isn’t my birth name; it’s close enough to it to the point where it honestly shouldn’t make a difference but it does. it really does. i’ve been calling myself xara since i was in elementary school and finally told others that in 2018. i was waiting, too; waiting to be an adult, to be living on my own but i’ll tell you what i told myself - waiting isn’t fair and quite frankly? it isn’t necessary, either.

you don’t have to be slimmer or who you want to be - you’re already moritz and you deserve to go by a name that you’re comfortable with, no matter where you are in life. i won’t lie and say that everyone will understand because they won’t. people may have questions but you owe nobody an explanation. what you’ve said here is answer enough. it’s scary but sharing with the world who you really are is rewarding and i promise you that it is so, so worth it. good luck, moritz - i believe in you.

 

[_Donut_]

"I need to do this.
This is me... "

THIS! This is your life and nobody else on this planet should write how your story goes besides yourself! You should pursuit the things that feel right and make you happy & comfortable, the support and love from people that care about you will follow!

 

[Bloodflowers]

Life is too short to not do what makes you happy.

I have never liked my middle name but no one ever used it so I didn’t feel in a rush to change it, I thought I’d get around to it eventually.

Now I live in Germany and they insisted on my middle name appearing on all of my documents and I’m not permitted to change it or even just remove it. It bothers me so much and if I had known that I would have changed my name back when I lived in the UK, they are way less strict about that sort of thing.

So if you truly want to do this and it sounds like you do, I advise you to do it sooner rather than later. Good luck

 

[Moritz]

i have no words to describe just how much i relate to what you’re going through but i completely understand how you feel. i feel the same way myself, about my own name. xara isn’t my birth name; it’s close enough to it to the point where it honestly shouldn’t make a difference but it does. it really does. i’ve been calling myself xara since i was in elementary school and finally told others that in 2018. i was waiting, too; waiting to be an adult, to be living on my own but i’ll tell you what i told myself - waiting isn’t fair and quite frankly? it isn’t necessary, either.

you don’t have to be slimmer or who you want to be - you’re already moritz and you deserve to go by a name that you’re comfortable with, no matter where you are in life. i won’t lie and say that everyone will understand because they won’t. people may have questions but you owe nobody an explanation. what you’ve said here is answer enough. it’s scary but sharing with the world who you really are is rewarding and i promise you that it is so, so worth it. good luck, moritz - i believe in you.

Thank you so much for saying this.

While I'm still nervous and feeling very awkward about it all, this has made me feel a lot better about things.

And thank you for calling me moritz so many times. I know its crazy, but it really is great reassurance to hear it being said

 

[Croconaw]

If it feels right, I say go for it. I have mixed feelings on the subject. I’ve been thinking about changing my name, but I would just drop my last name. I personally go by my first and middle name on a lot of social media. I accidentally enter my middle name into my last name on legal things most of the time. It’s become normal for me, but I have a lot going on now that I think it’s best to wait.

You don’t need to justify your actions to anyone. You don’t have to listen to the negativity in your life. People will have opinions and things to say, but do what’s best for you. Good luck, Moritz.

 

[cornimer]

You should absolutely do it, Moritz! Whatever will make you happy and make you feel like yourself is the right decision.

I actually legally changed my middle name to Vanessa (which is what I've gone by online since I was 8) when I turned 18. I got a lot of "why would you do that, your middle name isn't even important," but as soon as I saw Vanessa written on paper I felt SO euphoric and all the paperwork & questions were worth it. My teenage years were rough and it changing my middle name was kind of the first step towards me reclaiming/dictating my own identity. It felt good to have that bit of control and officially choose a name for myself.

Recently I've asked my friends to start calling me Ev (my first and middle initials together) because I realized I identify as agender and feel most comfortable with something gender-neutral. I changed my name to Ev on things like my Starbucks app and my personal email too. While everyone at work and in my family still call me by my first name, every time I'm called Ev by a friend or see "Ev" written on my Starbucks drink I feel really happy.

P.S. I don't mind if ppl on here still call me Vanessa, I still way prefer it over my first name

So long story short, I definitely know how much being called the name that's you can impact your wellbeing, and I strongly support you (and everyone else who wants a name other than their birth name) taking the leap!

 

[Foreverfox]

I just read through all of these, and the amount of support you're getting is just - it makes me so happy ❤ if you feel in you're heart that this is what you need to do, then you should do it, by all means! Good luck, Moritz! We support you!

 

[sleepydreepy]

Go for it! Change your name if it makes you feel happy.

I know this isn't really the same, but my mom actually changed her name too when she was 18. She didn't like her first name, and preferred to go by her middle name, so one day she just decided to make it legal/official and dropped her first name completely. Both names were common female names so that's why it might not be the same as what you are going through, but what I'm trying to say is just do what makes you happy, you don't have to explain yourself to others ❤

 

[Moritz]

Update: I got as far as getting the paperwork all sorted.
Not as far as sending it to anyone.

Still planning on doing it as soon as I get the courage to take the final step.

But until I stop being so scared to have to reintroduce myself to like 100 people I'm going to go by Moritz every chance I get.

 

[tjo]

Update: I got as far as getting the paperwork all sorted.
Not as far as sending it to anyone.

Still planning on doing it as soon as I get the courage to take the final step.

But until I stop being so scared to have to reintroduce myself to like 100 people I'm going to go by Moritz every chance I get.

You've got this! It's okay to be afraid at first, but I'm sure you'll build courage in the way. Sending you my support!

 

[TillyGoesMeow]

Update: I got as far as getting the paperwork all sorted.
Not as far as sending it to anyone.

Still planning on doing it as soon as I get the courage to take the final step.

But until I stop being so scared to have to reintroduce myself to like 100 people I'm going to go by Moritz every chance I get.

Im so happy for you! You deserve to feel comfortable, especially with your name. It’s who you are after all!! Good luck with everything.