Is sexuality a choice or are you born with it?

[Antonio]

I was playing this game and someguy was telling this gurl who was once lesbian which is now asexual and he was like "You can't be lesbian becuz...blah blah blah can't say" and she was like "I thought about and i changed my mind". So what do you think? I think it's a choice due to the fact that sexuality is like having an interest. You are either be interest in a certain gender or none at all and it could change overtime.

 

[Aquari]

http://www.belltreeforums.com/showt...e-born-or-is-it-influenced-by-our-surrounding

 

[vel]

it's a choice, the choice just gets more clear as you experience it. gender, on the other hand, is innate. that's my opinion.

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to clarify, you could like guys, but a certain experience could make you like girls more, and you realize you don't like guys at all. correct me if that's wrong.

 

[Antonio]

http://www.belltreeforums.com/showt...e-born-or-is-it-influenced-by-our-surrounding

The question for both threads are different with similarities though, He's asking if you are born with it or is it influenced by surroundings and i'm asking about is sexuality a choice or born with it.

 

[seliph]

You can be a lesbian and asexual though. It just means you're a woman who is romantically attracted to other women but sexually attracted to no one.

Also this thread can practically go hand in hand with the other one and I don't see the point in it? But up to the mods I guess.

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ALSO you don't... choose your interests either wtf.

 

[MozzarellaSticks]

it's a choice, the choice just gets more clear as you experience it. gender, on the other hand, is innate. that's my opinion.

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to clarify, you could like guys, but a certain experience could make you like girls more, and you realize you don't like guys at all. correct me if that's wrong.

Sex or gender? Because there is TONS of research proving societal influences on gender, but one's sex they are born into, and that ultimately will lead to biological factors on gender.

 

[Red Cat]

I don't really know. On one hand, people don't just choose their sexuality whenever they want. On the other hand, it sounds stupid when people talk about a "gay gene" like it's purely genetic. So it's probably something in between which is partially genetic and partially influenced by experiences which is why some people feel one way about their sexuality and over time begin to feel differently.

 

[Bowie]

Nobody would choose to face ridicule everyday over liking the same sex if it were so easy just to be "normal" and like the opposite. I don't know whether you're born with it or if it develops over time, but either way you have little to no say in it.

 

[Corrie]

You don't choose who you are attracted to. It just happens. I'm not sure where it comes from but you definitely can't choose it.

I like to believe it is just something deep down inside you that only gets "unleashed" when you experience certain things.

For example, I always thought I was straight until I got obsessed with dating sims and would fantasize over dating the girls in the game. Was totally in denial about it for a while. Then it translated to real life too and I could picture dating certain girls in real life. Then I was like **** it, I'm bi.

Tldr, I think you are born with it but dom't realize it until you have certain experiences.

 

[LinkToTheWorld]

You can be both gay and asexual.
And no, it isn't a choice. Choice implies that it's a conscious decision.
Interests are totally different. My interests change all the time, my sexuality doesn't.

 

[tumut]

It's not a choice, but you aren't "born with it", it depends on your psychosexual development.

 

[Pearls]

I don't think it's either. It isn't a choice but you're not born with it. It can change for various reasons. Like I used to consider myself straight then aromantic asexual now I think I'm biromantic asexual

 

[chaicow]

I think that sexuality is a choice.

 

[seliph]

I think that sexuality is a choice.

When did u choose to be straight

 

[Antonio]

God, I miss phrased this thread. I meant can you change your sexuality or not. It was 11pm and I was tired...

 

[oath2order]

You can be a lesbian and asexual though. It just means you're a woman who is romantically attracted to other women but sexually attracted to no one.

Also this thread can practically go hand in hand with the other one and I don't see the point in it? But up to the mods I guess.

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ALSO you don't... choose your interests either wtf.

I thought lesbian was a term for sexual attraction and that homoromantic was what you used for same-sex romantic attractions

 

[seliph]

God, I miss phrased this thread. I meant can you change your sexuality or not. It was 11pm and I was tired...

Not willingly otherwise a bunch of LGB people would have probably done it to avoid all the crap we get. It can probably be influenced by traumatic experiences though.

I thought lesbian was a term for sexual attraction and that homoromantic was what you used for same-sex romantic attractions

Maybe but I wouldn't knock using them interchangeably since when people see "homoromantic" or "heteroromantic" they're like lol is this another made up tumblr term? XD special snowflakes

 

[oath2order]

Not willingly otherwise a bunch of LGB people would have probably done it to avoid all the crap we get. It can probably be influenced by traumatic experiences though.



Maybe but I wouldn't knock using them interchangeably since when people see "homoromantic" or "heteroromantic" they're like lol is this another made up tumblr term? XD special snowflakes

I mean I personally don't believe that a separate romantic attraction compared to who you're sexually attracted to is a thing so I do think it's a made-up Tumblr thing...

 

[seliph]

I mean I personally don't believe that a separate romantic attraction compared to who you're sexually attracted to is a thing so I do think it's a made-up Tumblr thing...

But it is a thing. There are a lot of people with said thing. Most who I've encountered are asexuals who aren't aromantic.

 

[oath2order]

But it is a thing. There are a lot of people with said thing. Most who I've encountered are asexuals who aren't aromantic.

Okay whatever you say?\_(ツ)_/?