Is sexuality a choice or are you born with it?

[moonford]

LGBTQ+ people: It's definitely not a choice
Straight people: idk I believe it's a choice personally but that's just my opinion don't hate me XD

Exactly, Ignorant Straight people shouldnt have any opinions on the LGBT+ Community. Its just pure ignorance and hate from them.

 

[cornimer]

Like other people have said, I think sexuality is something that develops as you grow older, but you don't have a say in how it develops. I didn't choose to be asexual, I just never experienced any sort of attraction and eventually was like oh...so that's why. It wasn't a conscious decision to not be attracted to anyone. And it's not like I decided that I wasn't interested in people at all, as I still consider myself romantic, the sexual part just isn't there. And there's nothing I can do about it (nor do I want to do anything about it).

 

[tybalt_cake]

I think you are born with it . But you dont realize it til' you grow

 

[tumut]

Exactly, Straight people shouldnt have any opinions on the LGBT+ Community. Its just pure ignorance and hate from them.

I know plenty of tolerant and understanding straight people. Yes straight people can empathize too sweaty : 3

 

[ZetaFunction]

It's definitely not a choice... although for some people it is a choice, but the reason of them choosing to be LGBTQ+ is because of reasons they can't control (they have stronger feelings for some people over others). But take for example people who are bisexual: they like boys or girls, but almost always someone who's bi will like one gender just slightly more than the other. Can they choose which gender they like more? No. Can anyone for that matter choose what type of person/personality they like? No. Feelings are feelings and they can't be changed by sheer will, only by experience and opinion. And the type of person you like is just another part of you. You can't control who you have feelings for, can you?

TL;DR: Sexuality is something you're usually born with, but is almost always changed by experience and feelings.

 

[earthquake]

I know plenty of tolerant and understanding straight people. Yes straight people can empathize too sweaty : 3

help im dead

 

[Ghost Soda]

It's not a choice, why is this even a ****ing question?

 

[Jared:3]

It's more you develope it when you're older, and you realize a boy and a girl, you aren't born with it

 

[skarmoury]

The only thing I'm sure you're born with is your sex (basically determined by your penis or vagina).
For sexuality, it's just something that you feel, you know? It's not a choice per se, but it just comes to you, and it's also affected by the people, the environment you live in, etc..

(Also I apologize in advance if I'm not allowed to give my opinion on this since I'm most likely straight. I'm not sure if it's rude or not, but a lot have been saying it is.
Sharing too that I'm also at the stage of discovering myself since I used to think I was bisexual but I realized my attraction to women was not as intimate as my attraction to men. But idk, that might change.)

 

[Brad]

It's not a choice. Sexuality is very complicated. And, I believe it can be fluid in a lot of cases, not for all, but for some.

 

[Corrie]

The only thing I'm sure you're born with is your sex (basically determined by your penis or vagina).
For sexuality, it's just something that you feel, you know? It's not a choice per se, but it just comes to you, and it's also affected by the people, the environment you live in, etc..

(Also I apologize in advance if I'm not allowed to give my opinion on this since I'm most likely straight. I'm not sure if it's rude or not, but a lot have been saying it is.
Sharing too that I'm also at the stage of discovering myself since I used to think I was bisexual but I realized my attraction to women was not as intimate as my attraction to men. But idk, that might change.)

Of course you're allowed to give your opinion. It doesn't matter what your sexuality is. Anyone who says you can't talk about the LGBT+ community cause you are straight, needs to take a chill pill.

Edit: and as far as I understand, the question was talking about sexuality as a whole, not just the LGBT+ community.

 

[Xerolin]

imo its a choice
dont fite me

 

[moonford]

I know plenty of tolerant and understanding straight people. Yes straight people can empathize too sweaty : 3

Stating the obvious are we now sweaty? : 3


I obviously meant straight people who don't know what its like to be the minority sexuality and because of this they ignore facts and are just flat out horrible to people in LGBT+ Community, because of their sexuality.


Also for all those people who think sexuality is a choice, you're silly, the facts are against you and you're opinion is irrelevant. Accept that its not a choice, you silly geese.

 

[LinkToTheWorld]

imo its a choice
dont fite me

But people say that and then don't give any reasoning as to why. Why do you think it's a choice? Genuinely interested in why people think that way, given how difficult life can be for anybody who isn't heterosexual

 

[Heyden]

born with it, but i guess it also depends on how you were raised or if you grew up differently if that makes sense

 

[EpicGamer12]

There is no solid line between the two because love and attraction are not simple concepts. It is very case-based and, in general, no one person can speak up for one whole community,

 

[visibleghost]

neither

people are the way they are and it's not a choice, but sexuality changes and evolves. it is affected by how we are raised and our experiences in life too. and a lot of people don't accept or realize that they aren't straight because being straight is the default and many people think you are supposed to be straight, so those people might identify as straight but if things had gone a bit differently (like if society or the people around them had been more open and accepting or whatever idk) they would probably not identify as straight.

trauma can affect your sexuality, depression and other illnesses can affect your sexuality, time can affect your sexuality, etc. not only in the asexual way, it can also make you more or less attracted to certain genders and whatever so i mean yyh ...

so basically imo you might not be born with your sexuality (pretty sure most people dont rly develop a sexuality until they're, like, not a toddler or whatever?????? i mean idk But . ..) but it's still not a choice!! it just kinda happens

 

[Dogemon]

imo its a choice
dont fite me

Cause I totally choose to be something that can get me killed for being in multiple parts of world. Whaaaat.

 

[seliph]

Of course you're allowed to give your opinion. It doesn't matter what your sexuality is. Anyone who says you can't talk about the LGBT+ community cause you are straight, needs to take a chill pill.

Edit: and as far as I understand, the question was talking about sexuality as a whole, not just the LGBT+ community.

I think what people are trying to say regarding straight people and their opinions here is that LGBT+ people are the ones who always get told that they choose to be what they are even if we're constantly saying otherwise, and we're the ones who are actually affected and will continue to be affected by people saying sexuality is a choice. Meanwhile straight people can go about their lives with zero repercussions for people thinking their sexuality is a choice or not, and they'll never have to tell people "it's not a choice" because being straight is considered the "default" so no one questions them.
Plus "sexuality is a choice" is often an attack (towards LGBT+ people) and an excuse to harass or downright murder us.

It's not so much "straight people can't have opinions" as it is "straight people should not talk over us and hold their opinion above ours regarding an issue that takes our lives from us".

 

[Bunnilla]

Isn't sexuality "born with it" and gender your choice or what you think of yourself? That's why on important documents they ask for your sex, not your gender.

correct me if I'm wrong ya...