Is sexuality a choice or are you born with it?

[moonford]

When did u choose to be straight

Don't feed the troll.

 

[seliph]

Don't feed the troll.

Is it a troll though
There's a lot of people with that mindset

 

[moonford]

Is it a troll though
There's a lot of people with that mindset

Just a hunch. XD
I know the ways of a troll.


And yep, I guess scientific facts aren't good enough for them.

 

[ams]

Neither? Biology is more complicated than either of those options.

 

[That Zephyr Guy]

Okay whatever you say?\_(ツ)_/?

I mean like, if you think asexuals are a legit thing, then what else kind of a attraction can they experience?

 

[CatsAreSuperCool]

I'd say born with it, or it just comes naturally. No, you don't choose if you're gay. People don't realize that it's been documented other animals can be gay, too. Just search up "gay animals" and click the article that says "Think being gay is unnatural? Think again" (i'd link it but idk if that's allowed).

As for the genders/sexualities, it all really confuses me, but if you think you feel like a girl and you're a guy (and vice-versa), then by all means I respect that. The one thing I truthfully will never understand is gender-fluid. How does that work? Anyways, I'll respect anything as long as you're not faking it for attention.

 

[Dogemon]

I mean like, if you think asexuals are a legit thing, then what else kind of a attraction can they experience?

Romantic? I've dated asexuals before and I promise they do have feelings lmao. They just don't feel anything sexual or the desire to be sexual.

 

[That Zephyr Guy]

Romantic? I've dated asexuals before and I promise they do have feelings lmao. They just don't feel anything sexual or the desire to be sexual.

That's what I was saying.

 

[nintendofan85]

I chose "born with it" although I wouldn't exactly completely say that's my view.
I do think genetics play a role, but another thing I believe is simply the kind of environment people grow up in-that can be a broad range of factors.
So, either way, it isn't a choice.

 

[vel]

I retake my answer, I wasn't educated enough on my own; I apologize. I now believe it to be innate, and you recognize it more and more as time goes on. Correct me if I'm wrong, but that is my current standpoint.

 

[earthquake]

i dont think its a choice, nor are you born with it.
you arent born with any sexuality at all; i believe your views and sexuality stem from the environment in which you grew up.

that being said, once you realize what group of people you are attracted to, you dont really have a choice in the matter. you just like that group of people and nothing can really change that.

thats how i see it anyway. thoughts?

 

[Envy]

The idea that sexuality is a choice should not even be on the table. It's absurd. I never chose my sexuality. I could make myself think I was bi there for a few years, but I was delusional, and once my sexuality really began solidifying it was impossible for me to even feign (to myself) being bi anymore, even though I wanted to be 'normal' and like the opposite gender, too.

It isn't a choice, period.

 

[Koopa K]

You need an "other" option. You are born either male or female, but your environment and the people you surround yourself with are a big influence. On the other hand, you can't help who you love. So... ?\_(ツ)_/? . I don't have all the answers. I have this tendency to love not based on appearance (mostly, I kinda have a thing for short people and blue eyes), but based on their personality. So, I guess I'm pansexual? On the other hand, the idea of sex with other people is unfathomable for me, though I do have needs, so I guess I'm also asexual? And I'm mostly straight, but I'm pretty open minded, so... ?\_(ツ)_/? . I don't know.

 

[KaydeeKrunk]

It's hard to say if it's either or, I mean I wasn't really influenced to go one way or another so I've always been interested in everyone, it's only developed further as I've grown up and realized I was pansexual. I think in part it is through experience that you develop into who you're meant to be but it's not really a "choice" I mean, you don't really have control over it.

 

[Celestefey]

This is so hard to say because sexuality is a really odd and bizarre thing. I mean when you are young you don't really experience romantic or sexual attraction so it's only something that starts to develop within you as you mature. For me I knew I sort of liked girls even when I was 10 years old, but it wasn't until I was 13/14 that I begun to wonder whether or not I was bisexual. I guess there was very little education on other sexualities, I had always been taught that being heterosexual was the "norm", and that you could be gay, but there was never an "in between". So I never even begun to consider that I was bi until I actually learned about it. It wasn't a choice, I decided to start identifying as bi but even before that I was bi because I was attracted to girls as well as boys. I just thought, oh, well, everyone SORT of likes the same gender as well, we just don't admit it because it's weird, or whatever. But yeah, it's NOT a choice, you don't choose to be a sexuality, because you can't control who you love. But sexuality is more like a development process rather than something you are born with, and that's also the case with my own experiences.

 

[ApolloJusticeAC]

I personally believe you choose it, but you can be born with it anyways.

 

[LambdaDelta]

I seriously want to wring anyone that thinks it's a choice

because yes, people would chose sexual identities that conflict with the ingrained standards of society and puts them at a severe disadvantage. these people just like playing on "potentially life-ruining lunatic mode". certainly nothing more to it

 

[LinkToTheWorld]

I seriously want to wring anyone that thinks it's a choice

because yes, people would chose sexual identities that conflict with the ingrained standards of society and puts them at a severe disadvantage. these people just like playing on "potentially life-ruining lunatic mode". certainly nothing more to it

So do I...it's one thing that is bound to wind me up and I'm an extremely patient person. It being a choice should never be an option.
I will never forget one of my best friends at school going through an horrendous time because the other boys were calling him gay slurs and being a massive bully to him just because he was gay. And that goes on all the time, right into adulthood. Why would anybody choose that? they wouldn't

 

[Celestefey]

So do I...it's one thing that is bound to wind me up and I'm an extremely patient person. It being a choice should never be an option.
I will never forget one of my best friends at school going through an horrendous time because the other boys were calling him gay slurs and being a massive bully to him just because he was gay. And that goes on all the time, right into adulthood. Why would anybody choose that? they wouldn't

Exactly. I don't know if people are saying it's a choice because it's true you have the ability to choose what you identify as in terms of sexuality (and that's fair enough because sexuality is a hard thing to describe so you should be allowed the freedom to describe your own attraction in your own way), but you can't CHOOSE who you are attracted to, it's not like you just wake up and tell yourself "you know what, I like girls" one day, it's just a part of who you are.

 

[seliph]

LGBTQ+ people: It's definitely not a choice
Straight people: idk I believe it's a choice personally but that's just my opinion don't hate me XD