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wait queer is an insult?
i normally think of it as
"he seems a little queer to me."
It's a semi-commonly used slur against gay/LGBT+ people.
wait queer is an insult?
i normally think of it as
"he seems a little queer to me."
I just feel that by continuing to view queer as a word that is hurtful and ostracizing, it's only further oppressing queer/LGBT+ people.
The way I see it is that by allowing myself to be hurt by the word queer I'm giving more power to the people who want to keep me oppressed. And also, when I decide to celebrate being called queer, I'm just celebrating that I am different, because according to the people who utilize queer as a slur, I am, and by celebrating that I'm empowering myself. But that's just me.
How about the word faqqot, then? Why not see that as a good thing if you're going to see queer as one?
I've never heard the word 'queer' as a posititve word in the UK. Whether or not there is a charity trying to promote it doesn't matter: it's offensive. No gay person calls themself a queer.
The usage of "queer" in the UK has various informal definitions that can be used in the same sentence, but express entirely different meanings based on the intent/context - so that's not surprising you wouldn't acknowledge it as a positive term. Offline I actually most frequently hear the word "queer" in situations completely unrelated to sexuality (e.g. to express something being odd, or feeling out of sorts), yet they are all grammatically correct usages of the word.
Also, in response to your final sentence: there are people who define themselves as queer.
The majority in the UK do not refer to themselves as queer: everyone here knows that.
Officially a word can have more than one meaning but for queer the traditional term is rarely to never used unless by the elderly. By elderly I mean like 90 year olds.
The majority in the UK do not refer to themselves as queer: everyone here knows that.
Officially a word can have more than one meaning but for queer the traditional term is rarely to never used unless by the elderly. By elderly I mean like 90 year olds.
The fact is that some people view queer as a derogatory term (how many, and where, and how old doesn't matter), and it isn't up to anyone but the person to determine how they should feel about it. I think it's fine to use it, but, especially if you're addressing a person directly as queer, you need to be sure they're okay with that term being used in reference to them.
oh the q word discussion. brought it up a while ago.
but yeah, do NOT call the whole community that. just say non het. the q word can be used as a slur, can be reclaimed, or someone can identify with it. plain and simple. i hear more often in a positive way and was shocked when i heard someone use it in a negative way for once irl because i dont hear that often but yeah, its def used more as a slur in certain places. (ex: the south in the US)
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I feel like 'queer' is something you should make up your own mind on whether you feel comfortable with it or not. But you should definitely NOT apply it to people you don't know, or a certain subset of people and think it's okay because one of your friends is fine with it, you know what I mean? Like-
"My friend Robin identifies as queer and they don't make a big deal about it! I don't see why you're so upset when I call you that! Jeez!"
I think I'm just saying that there's nothing wrong with identifying as queer, but it's okay to not want to be called that as well.
Besides, I think 'queer' covers more than just sexuality- like you said, it covers a range of expression. I wouldn't be upset if someone called me that, but it's really not- my preference.
I really don't think it's that necessary to emphasize that you shouldn't refer to it as such. If I say that I'm a queer person, I'm saying I identify with the queer community. And also non-het is just as offensive and ostracizing as queer. Honestly any term you use is going to offend someone, but generally I try to not tell people to not refer to something a certain way. It just seems that everyone should be allowed to identify with what they wish and should use the language they want when speaking about a community they feel attached to, unless explicitly told by someone that they feel uncomfortable with that term.