LGBTQA - Discussion and support.

[Jinglefruit]

My dad saw my giant rainbow flag in my room and said. "Your not really On this path of destruction, are you?"

I'm not sure your dad has very good association skills.

He'll come round eventually. My dad did, and I only had to tell him about 7 times across 2 years. <_<; And if he doesn't come round, maybe point out to him that;

1) He didn't chose to be straight (and if he did then I've got news for him).
2) It's your life (and your genitals) and you're entitled to do what you want with it (them), doesn't affect him in the slightest.

 

[radical6]

Okay so I mentioned to my teacher on starting a LGBTQIA club. They wanted to call it a GSA but I refused. Anyway, I was kinda shocked after my geometry class because my teachers were spreading around a meeting at a college for LGBTQIA. Cool I guess but no one in my class really paid attention.

 

[Beachland]

Okay so I mentioned to my teacher on starting a LGBTQIA club. They wanted to call it a GSA but I refused.

Ugh, that's annoying. Because you know that if they call it a GSA then 90% of the people who join will be straight, cisgender people who like to pat themselves on the back for being accepting :/

 

[radical6]

Ugh, that's annoying. Because you know that if they call it a GSA then 90% of the people who join will be straight, cisgender people who like to pat themselves on the back for being accepting :/

I mostly don't like the term "GSA" because it leaves everyone else out. Not to mention my teacher was like "if we call it LGBT then people might get a bad reaction.. they'll think oh it's THOSE people..." I'm like excuse me? Are you saying that because you think people will dislike the transgender side? Or anyone on the ace spectrum? I was basically like wtf when I heard that.

 

[DarkOnyx]

I'm bi,and I'm not sure if I should tell my family or not..My uncle is gay afterall,and he got married to a cool funny guy.

 

[g u a v a]

mini-rant/ramble coming up

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Gah. So, I personally identify as being genderqueer but more often than not I'm addressed as a male. Everything from the greeters at the stores, people working the register and so on, I'm always addressed as a male and it makes me feel really uncomfortable.

The thing is that the way I look feels completely comfortable to myself and could be taken as expressing "masculinity" (whatever that even means tbh) but idk I just wish everyone would be addressed in a gender-neutral manner until otherwise stated :\. Like, I shouldn't have to express my genderqueerness in a certain way because the thing is that genderqueer people can express however they like and it still not either/or.

aksdjngkjsndg im stressed

 

[oath2order]

mini-rant/ramble coming up

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Gah. So, I personally identify as being genderqueer but more often than not I'm addressed as a male. Everything from the greeters at the stores, people working the register and so on, I'm always addressed as a male and it makes me feel really uncomfortable.

The thing is that the way I look feels completely comfortable to myself and could be taken as expressing "masculinity" (whatever that even means tbh) but idk I just wish everyone would be addressed in a gender-neutral manner until otherwise stated :\. Like, I shouldn't have to express my genderqueerness in a certain way because the thing is that genderqueer people can express however they like and it still not either/or.

aksdjngkjsndg im stressed

I have to ask what you expect people to address you as

 

[g u a v a]

I have to ask what you expect people to address you as

Just a person with no definite gender. People often ask me: "if you don't want people to call you sir/ma'am, then what can we say?" and the thing is that you don't have to say anything. If you're greeting someone all you really need to say is "Good day," there is really no need for the gendered language at all.

 

[Chris]

I mostly don't like the term "GSA" because it leaves everyone else out. Not to mention my teacher was like "if we call it LGBT then people might get a bad reaction.. they'll think oh it's THOSE people..." I'm like excuse me? Are you saying that because you think people will dislike the transgender side? Or anyone on the ace spectrum? I was basically like wtf when I heard that.

Look at it from a different angle.

GSA the letter the most emphasis should be on is the A: it's there to emphasise and encourage people to communicate with each other. Schools want to encourage people to support each other regardless of differences - not to single them out. There is also the option there to attend without necessarily feeling pressured to come out either. It's the more welcoming, less heavy, of the two options.

 

[radical6]

Look at it from a different angle.

GSA the letter the most emphasis should be on is the A: it's there to emphasise and encourage people to communicate with each other. Schools want to encourage people to support each other regardless of differences - not to single them out. There is also the option there to attend without necessarily feeling pressured to come out either. It's the more welcoming, less heavy, of the two options.

I guess you have a point. I still don't like it because it leaves everyone else out, and if you think that gay only means gay men then it's even smaller. Like, I live in a pretty liberal area so everyone here is mostly okay with gay people - that's fine. But I'd like to spread awareness about trans and ppl on the ace spectrum and everyone else. I feel like my school is okay with gay people ?? I mean having a GSA is better than nothing but having a club that focuses on more than the gay community would be nice too because people don't know much about the rest of the community.

 

[Stevey Queen]

My old high school club is called GSA and there's more than just homo/heteros there. We have trans too. Don't pass this club up because of it's name. Let it be known it's for everyone

 

[Apollyna]

Just a person with no definite gender. People often ask me: "if you don't want people to call you sir/ma'am, then what can we say?" and the thing is that you don't have to say anything. If you're greeting someone all you really need to say is "Good day," there is really no need for the gendered language at all.

I totally get this. IRL, I don't get mad at people for using my 'obvious' pronouns though. I feel like I can't blame them and afterall, I don't have severe dysphoria or anything, thank goodness.

Whenever I talk about myself online, I just like to drop pronouns completely in favor of just "I/me/my" or "the apo" or something silly like that.
It's hard to explain... just feels more comfortable and more right, I guess?

 

[g u a v a]

I totally get this. IRL, I don't get mad at people for using my 'obvious' pronouns though. I feel like I can't blame them and afterall, I don't have severe dysphoria or anything, thank goodness.

Whenever I talk about myself online, I just like to drop pronouns completely in favor of just "I/me/my" or "the apo" or something silly like that.
It's hard to explain... just feels more comfortable and more right, I guess?

And it's not that I get angry at the people themselves, I more so get upset at the fact that as a society we've put these like ideas into people's brains and they've become so commonplace that it's impossible for them to even consider that a person can be something other than male or female.

 

[Zeiro]

My old high school club is called GSA and there's more than just homo/heteros there. We have trans too. Don't pass this club up because of it's name. Let it be known it's for everyone

My high school had one as well, but I don't think it exists anymore. I didn't see it at the club fair or the sports assembly this year, it's a shame. I don't think it was in the yearbook last year either. My sister was in it a few years back when they still had it.

 

[Brackets]

Just a person with no definite gender. People often ask me: "if you don't want people to call you sir/ma'am, then what can we say?" and the thing is that you don't have to say anything. If you're greeting someone all you really need to say is "Good day," there is really no need for the gendered language at all.

But lots of people such as myself like to be addressed by my gender. Basically, not everyone's ever going to be happy.
And in my job gendered language is needed all the time

 

[Yannick]

Biromantic asexual here! It's nice to see that they have a LGBTQA group here. It feels nice to see more people like me!

 

[Izzy Reincarnated]

Gender pronoun thing is very English. Most languages have gender neutral pronouns.
The Persian language (a language I speak) is 100% genderless. It, she, and he are the same pronoun.

 

[Brackets]

Gender pronoun thing is very English. Most languages have gender neutral pronouns.
The Persian language (a language I speak) is 100% genderless. It, she, and he are the same pronoun.

Really? I thought most languages use gender. I know French, Spanish and German do, they even have male/female pronouns for most objects as well

 

[atonnoudjement]

I'm pansexual panromantic and heteronormativity annoys me to no end. Esp with the "YOU CAN ONLY LIKE ONE!" and "You have a boyfriend so you're straight!" completely ignoring my ex girlfriend and female leanings

Yeah one of my best friends in HS started the GSA, which got a lot of flack because our school is quite homophobic. Ew. At my uni we used to be known as a "lesbian campus" because it was an all girls school, but alas there are now men. Exercise science majors. Gross. Chavs, gross. A friend and I are trying to rekindle the GSA here at uni tho, wish us luck.

Oh, and as a german speaker, yes there is gender pronouns much like english. I think you mean gender pronouns are very germanic, for all of the germanic languages I know (English, German, Dutch) have them

 

[Izzy Reincarnated]

Really? I thought most languages use gender. I know French, Spanish and German do, they even have male/female pronouns for most objects as well

I've noticed it's more of the languages spoken in Asia.