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I am literally so confused with all of these new labels for certain individual's sexuality.
Pansexual, hetrosexual, homosexual, bisexual, asexual etc.
I despise how some people use these words to define themselves.
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Stevey Queen
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Pansexual and cis and some others are all relatively new. They didn't exist back when I was in high school 2-3 years ago
At least the labels for them didn't exist.
There's too many labels. It's hard to keep up.
@Jarrad It's unnecessary to despise them and this isn't the safest of places to be saying you despise something.
Lady Timpani
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From what I understand, cisgender has been around since the 90s. It's only just become mainstream, though. Can't say anything as far as pansexual goes, but I think it was coined around the same time.
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really? are you sure? maybe you just didn't hear them used much? i could have sworn i heard them around three years ago, but i could be wrong.
yes, there are a lot of labels, but... if it makes someone more comfortable to label who they are, then i'm all for it. for someone to say they despise it is just ridiculous.
Jinglefruit
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I'd heard of pansexual and cisgendered about 5 years back, when I first started going to our uni's lgbt. The titles have always been around though. They're not new terms, the prefixes all have meanings outside of sexualities. cis~ and trans~ have been used in Chemistry terms for decades, but I think it was a lot later that the public picked up the cis is the opposite to trans and it cottoned on.
Liquid Ocelot
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My good friend came out to me as bisexual.
I am also bisexual. But I feel at a loss as to what to say, other than “Nothing’s changed about how I see you, I love you, and I love whoever you love, too.”
I AM SUPPOSED TO BE GOOD AT THIS?
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I am almost in tears. Not because of anything bad, but because someone is expressing themselves emotionally to me and it hurts to know that they were scared and fighting with themselves when I would have loved them no matter what.
I am also bisexual. But I feel at a loss as to what to say, other than “Nothing’s changed about how I see you, I love you, and I love whoever you love, too.”
I AM SUPPOSED TO BE GOOD AT THIS?
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I am almost in tears. Not because of anything bad, but because someone is expressing themselves emotionally to me and it hurts to know that they were scared and fighting with themselves when I would have loved them no matter what.
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If you're confused on the labels people use to define their sexuality, googling and researching them is a great way to become un-confused. It is only out of ignorance would you despise someone for labeling themselves a word you don't understand. Humans don't really like to leave things up in the air too much - labels allow people to narrow down and be able to tell someone "This is who I am" without a very long explanation.
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I always assumed that since nobody talks about heterosexuality, as it's the dominant sexuality in society, that was why nobody said the word "hetero" in public, the same said for trans and cis
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"nobody said the word 'hetero' in public"
uh. On which planet?
uh. On which planet?
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I dont hear people saying hetero in public. Dont hear it at work in Target or on the bus
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I don't like all the labels because I'm afraid(and pretty sure) that people will label themselves because of a certain feeling/attraction they have (or had) and eventually doing that will MAKE them convinced that they ARE that label. Doing this will, I believe remove the idea being who you are is (for a big part)a choice.
It's a bit the same with personalities tests. You get a result and your "personality" is displayed. But this personality doesn't define who you are always going to be. It is generated out of the choices you have made in the test. Of course we definitely do have a personality, but we need to be careful because if we have a bad personality this is not something we can't change, it's a choice and we with our choices greatly affect our personality and can change. That's the danger with these labels. You start to think you ARE the label and there's nothing you can do about it.
Of course outside influences out of your power(such as education, etc.) do have an impact on how easy or difficult a choice is. But just because you are easier tempted to do something shouldn't control who you are, or who you shouldn't be. Don't forget that we're all "born" with a bad nature in some way, and thats why children NEED to be educated. But no education is flawless(and some are just plain bad), and so there'll always be things we'll have to work out ourselves. We must be careful to then not define our flaws as normal and avoid changing.
And if you would like to change, I know sometimes things seems so hard it's as if it were impossible. But I being a Christian know that with God all things are possible. And I know that out of personal experience as well. God bless you all and thanks for reading.
It's a bit the same with personalities tests. You get a result and your "personality" is displayed. But this personality doesn't define who you are always going to be. It is generated out of the choices you have made in the test. Of course we definitely do have a personality, but we need to be careful because if we have a bad personality this is not something we can't change, it's a choice and we with our choices greatly affect our personality and can change. That's the danger with these labels. You start to think you ARE the label and there's nothing you can do about it.
Of course outside influences out of your power(such as education, etc.) do have an impact on how easy or difficult a choice is. But just because you are easier tempted to do something shouldn't control who you are, or who you shouldn't be. Don't forget that we're all "born" with a bad nature in some way, and thats why children NEED to be educated. But no education is flawless(and some are just plain bad), and so there'll always be things we'll have to work out ourselves. We must be careful to then not define our flaws as normal and avoid changing.
And if you would like to change, I know sometimes things seems so hard it's as if it were impossible. But I being a Christian know that with God all things are possible. And I know that out of personal experience as well. God bless you all and thanks for reading.
Lady Timpani
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And if you would like to change, I know sometimes things seems so hard it's as if it were impossible. But I being a Christian know that with God all things are possible. And I know that out of personal experience as well. God bless you all and thanks for reading.
Wait what
Are you trying to convert us
Stevey Queen
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You can't choose your sexuality, Punchy.
You act like you chose to be straight
You act like you chose to be straight
Jinglefruit
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I like that the first 3/4s of that reads like a self empowerment speech about being yourself and not letting anyone change you.
And the last 3 lines are, 'BUT I'M TRYING TO CHANGE YOU.'
And the last 3 lines are, 'BUT I'M TRYING TO CHANGE YOU.'
And if you would like to change, I know sometimes things seems so hard it's as if it were impossible. But I being a Christian know that with God all things are possible. And I know that out of personal experience as well. God bless you all and thanks for reading.
I would like to become a psychopathic murderer, can you hook me up with god and get him to change me? Thanks!
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