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i think im getting a binder and tbh im so goddamn happy i love my friend so much i could cry right now
 
Well I've been avoiding this thread due to wanting to fly under the radar, but it looks like some people might appreciate advice from a mtf transwoman. Although, I have only been on HRT for three weeks. I can still help with any questions about the process in the U.S. and what quickly changes with hormones and what takes time.
 
I'm unable to get one because my parents are deeply against it and pretty much monitor everything I buy online and irl. I'm so glad I'm getting one from a friend.

Marmoset said:
Not sure if serious or a joke....

Either way, congrats on the binder! :) My friend (FTM) is waiting on one as well, but they are pretty pricey. How often does one wear a binder?
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I guess if you want a good one that won't kill you they will be more pricey. The best ones I've seen go for ~$30-50. There's probably more expensive ones though. You can buy some for like 5 but they don't seem to be very safe or good. The one I'm interested in is midrange so I hope it will be ok. I think I read you shouldn't wear them to sleep or for long periods of time unless you want rib damage. I'd probably wear it during the day at school and maybe if I go out with friends, but wearing it during the night will probably cause some problems.
 
justice said:
I'm unable to get one because my parents are deeply against it and pretty much monitor everything I buy online and irl. I'm so glad I'm getting one from a friend.



I guess if you want a good one that won't kill you they will be more pricey. The best ones I've seen go for ~$30-50. There's probably more expensive ones though. You can buy some for like 5 but they don't seem to be very safe or good. The one I'm interested in is midrange so I hope it will be ok. I think I read you shouldn't wear them to sleep or for long periods of time unless you want rib damage. I'd probably wear it during the day at school and maybe if I go out with friends, but wearing it during the night will probably cause some problems.
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Makes sense. I have a friend who I am trying to support (he's having problems at work; a lot of people are pretty against his transitioning and keep saying "she/her" pronouns, so I'm trying to make up for that in support) who is interested in these kinds of things. So I may have more questions in the future!
 
Marmoset said:
Not sure if serious or a joke....

Either way, congrats on the binder! :) My friend (FTM) is waiting on one as well, but they are pretty pricey. How often does one wear a binder?
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...I thought the bit of empty space about my text would have given someone the idea to highlight it and see what's there.

guess not.
 
I wanna come out as Bi to my parents (is that normal? Coming out as bi?), but since everyone and their f***ing mothers are coming out as lesbian/gay or bi for attention, they won't believe me and say it's a phase and I'm just trying to be 'different'.

There are people who actually gay/bi/pan or whatever, and then there's the people my age who think they'll get more attention from coming out, so my parents and sister don't believe me, and it sucks.

I've felt feelings towards both men and women (not just romantic) for about 2 years now, and I'm not even being subtle about it yet they still think I'm just 'trying to be different'
Ugh
 
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Beardo said:
I wanna come out as Bi to my parents (is that normal? Coming out as bi?), but since everyone and their f***ing mothers are coming out as lesbian/gay or bi for attention, they won't believe me and say it's a phase and I'm just trying to be 'different'.

There are people who actually gay/bi/pan or whatever, and then there's the people my age who think they'll get more attention from coming out, so my parents and sister don't believe me, and it sucks.

I've felt feelings towards both men and women (not just romantic) for about 2 years now, and I'm not even being subtle about it yet they still think I'm just 'trying to be different'
Ugh
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I'm really sorry that has happened to you. I'm not sure if I'm qualified to give advice and I'm not sure if this advice will be helpful, but try to stay true to yourself and be yourself. So long as you're happy that's all that matters. People who do things for the sake of attention will never reach true happiness; perhaps one day your parents and siblings will see that you truly are happy being true to yourself and believe you.
 
Beardo said:
I wanna come out as Bi to my parents (is that normal? Coming out as bi?), but since everyone and their f***ing mothers are coming out as lesbian/gay or bi for attention, they won't believe me and say it's a phase and I'm just trying to be 'different'.

There are people who actually gay/bi/pan or whatever, and then there's the people my age who think they'll get more attention from coming out, so my parents and sister don't believe me, and it sucks.

I've felt feelings towards both men and women (not just romantic) for about 2 years now, and I'm not even being subtle about it yet they still think I'm just 'trying to be different'
Ugh
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Maybe they're in denial because it's shocking to them. That's actually pretty common. I'm sorry that they won't believe you and be supportive, but at least disbelief is more of a neutral reaction than a negative one. I hope they come to terms with it, in due time.
 
Marmoset said:
I'm really sorry that has happened to you. I'm not sure if I'm qualified to give advice and I'm not sure if this advice will be helpful, but try to stay true to yourself and be yourself. So long as you're happy that's all that matters. People who do things for the sake of attention will never reach true happiness; perhaps one day your parents and siblings will see that you truly are happy being true to yourself and believe you.
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Thank you

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Hana-Nezumi said:
Maybe they're in denial because it's shocking to them. That's actually pretty common. I'm sorry that they won't believe you and be supportive, but at least disbelief is more of a neutral reaction than a negative one. I hope they come to terms with it, in due time.
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Yeah. They have a lot of friends who are gay/trans, so I assume once they actually decide to believe me they'll be accepting. I'm just really pissed they think I just want attention.
 
I'm posting this on behalf of my girlfriend bc she's a lazy dweeb and won't make an account here so w.e

Basically, to sum it up, she told her parents that she and I were in a relationship and that she was only attracted to girls. Her mother was very supportive [ her sisters were, too. ], but her father was in denial. He told her that, "It's just a phase, you'll get over it.". A few months had passed and she decided to bring up the topic again, so her father made her go to church [ she's not Christian but her parents are. ] to listen to a lecture about being gay. Her father then took her to therapy because he "Just couldn't understand why she likes girls." and he wants her to have her on biological family with a man. Her father has been really mean to her lately and has been forcing her to go to therapy, to church, and to even see a school counselor. She's been depressed lately because he hasn't been talking to her and ignoring her and I don't know what to do or say to her because I've never been in this situation before.
 
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RetroT said:
I'm posting this on behalf of my girlfriend bc she's a lazy dweeb and won't make an account here so w.e

Basically, to sum it up, she told her parents that she and I were in a relationship and that she was only attracted to girls. Her mother was very supportive [ her sisters were, too. ], but her father was in denial. He told her that, "It's just a phase, you'll get over it.". A few months had passed and she decided to bring up the topic again, so her father made her go to church [ she's not Christian but her parents are. ] to listen to a lecture about being gay. Her father then took her to therapy because he "Just couldn't understand why she likes girls." and he wants her to have her on biological family with a man. Her father has been really mean to her lately and has been forcing her to go to therapy, to church, and to even see a school counselor. She's been depressed lately because he hasn't been talking to her and ignoring her and I don't know what to do or say to her because I've never been in this situation before.
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Her mother and sisters were accepting of her, could they try to talk to her dad about it? That's not in anyway okay for him to do.
 
this transphobe harassed me in the past before and i brushed it off. was kinda weirded out how he got my number tho in the first place. i found out who he was after some searching tho so i could easily bring it up to his school but he goes to a christian private school sooo

anyway i heard he was being invited to a friends party and i cancelled my plans because uh i feel pretty uncomfortable around the dude since he made gross comments and threats. my friend decided he couldnt come then and all of a sudden i got like a bunch of messages from the dude begging for forgiveness?? like he kept calling me after i told him to leave me alone and after i blocked him he started using his moms phone to call me. god.

i dont really understand whats so hard for people to understand tho? like uh if you made transphobic comments towards me its reasonable for me to not want to talk to you.. my phone kept vibrating because of him before i finally yelled at my friend to get him to shut up. (my friend and him are friends).

kind of ruined my day but whatever
 
My mom and aunt are being real jerks about me having a crush on a female friend. They don't want me to date her, but they won't say why, and they get defensive when I tell them that they're being a bit homophobic.
And guess what?
The friend I have a crush on
is willing to be my fake girlfriend
just to shove it in their faces that this is a thing and they have to deal with it.

How do I deal with my mom and aunt?
 
ZanessaGaily said:
My mom and aunt are being real jerks about me having a crush on a female friend. They don't want me to date her, but they won't say why, and they get defensive when I tell them that they're being a bit homophobic.
And guess what?
The friend I have a crush on
is willing to be my fake girlfriend
just to shove it in their faces that this is a thing and they have to deal with it.

How do I deal with my mom and aunt?
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tbh they need to accept you. im not really sure what to do since my parents are pretty accepting of my sexuality but not my gender.but what i did with my gender was "this makes me happy, are you really going to hold it back from me?" like. its not harming anyone or yourself so its fine tbh. im not too sure going up to them with ur fake gf will be a good thing, might cause more tension. id see if you could pry any more info from them before doing anything major
 
a binder would be nice to have + wear
id probably only be able to get one when im in college
only four years to go,,,,,,,,,,,,,
 
i don't know if i'm asexual or just super demisexual and its literally killing me
i'm in middle school, so obviously everyone is talking about their crushes and I just feel awkward.
 
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