LGBTQA - Discussion and support.

[GameLaxer]

I was with my last ex for over 6 years and she was very much my best friend as well as my partner.

It's been somewhat over a year now since we broke up and I do still think about her and miss the friendship, chemistry, etc. etc. as well as often wondering "does she still think about me?". To be honest, wondering whether they still think of you is probably the hardest part. We shared a lot of interests so a lot of things 'jog my memory', as well as certain things that I see/hear/do occasionally that just makes me think she would have liked.

I would never get back with her, though that's due to the specific circumstances as I simply couldn't trust her again + I burned that bridge to make sure I never do so and we have had no contact since. Like you though, I still care for her and if I happened to see her around and she was 'in trouble, or hear she was 'having a bad time' I would likely still go out of my way to help.

I can't say how to get over your 'first love' since despite the amount of other girls I've been with, she was the first and to an extent I'm still in the process of it (6/7 years is a lot to get over). It gets easier with time though, you find ways to fill the voids and it gets easier. Having those memories is nice because they still make me happy at the same time.

To be honest, I've gotten to the point now where it doesn't really make me sad anymore, they're just happy memories of something that 'used to be' like a lot of other things in the past that I can look back at and smile.

'Getting over it' (like other things) isn't the same process for everybody though with everybody doing it in their own way, and it's never guaranteed how long it's going to take somebody to do so.

Thank you very much for sharing your insight and personal experience. It helped me quite a bit as I am experiencing similar things in regards to my own breakup. I'm glad that you are able to look back happily at this point, though. Sometimes I am able to do that also, but at times it does get hard. Thanks again, though.

 

[Zanessa]

My mom is only accepting my sexuality because she has to deal with it, not because she wants to. And she keeps calling herself a good mother and tried to guilt me into making it so it was about how she felt or whatever. Like she kept saying, "I've sacrificed a lot to be a good mother" okay mom but right now you're being a crappy one and you need to fix that crap right now jesus

Coming out was the worst thing I could do and this whole thing has given me a depression relapse.

 

[unintentional]

ugh. My mom and grandma had a conversation on my sexuality.

Like, chill. I'd tell you the truth but just saying I have no time for anyone but me is real enough.

 

[cannedcommunism]

I'm still sort of figuring out. At this point I'm pretty sure I'm Bi.

 

[Alyssa]

I'm pansexual and genderfluid (female/agender).

I've been out for a few years about my sexuality, but I avoid discussing it IRL due to an extremely bad experience coming out to some family members and mostly everyone at school (I dropped out for an entire semester if that gives you an idea of how bad it got).

I've struggled with gender identity for a while, but figuring out my identity has been a recent thing and I have no plans of discussing it IRL friends/family.

 

[cannedcommunism]

I'm pansexual and genderfluid (female/agender).

I've been out for a few years about my sexuality, but I avoid discussing it IRL due to an extremely bad experience coming out to some family members and mostly everyone at school (I dropped out for an entire semester if that gives you an idea of how bad it got).

I've struggled with gender identity for a while, but figuring out my identity has been a recent thing and I have no plans of discussing it IRL friends/family.

Well, I hope things get better for you. As long as you go with your gut, you'll be just fine.

 

[Misuzurin]

Surprisingly a lot of non binaries or perphas confused individuals on this site. Makes a tranny feel like a minority. Yes I am referring to myself.

Anyway, coming out is hard for almost everyone. My hair is getting really long, losing all my muscle, breasts budding, skin softening and I still haven't told my parents I am transgender. Probably will have to before I get my orchiectomy. Fun.

 

[cannedcommunism]

Surprisingly a lot of non binaries or perphas confused individuals on this site. Makes a tranny feel like a minority. Yes I am referring to myself.

Anyway, coming out is hard for almost everyone. My hair is getting really long, losing all my muscle, breasts budding, skin softening and I still haven't told my parents I am transgender. Probably will have to before I get my orchiectomy. Fun.

I know, the only time I've ever mentioned being bi was to my best friend and on here. Both were kind of "I might be" and nobody really read the post I made here. I don't think it will be too much of a surprise though, but just to be safe, I haven't told anybody else IRL yet.

Also I hope things go well for you

 

[radical6]

i say im gay 24/7 and i use the word gay to describe evrything about me cuz Humor and people are still shocked at school that im gay as **** for girls . incredibl

 

[radical6]

Rip Leelah. She was a trans girl who recently committed suicide. She left a long suicide note basically explaining why she was doing this, and the source of it was her parents who forced her to take conversion therapy. Her last message was her parents was a simple **** you, and her parents have the nerve to misgender her in death. Hell, her mom even got her age wrong. I'm honestly disgusted, her school had ignored her identity and blatantly misgendered her. There's proof it was a suicide but everyone is calling it "she was walking and got hit by a train." yeah ****ing right. I'm so sorry girl, rest in power.

 

[Zanessa]

Rest in peace Leelah <3

I'm so angry.. like that mother is literal trash and I am not sorry about saying that.

 

[BATOCTO]

it's sad since Leelah Alcorn legitimately wanted to be happy but sadly her peers at school and her over religious parents abused her. also it pisses me off that her parents and the media are misgendering her even after death like how low can you go.

 

[Aryxia]

Parents that choose to deny their children reasonable happiness are absolutely vile and the fact that her mother refuses to even recognize that her daughter's death was a suicide is beyond me. It's just... she's your daughter. Even if you didn't agree with what she felt and what she wanted, the least you could do is treat her like a human and acknowledge her feelings as real, genuine emotion.

RIP Leelah. Hopefully there will be a better tomorrow.

 

[sylveons]

i have no idea what to say... leelah's parents were goddamn monsters. telling her she's "just going through a phase", neglecting her, putting her thru conversion therapy, refusing to let her transition, and even after she committed suicide they STILL continued to misgender her. hell, they even had the dignity to blatantly LIE about her death when she even left a suicide note on her blog, free for everyone to see. i'm so angry and i'm so sad.

rest in power, Leelah. you were a true Queen.

 

[rosetti]

♡♡♡​

 

[unintentional]

Rip Leelah. She was a trans girl who recently committed suicide. She left a long suicide note basically explaining why she was doing this, and the source of it was her parents who forced her to take conversion therapy. Her last message was her parents was a simple **** you, and her parents have the nerve to misgender her in death. Hell, her mom even got her age wrong. I'm honestly disgusted, her school had ignored her identity and blatantly misgendered her. There's proof it was a suicide but everyone is calling it "she was walking and got hit by a train." yeah ****ing right. I'm so sorry girl, rest in power.

I just read the article and bawled. People make me sick and I just want to hug everyone who needs it v~v

 

[radical6]

people are calling out leelah (after U know she's DEAD) for being anti otherkin. oh my god

 

[TheCreeperHugz]

Just read an article about Leelah, and personally I think it's disgusting that she and so many others are driven as far as suicide over things like this. Leelah's parents in particular have really went too far. Who continues to misgender their child even after she's just committed suicide over the fact that she's being misgendered?
I really hope society as a whole learns something from all of this, as this really needs to stop. Why can't people be a little more accepting of others?

Rest in power, Leelah. <3

 

[Bulbadragon]

I'm so upset over this. Her parents won't even accept her in death. Actually, they won't even accept that she killed herself over their disgusting actions. They're calling it an accident. I hope that she's made a change now, like she wanted, and life will change for the better for trans people.

Rest in power.

 

[Misuzurin]

I'm not sure how I feel about trans teens killing themselves. Life is hard, especially for us transwomen. But if you are trans and reading this, you have to stay strong. I wasn't able to transition until this year and I just turned 21 in November. I was abused and belittled by my baptist raised step-father my entire freshman and sophomore years until I was kicked out of the house. Why those two years? Because he was finally convinced I was a ******. I refuse to talk to mom, to this day, since she wouldn't stand up for me. My friends didn't care about me in a few months either after I moved away. I locked away all that pain and tried to be the boy I was supposed to be for the next 5 years. It's the worst to feel completely unwanted due to something you can't control. I guess what I am trying to say is that once you get older and especially once you become financially independent, you can live the life you want. Things do get better. It may seem impossibly tough especially as a teen, but please, please don't kill yourself.

Kind a crappy way to spend my new year crying over a news story...