LGBTQA - Discussion and support.

[oath2order]

i don't know if i'm asexual or just super demisexual and its literally killing me
i'm in middle school, so obviously everyone is talking about their crushes and I just feel awkward.

I feel like this is an unpopular sentiment but

You're in middle school. Don't worry about labelling yourself.

 

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i don't know if i'm asexual or just super demisexual and its literally killing me
i'm in middle school, so obviously everyone is talking about their crushes and I just feel awkward.

When most people are your age they don't even know what those words mean, let alone try and label themselves. Just stop worrying and be who you are and like who you like

 

[KarlaKGB]

i don't know if i'm asexual or just super demisexual and its literally killing me
i'm in middle school, so obviously everyone is talking about their crushes and I just feel awkward.

just do ur own thing, im sure there r bigger problems u will face in the coming years than deciding wat invisible label to wear

 

[oath2order]

I am glad that it wan't an unpopular sentiment

 

[MayorBacon]

I agree with that notion. You're a bit too young to understand any of that. Man, I'm 19 and still trying to figure myself out ;P

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Aside from that, people in general don't really understand how 'complex' sexuality is. There are a lot of gray areas for many individuals

 

[KarlaKGB]

I agree with that notion. You're a bit too young to understand any of that. Man, I'm 19 and still trying to figure myself out ;P

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Aside from that, people in general don't really understand how 'complex' sexuality is. There are a lot of gray areas for many individuals

ppl do understand how complex sexuality is. the problem is when ppl try to put the complexities into words and turn them into labels.

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i wil elaborate

i like my tea in a certain way. i like to sit in a certain way. i like the way the wind blows a certain way. when i read a book i turn the pages in a certain way. nobody actually cares about any of these details, so i dont feel the need to tell them about it nor create a fancy term to describe how i turn a page. i just do it and get on with it.

 

[MayorBacon]

ppl do understand how complex sexuality is. the problem is when ppl try to put the complexities into words and turn them into labels.

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i wil elaborate

i like my tea in a certain way. i like to sit in a certain way. i like the way the wind blows a certain way. when i read a book i turn the pages in a certain way. nobody actually cares about any of these details, so i dont feel the need to tell them about it nor create a fancy term to describe how i turn a page. i just do it and get on with it.

Right on, but because they don't read those details and 'fancy labels' to actually understand and get it. We still have those traditional gender roles as if it's something biological, and people still running around thinking bisexuals don't exist, and other nonsense.

 

[radical6]

Labels help in some ways I suppose. Yes people are still growing, me included, but I can pretty safely say I know my sexuality and gender if I've been diagnosed with gender dysphoria already. Sexuality I'm more whatever in because I don't tend to worry much. But anyway, sexuality is fluid. If you feel if you're asexual later in your life, that's fine. Nothing is set in concrete right now, so don't worry. But that doesn't mean it isn't valid either. Like others said, don't worry about it. You're free to think you're demisexual/asexual at this time, it doesn't really matter. Maybe 20 years from now it will change, don't sweat about it.

 

[BlooBelle]

Thanks, you guys. Your advice really helped, I've been feeling pressured to choose lately. <3

 

[KarlaKGB]

Thanks, you guys. Your advice really helped, I've been feeling pressured to choose lately. <3

why do u have to choose? u dont need to lock in watever sexual identity u have and stick to it for the next 20 years. just carry on with ur life and do watever the hell feels good to u

 

[Zanessa]

My family just won't understand me being pansexual. They just think I'm confused.

 

[MayorBacon]

I have to agree with that. This whole notion of choosing right or left is so freaking overrated and useless. Just go with the flow of your feelings, that's all that really matters anyway.

 

[Paramore]

I honestly would never come out to anyone in my life.

 

[CR33P]

nickelodeon supports lgbt #korrasami o_o

 

[GameLaxer]

nickelodeon supports lgbt #korrasami o_o

Yay!!! I heard that the show was pulled from TV though?

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So, I had my first girlfriend and first love for about a year. We broke up this past June. I tried dating another girl, but it didn't work out for other reasons. A lot of the time I was dating that other girl, though, I was thinking about my ex. I really miss the chemistry we had and how I could just be myself right from the beginning. I just keep wondering if she misses me at all. I don't think it would be a good idea for us to get back together, but I still really care about her, and that worries me. I don't want to act impulsively and just get back together...I don't know. It could be because I'm single now that I'm thinking about her, but she was a really good friend, too. I just miss her company, and I resent that my mother, who is homophobic but doesn't believe she is, created a rift between my ex and me. I just don't know how to get over my first love. Does that ever happen?

 

[Halcyon]

my parents don't wanna use gender neutral terms/pronouns towards me and i'm scared as heck to tell the rest of my family :-(
being in the closet sucks god...

 

[brutalitea]

I'm in the B category ^_^

There is absolutely no way I would ever come out to anyone in my family. They're all homophobic.

 

[Zanessa]

Just came out to my family.
Dad thought I made it (pansexuality) up, mom kept shaking her head, aunts were like "uh..." and my sister left the table before I said anything else.

 

[Tao]

So, I had my first girlfriend and first love for about a year. We broke up this past June. I tried dating another girl, but it didn't work out for other reasons. A lot of the time I was dating that other girl, though, I was thinking about my ex. I really miss the chemistry we had and how I could just be myself right from the beginning. I just keep wondering if she misses me at all. I don't think it would be a good idea for us to get back together, but I still really care about her, and that worries me. I don't want to act impulsively and just get back together...I don't know. It could be because I'm single now that I'm thinking about her, but she was a really good friend, too. I just miss her company, and I resent that my mother, who is homophobic but doesn't believe she is, created a rift between my ex and me. I just don't know how to get over my first love. Does that ever happen?

I was with my last ex for over 6 years and she was very much my best friend as well as my partner.

It's been somewhat over a year now since we broke up and I do still think about her and miss the friendship, chemistry, etc. etc. as well as often wondering "does she still think about me?". To be honest, wondering whether they still think of you is probably the hardest part. We shared a lot of interests so a lot of things 'jog my memory', as well as certain things that I see/hear/do occasionally that just makes me think she would have liked.

I would never get back with her, though that's due to the specific circumstances as I simply couldn't trust her again + I burned that bridge to make sure I never do so and we have had no contact since. Like you though, I still care for her and if I happened to see her around and she was 'in trouble, or hear she was 'having a bad time' I would likely still go out of my way to help.

I can't say how to get over your 'first love' since despite the amount of other girls I've been with, she was the first and to an extent I'm still in the process of it (6/7 years is a lot to get over). It gets easier with time though, you find ways to fill the voids and it gets easier. Having those memories is nice because they still make me happy at the same time.

To be honest, I've gotten to the point now where it doesn't really make me sad anymore, they're just happy memories of something that 'used to be' like a lot of other things in the past that I can look back at and smile.

'Getting over it' (like other things) isn't the same process for everybody though with everybody doing it in their own way, and it's never guaranteed how long it's going to take somebody to do so.

 

[Saylor]

Just came out to my family.
Dad thought I made it (pansexuality) up, mom kept shaking her head, aunts were like "uh..." and my sister left the table before I said anything else.

I'm sorry it didn't go very well.

I was about to come out to my family today as well but I couldn't do it. I'm kinda frustrated about it cause it seemed like the perfect opportunity and I missed my chance. I just wanna get it out and over with.